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purplecorkheart · Today 10:27

I was at a wedding where I was the plus one of a workmate of the Bride. Bride arrived at the church. No sign of the groom, his parents or his best man. Eventually groom arrived so drunk he had to be held up by parents and Best Man at the alter. Bride walked up the aisle. All parties were called into a side room. Priest refused to do the marriage, he said the groom was so drunk he could not make meaningful vows or sign the register. You can imagine how that went down with the Bride's family.

Other wedding was a neighbors daughter. Our table was seated very near the head table and we noticed that the Bride was missing. We assumed that she had gone to the Bathroom. As our table was on the dance floor they asked us to move while they set up the dance floor. A few of us decided that we would go for a bit of air in the beautiful hotel grounds - the father of the Bride joined us. Walked out and followed the path into the garden where we were greeted by the Bride having sex with the wedding photographer. That marriage did not last and she is on her 4th marriage. Oddly I did not got to the following three.

MajorProcrastination · Today 10:28

TheOnlyWayIsIlford · Yesterday 20:59

At a Reception in a marquee (well, big gazebo) in a back garden in Ilford a neighbour was invited. He started chatting people up and inviting them to his house. Eventually about 4 women were in his house two doors down having group sex. One of them came back over the garden fence and urged me to join them (I didn't). They were all climbing through the gardens all afternoon.

One of them had an autistic son who was distressed because he couldn't find his Mum and badly bashed another kid on the head. Everyone was saying 'where's his Mum?' and I had to explain she was away having sex with the guy from 2 doors down, Then she came back and the mother of injured child attacked her.

This is the stuff we came here for.

VictoriaEra · Today 10:33

PyongyangKipperbang · Today 00:57

I dont understand why people do this.

Had a similar issue with my own wedding (me) and my cousins wedding (her groom), although nowhere near as dramatic. One party clearly doesnt want to get married and others force/talk them into it, and inevitably the marriage doesnt last long!

In my case, I had a baby at 17 and my mother was "shamed" by that (this was 1990 not 1950!) and when my boyfriend of 6 months who was jealous and possessive and controlling, wanted to get married my mother decided that this would make me "respectable". I dont consider it my first marriage as I basically had no choice, I didnt do it, it was done to me. We lasted 2 and a half years from first date to divorce......what a surprise! My sister spent the whole night before talking me into it (she was 22, now at 50+ she says that she regrets that).

If someone is running away the worst thing you can do is talk them into marrying someone they dont want to marry! If only for the sake of the poor sod they will be marrying. Short term its awful but long term its better for everyone.

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It happened to me. I didn’t literally run but I did tell everyone I didn’t want to go through with it. Everyone piled on to talk me out of cancelling. I blame myself as I allowed that to happen. Was so unhappy inside during the day. Left after three years and lots of antidepressants.

DeftGoldHedgehog · Today 10:34

KarcherK5 · Yesterday 20:05

I was once accidentally the scandalous guest.

In my early twenties I went to my first wedding and wore a 50s style black dress covered in little pictures of red cherries with green leaves. Wore it with red accessories and thought I looked very cool and retro.

Found out on the day that the bride’s family was very traditional, and strongly believed that wearing black to a wedding meant that you were mourning it, wearing red meant you’d previously slept with the groom, and wearing green meant that you were envious of the wedding.

Add to that the fact that I wore pictures of cherries (and cherry earrings) and they concluded that I’d lost my virginity to the groom, wished I was marrying him, and had chosen to publicly announce these facts through my outfit.

I have been very careful with wedding guest outfits since then!

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People like that love a good moan. You probably made their year.

I've worn a lot of black and white to weddings, a monochrome Jane Norman polka dot dress was my default for weddings when I was 25 and a size 6/8.

feellikeanalien · Today 10:40

Bunnyofhope · Yesterday 19:13

We had two people turn up to the sit down reception who had not been invited, nor catered for nor on the seating plan. They shoved themselves onto a table and ate and drank plenty. Bless them :(
I also heard my cousin ask a member of the wait staff if he 'wanted to come outside and say that mate '

You didn't get married in the 80s in Hertfordshre by any chance?

We had this when we went to a uni friend's wedding. A group of us were invited to the ceremony and evening reception but not the sit down meal.

One of the group decided that wasn't on and she and her boyfriend crashed the sit down reception. She had already been told off for lighting up a cigarette in church.

