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FIL - I can’t bare him and his stupid behaviour and I’m close to exploding

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Sovereigns · 03/08/2026 14:51

I feel like I’m going to snap. I’ve name changed as I’ve spoken to a few people in real life about this and it would be obvious who I am.

My father in law - I’ve never liked him. I don’t know what it is, he has the most annoying face and stupid expressions. He always has to be centre of attention. On our wedding day the person doing the video went over to him and he just stared into it with a stupid grin slowly opening a bottle of wine and it completely ruined the video as it’s so, so annoying. Everyone says so, it’s not just me.

During the summer holidays he’s taken it upon himself to visit every morning to see the kids (unfortunately he only lives a short walk away). He lets himself in through the back door and then just stands there in the kitchen grinning, not saying anything. I’ve started just completely ignoring him until he walks in and speaks like a normal person.

Thing is I can feel myself boiling over with rage. On Friday he came in, stood there not speaking so I ignored him and he suddenly shouted “I’ve Brayed my Bonce!” Baby was asleep, woke up in shock, started crying and I was so annoyed I just snapped and said “Right. Why did you come here then?” Whilst I saw to the baby.

On Saturday DH made a big carrot cake and FIL came in and shouted “where’s my lump?”. DH said we’re not cutting it yet. Later that evening he rang up saying “don’t forget I want a lump”.

Yesterday morning he came around and said “when am I getting my lump?” So I snapped and said “DH will you just cut him some cake please, I’m getting sick of hearing about the fucking thing”. He winds me up more than anyone I have ever met. I’m getting annoyed just writing this post.

This morning he came in - stood in the kitchen grinning with his arm outstretched holding the tub the cake was put in so I snapped “what??? Just put it on the side!! What are you just stood there with it for??”

he put it down and said “right, I assume you’re busy so I’ll leave you to it” and left. Now I’m thinking is it me??

OP posts:
Triskellion75 · Yesterday 18:11

Sovereigns · Yesterday 16:14

No 😂 just dealing with the aftermath of yet another day of hell with PILs

jail is sounding pretty good right now, I’d request no visitors 😂

Get yourself a nice wee cell in segregation, peace on earth. 😆

Likeiloveyou · Yesterday 18:42

Have you not told him to fuck off yet?

SooPanda · Yesterday 23:34

Sovereigns · Yesterday 16:14

No 😂 just dealing with the aftermath of yet another day of hell with PILs

jail is sounding pretty good right now, I’d request no visitors 😂

FIL would turn up anyway! Grinning through the bars of your cell 🤣

EvieBB · Today 08:36

SooPanda · Yesterday 23:34

FIL would turn up anyway! Grinning through the bars of your cell 🤣

😂

ReleaseTheDucksOfWar · Today 08:41

SooPanda · Yesterday 23:34

FIL would turn up anyway! Grinning through the bars of your cell 🤣

That would be the ninth circle of hell. What has the OP ever done to deserve that?!

Bigcat25 · Today 12:50

What have they done this time op? Sorry you're having a bad time!

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