DH just made me a dinner that he knows I don’t like

[Oystersinmypocket]

Looking for a bit of perspective on this DH has just made me dinner after I came in from work, he does very little cooking so I’m very grateful of that.

He told me he was doing fish cakes and salad, just sat down and started eating and I said are they salmon fish cakes, he said yea, I said to him I don’t like salmon, you know I don’t, we’ve been together 20 years and I just don’t like it.
He said to me well you had it the other week, I didn’t, it was sea bass at a restaurant and he had the same thing!
It just feels like he doesn’t think and all I do is think of the family, I feel exhausted with it and it’s probably colouring my view of the situation but AIBU to feel a bit out out?

I cooked my dh sausages once, knowing he doesn’t like them, but he’d really pissed me off and deserved them. He knew he’d been unreasonable and ate them without complaint 😆

Have you done some thing to get on his nerves that could’ve prompted salmon related passive aggression?

😂😂😂 take the sausage @Nincompoo

I hate my night time warm milk in a glass I like it boiling hot in a mug. (Call me a saddo .. but… ). ….. every. Single. Fucking. Time. He gives it to me lukewarm… in a fucking glass. .. not sure if he is thick, or hates me, or just doesn’t care enough …

😂😂😂 I could have done loads to annoy him but I doubt he would enough effort into thinking of being so spiteful

DH does this sometimes. Not so much cooking things but say we go to someone’s house for dinner and they say “Is lamb OK?” He’ll say yes on my behalf too even though I eat very little meat. Or he’ll buy crisps for us both but in the one flavour I hate.Its just not thinking.

I can just imagine the atmosphere at that table. Made me giggle 😃

Have literally just wet myself at this. I take the sausage far more than I should. 😆

Order yourself something really nice on Deliveroo .

hopefully next time he’ll remember your preferences.

Yes and don’t order him any!

great idea about deliveroo, I don’t need to order for him, he’s full on a double portion of salmon fishcakes!

Hope He chokes on them gets raging indigestion.

Enjoy your dinner :)

I don’t find this funny. Being able to learn about your partner and hold them in mind is fundamental in a relationship.

If a man can’t do this it’s because he views the relationship in terms of what he gets out of it.

Heard a great line today about women thinking if a man stays is because he loves them when all he really wants is to keep the benefits of being in a relationship.

If he thought you'd had them at the restaurant, he maybe thought you liked them now. A lot of us goes through phases about food we like or don't

Sounds like a misunderstanding, he probably doesn't notice much difference in the taste of different fish particularly in a fish cake. Were they homemade fishcakes?

@bathroomphilopsher,this is my fear, maybe it’s the 20 years together but I feel jaded and I think he just likes being looked after and not being single.

I cooked my dh sausages once, knowing he doesn’t like them, but he’d really pissed me off and deserved them. He knew he’d been unreasonable and ate them without complaint 😆

🤣 thanks for the laugh @Nincompoo

Hahaha I've done this many times. He knows there are a few dishes that I find easy to russle up that he doesn't like (e.g.lentils). If he has irritated me or acted like a bit of an idiot over something I tell him we are having xyz. He always eats it without complaining and we always have a laugh about it afterwards

Did you eat them?

I'm of an age that the message doesn't go through unless I reject the offering and make something else.

It's probable that he wanted salmon and knew he would look like a dick if he just cooked for himself. The problem solving might have been too much.

Fish is fish. Eat what he made.

Why does he do little cooking?

Not knowing your partner's food dislikes after 20 YEARS is just pathetic

I get so tired of trying to cater for everyone's fussiness and just cook what I want sometimes. They can eat it or cook themselves. E.g. dd eats roast potatoes but not mash, ds eats mash but not roast. They both eat Spaghetti bol but dh doesn't like it. There's only a handful of stuff that everyone will eat

No it isn’t 🙄. That’s what my 7 year old thinks. Anyone with actual tastebuds knows it’s not true.

Not really relevant but just to say same here. I always joke it's like a logic problem or a maths exam question - 3 children all need to eat at least 1 vegetable. A will eat peas, carrots and broccoli (good boy, mummy's favourite 😉) but B will only eat carrots and C will only eat broccoli. How many vegetables does poor mummy need to cook?

Extra mark question - daddy only eats peas. Should daddy make his own sodding dinner?

OP, pin a notice to the fridge door "Things I don't like"

Do you think your bra could have been a dinner lady in the 70s.

First no it isn't

Second, I doubt he made anything. Sounds like he put ready made stuff in the oven, watch is barely cooking and definitely isn't "making" anything.

Yanbu op I would be pissed off if DH cooked me something he knows I don't like.