Toooldforlonghair · Today 10:46

I went to a wedding of a distant cousin that ended in a massive fist fight, not sure of the ins and outs (I was a teenager at the time) but my last view of the groom was with broken glasses and blood streaming down his face!

Noodge · Today 10:47

MysteryParcel · Today 07:44

I was at a wedding where one of the guests decided to do a few lines of coke right before dinner could start (to suppress her appetite apparently) and ended up collapsing right in front of the open buffet; supposedly the coke was laced with something which caused her to have a seizure.

Out of propriety, we were all asked to leave the hall while she received first aid and they waited for the ambulance to arrive but by the time the paramedics got there, stabilised her and got her into the ambulance over an hour had already passed. Then because she had released 3 different types of bodily fluids all over the place, the venue had to do a proper deep clean so it was nearly 2 hours before the hall could be reopened and by that time everyone had left / wandered off into the city centre in search of food as we were all really hungry (word had got back that the buffet was a write off) so that was basically the end of the wedding reception. As the buffet had just been put out when she collapsed right in front of it, the food had to be thrown away due to the risk of contamination from airborne particles so not only did the bride and groom lose all that food / money and miss out on their reception, but they also lost money on a DJ who never got to play, favours that never got given out, a photobooth that went unused and they also had to pay out to meet the minimum payment for the bar. Then the cherry on top of the non cut wedding cake was that they also got given a hefty clean up fee from the venue as well!

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Oh Lord this is awful! I feel so sorry for them! What happened afterwards?

mrlistersgelfbride · Today 10:58

I wasn’t a guest but I used work in a function room that held wedding receptions. I’m from a northern town and it wasn’t the most upmarket of places.

At one reception we had young kids rapping obscenities on the karaoke and literally trying to climb on the bar to buy/grab red bull while there parents got drunk and started shouting at each other. Was a sight to behold.

Bunnyofhope · Today 11:08

feellikeanalien · Today 10:40

You didn't get married in the 80s in Hertfordshre by any chance?

We had this when we went to a uni friend's wedding. A group of us were invited to the ceremony and evening reception but not the sit down meal.

One of the group decided that wasn't on and she and her boyfriend crashed the sit down reception. She had already been told off for lighting up a cigarette in church.

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No that wasn't us. Seems there are more of these greedy chancers around than you would hope!

BlueberryStar · Today 11:18

I went to an wedding which was nice on the day but the father of the bride ended up hiring an private investigator as the bride grew suspicious of her husband. It turned out the groom was already married with kids.

Clemdfandango · Today 11:25

A member of the bridal party who did not know anyone on the groom's side had a glass of wine thrown over her for no apparent reason.

Well, it turns out that earlier in the evening she'd snogged a man who turned out to be the father of the groom and the woman who threw the wine was his wife!

A big fight ensued with people stepping in to break it up.

We didn't discover the full story until days later.

Fifthtimelucky · Today 11:38

BowlingSunflowers · Today 08:14

I am in my fifties and have always known this so this isn't something new. It is considered a bold all over colour and not really suitable for a wedding according to Debrett's. They have been publishing their guide to etiquette and listing nobility and gentry in the UK since 1769.

My PIL had it in their house and it was a very interesting read and I could see where a lot of their opinions had come from when it came to our wedding choices.

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My copy of Debrett’s Etiquette and Modern Manners says absolutely nothing about colours for wedding guests.

It makes three comments under the heading “Women guests”:

dresses and hats for summer weddings are often more elaborate than at other times of the year as the season lends itself to soft, light, materials and exotic colours;

fur coats or similar warm garments are worn in the winter over dresses or coats and skirts;

hats are invariably worn at weddings together with jewellery, gloves and other smart accessories.

That’s from the 1982 edition and obviously sounds very dated, because of the reference to fur coats and gloves. But it’s interesting that there is no reference at all to colour, even black and white.

Cherryio · Today 11:48

thisisnotmybeautifulhouse73 · Today 08:13

At least two, I didn’t know this either!

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It’s not about it being red it’s about

she wore her bloody wedding outfit

BowlingSunflowers · Today 11:54

@Fifthtimelucky there is a Debrett's Wedding Handbook. I thought it came from the original Debrett's. It was a long time ago and I only looked at it once as Dh and I were trying to understand his parents rigidity in their belief of what a wedding should be.

