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To ask your ultimate wedding guest scandal?

242 replies

greenbean80 · 05/08/2026 19:00

Well, my story is pretty scandalous. I’m from Indian heritage … a cousin I had not seen for years invited by my family to my wedding - she wore her bloody wedding outfit her glam reception - red outfit - all her freaking jewellery I mean Wtaf and I’m still not over it and it’s been 17 years

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CoffeeCantata · Yesterday 18:33

foxfoxbox · Yesterday 07:56

What makes a wedding chavvy?

Drunken wedding party and guests
Stomach- turningly crude speeches
Loud behaviour
Slanging matches
Actual fights
Gross behaviour at the buffet
Sex and drugs in the lavvies
Damage to venue
Police being called

HTH 🤣

Purplebunnie · Yesterday 19:01

inickedthisname · Yesterday 17:48

Was it definitely a “I’m in mourning” statement? Because a friend of mine says she always wears black to weddings as it suits her and it’s not intended to offend (although knowing people could take offence makes it a bit insensitive imo). I do know someone whose MIL wore black to their wedding and that definitely seemed to be a comment! 😬

I wore black to my friends wedding because I'd lost weight and could get back into the dress. I'd never heard the "in mourning" statement until this thread.

Can honestly say I was so pleased for her. Her ex was a twit and the man she was marrying is absolutely one of the best, they were and still are so happy.

inickedthisname · Yesterday 19:08

Purplebunnie · Yesterday 19:01

I wore black to my friends wedding because I'd lost weight and could get back into the dress. I'd never heard the "in mourning" statement until this thread.

Can honestly say I was so pleased for her. Her ex was a twit and the man she was marrying is absolutely one of the best, they were and still are so happy.

This is why I asked, as I know some people just like black and especially as a “evening do” wouldn’t look out of place at all, so was wondering if it was made clear to the PP what the SIL’s intentions were. As I said, a friend of mine is much disliked by her MIL who wore black to their wedding with a fully miserable face all day by all accounts, so in her case it was deliberate. But I can imagine someone wearing black just because their nicest dress is black, ifykwim!

sueelleker · Yesterday 19:16

Vroomfondleswaistcoat · Yesterday 08:59

I wore a beautiful green dress to marry the love of my life.

He buggered off less than three years later. I clearly offended the fairies, big time (it used to be said that green was the colour of the Fay and they didn't like it being worn by humans!)

Is it OK for the groom then? My DH married me in a dark green suit, and we were married for 47 years until I lost him.

Vroomfondleswaistcoat · Yesterday 19:17

sueelleker · Yesterday 19:16

Is it OK for the groom then? My DH married me in a dark green suit, and we were married for 47 years until I lost him.

Apparently so, my son married last year in a green suit.

I guess the fay are just sexist buggers.

sueelleker · Yesterday 19:29

bridgetreilly · Yesterday 13:16

They weren’t to know but their parents were! If ever there’s a time to speak out at the just cause or impediment bit, this is it.

Even uf they decided to stay married after they found out, it was very irresponsible to have children.

NotaMumYet9323 · Yesterday 19:57

Groom was marrying the best friend of a girl he was obsessed with for years, slept with her etc, they were together because said girl wasn't really into him so palmed him off to bff.

Even weirder this girl was maid of honour who'd had slept with the groom's best man and half of the grooms friendship group who were in attendance at the wedding. She also has weird attachments to these men even though she has a boyfriend, including my own husband who she still tries to initiate contact with occasionally. We've spent many times laughing at her messages.

At the wedding she was always looking over at us while her poor man sat looking glum. At one point she cornered my husband for a hug and told him how a song always reminds her of him 🤮

Maybe not scandalous but a massive ICK 🤣

EvieBB · Yesterday 20:01

godmum56 · Yesterday 12:39

ok it was in 1974 but unless I looked at the photos, I would absolutely not be able to remember (or care) what guests wore.

It was 15 yrs ago. I also have no idea what any of my guests wore (or care either)..but obviously I'm going to remember what this particular friend wore as it was a mini wedding dress!...so very inappropriate

Purplebunnie · Yesterday 20:27

inickedthisname · Yesterday 19:08

This is why I asked, as I know some people just like black and especially as a “evening do” wouldn’t look out of place at all, so was wondering if it was made clear to the PP what the SIL’s intentions were. As I said, a friend of mine is much disliked by her MIL who wore black to their wedding with a fully miserable face all day by all accounts, so in her case it was deliberate. But I can imagine someone wearing black just because their nicest dress is black, ifykwim!

It was my nicest dress. I still have it and I fully intend to lose enough weight to get back into it but will take note and not wear it to any weddings😂

inickedthisname · Yesterday 21:30

Purplebunnie · Yesterday 20:27

It was my nicest dress. I still have it and I fully intend to lose enough weight to get back into it but will take note and not wear it to any weddings😂

Tbf, I think your new MIL looking miserable all day would be the problem, no matter what she was wearing 😂 if you’re not intending to cause offence, I’m sure that would come across!

Well1mBack · Yesterday 21:53

8misskitty8 · Yesterday 14:35

Friend asked what colour my bridesmaids would be in. She then turned up in the same colour.
First dance, husbands friend was filming it. My friend and her boyfriend once other couples were invited on the dance floor during the song stood right infront of the camera. Friend doing that fake laughter throwing her head back.
You hear DH friend swear at her and move to keep us in shot.
We didn't even get a card from her !

Ah, well she obviously wanted to be asked to be your bridesmaid and was VERY bitter that you hadn't asked her. Weirdo. Some people just have no shame.

A wedding I was at my friend shagged the groom's first cousin in the toilets at the reception, I went in to pee and heard them in the next cubicle and legged it 😂.They are now married with two kids so a happy ending for them!

Also I wasn't at this wedding but I heard from my friend that her best friend was one of 12 bridesmaids at a wedding where the groom's speech was basically just slagging off the bride's entire family, really brutal. The bride then got up and stormed off crying, ran out of the hotel and up the busy city centre street (it was a wedding at a posh central hotel). The 12 bridesmaids (who were in white jumpsuits - bride's choice) ran after the bride who was screaming and crying. I think they managed to catch her, corner her and persuade her to return to the wedding but the atmosphere was totally ruined.

twinklystar23 · Yesterday 22:13

My mum hired an escort to accompany her to my wedding. Total cringefest

Goditsmemargaret · Yesterday 22:24

twinklystar23 · Yesterday 22:13

My mum hired an escort to accompany her to my wedding. Total cringefest

We need way more details

8misskitty8 · Yesterday 22:27

Somerford · Yesterday 17:58

Only one bloke objected to this?!

Only some of the men were in kilts and others said no but she was furious at my friends husband as he was the best man !
Bride was a bit batshit. When she felt there wasn't enough attention on her she pretended to faint and had to be carried around the rest of the evening.
They are now divorced.

8misskitty8 · Yesterday 22:30

At my cousins wedding 2 of my aunts. One blood and one married in, had an argument in the toilets. The married in aunt is an utter cow and had always hated blood aunt. It became physical, hair pulling etc.
I was stuck in a cubicle.

greenbean80 · Yesterday 22:32

twinklystar23 · Yesterday 22:13

My mum hired an escort to accompany her to my wedding. Total cringefest

wtaf More info… is he in the photos?!

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JudgeJ · Yesterday 22:44

greenbean80 · 05/08/2026 22:45

No this wins!! Omg

It would make a good episode of Two Doors Down I think!

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