From a Guardian article featuring the book "It is best to avoid white or cream and black,” the Handbook states. “Overly bright colours and patterns should be avoided as they may dominate photographs, and care should be taken not to overshadow the bride. It is not necessary for all the components of an outfit to match.”

I would say red falls into the overly bright. But surely everyone knows you don't wear white or black and I knew about red associated with sexual relations with the groom from my childhood when I was attending a lot of weddings of my older cousins. We are from a very large family so there were a lot of weddings and someone wore red and caused uproar.

GreenCaterpillarOnALeaf · Today 11:55

foxfoxbox · Today 07:56

What makes a wedding chavvy?

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In our case I would say the abundance of chavs there and the music. There was a lot of N dubs played which is funny looking back. Also I literally got married in my big hoops which looking back is a bit funny. I don’t mean it in a negative way really most people would’ve looked at our wedding and said it was chavy.

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greenbean80 · Today 12:05

Well maybe mine wasn’t as scandalous as some of these… I mean my community is known to go a bit wild at weddings but it’s usually too much whiskey and the odd very drunk Uncle … but nothing like this! I feel like people
do some crazy things!

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Vroomfondleswaistcoat · Today 12:12

ohyesiseethatnow · Today 10:24

Omg!

I’m amazed that a man managed to get 4 women to do this.

was he incredibly handsome / charming?

I just can’t envision women ever doing that.

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I would suspect that very much alcohol might have played into their decisions.

Justttheone · Today 12:18

Father of the bride shagged a close friend of the bride in the bushes outside whilst the mother of the bridge wandered around inside looking for him.

Meem321 · Today 12:23

My SIL changed into a long white evening dress for my evening reception. Bizarre. Silly cow.

Noodge · Today 12:29

This was only a 'scandal' of sorts for me personally! But last year I began dating a woman who had nagged me for months to date her, I was happily single but I did like her and she seemed very keen, we talked a lot (we were part of a wider friendship group) and I talked myself into it, telling myself I was being silly, perhaps she was right and we could work up to something very good.

One of the first conversations we ever had, she'd mentioned that her little sister was to be married soon, she was the MOH and she didn't have anyone to take as a plus one. I didn't think much of it at the time but said I hoped she found one and she asked (jokingly so I thought) if I would be it. I barely knew her at the time. Anyway after we started dating naturally I agreed to be.

Turns out, that's literally ALL she wanted me for. The rest was all lies. I found out from the grapevine that she has form for this and as I am 'easy on the eye' (apparently) and good company she thought I'd be ideal. She turned cold on me days following the wedding, started changing her attitude toward me, picking me up on very small things and making them into arguments then dumped me around 10 days later...
Madness. And made me much more wary of who I believe/when to listen to my instincts!

ETA(I am a gay woman)!

LatteLady · Today 12:29

A very old friend was the plus one for the bride's mother on Don't tell the Bride. The groom had a colourful past and was handy with his fists... just as the cameras stopped rolling at the reception, it all kicked off, with the groom and his friends throwing punches... at which point the venue asked them to leave.

Katnissmauve · Today 12:32

Clemdfandango · Today 11:25

A member of the bridal party who did not know anyone on the groom's side had a glass of wine thrown over her for no apparent reason.

Well, it turns out that earlier in the evening she'd snogged a man who turned out to be the father of the groom and the woman who threw the wine was his wife!

A big fight ensued with people stepping in to break it up.

We didn't discover the full story until days later.

Red or white wine?! 🤣

godmum56 · Today 12:35

DeftGoldHedgehog · Today 10:34

People like that love a good moan. You probably made their year.

I've worn a lot of black and white to weddings, a monochrome Jane Norman polka dot dress was my default for weddings when I was 25 and a size 6/8.

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I am not sure if its still a thing but having the whole wedding party dressed in black was thought quite fashionable for a while....it came over from the USA

godmum56 · Today 12:39

EvieBB · Today 09:26

Yeah, a supposedly good friend of mine (since high school) wore something similar (not off the shoulder but cream lace). I was really pissed off with her but to this day she doesn't know I was upset....maybe one day I should tell her?

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ok it was in 1974 but unless I looked at the photos, I would absolutely not be able to remember (or care) what guests wore.

Clemdfandango · Today 12:48

Katnissmauve · Today 12:32

Red or white wine?! 🤣

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I actually think it was red! 🤣🤣🤣