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For not attending a friends wedding

220 replies

OonaghBhuna · 26/06/2008 17:09

An old friend of mine is getting married tomorrow.On Wednesday night I went over to their house with my present for them. Almost as soon as I had got home they phoned to say that they thought the present was awful and could i come back to collect it because they didnt like it at all.
They said ' we dont do ornaments and did you not know that we want vouchers'
So like a mug I went around and felt utterly humiliated and upset.
They were so rude and disrespectful to us that I cant bring myself to go.I am angry aswell as upset. I dont want to celebrate their maariage as I feel our friendship is over, I am shocked that I dont really know them at all......

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MrsMattie · 26/06/2008 17:10

OMG. OM-fucking-G

They aren't friends.

itati · 26/06/2008 17:10

I wouldn't go.

I wouldn't give a present.

I wouldn't talk to them again.

And what were they doing opening the present before the wedding?

TillyScoutsmum · 26/06/2008 17:10

YANBU at all ! Cheeky feckers. I'm

BagelBird · 26/06/2008 17:10

gobsmacked
In your shoes I would not go anywhere near them

aGalChangedHerName · 26/06/2008 17:11

Jeez don't go and fwiw i don't think anyone needs "friends" like that.

and for you.

maidamess · 26/06/2008 17:11

Sounds like there is bride zilla behaviour here. They have probably gone mentally ill due to the stress of the wedding.

If it was a one off and not noraml behaviour for them/her/him then still go to the wedding. Just don't replace the gift!

scanner · 26/06/2008 17:11

Don't go.

littlelapin · 26/06/2008 17:12

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serendippity · 26/06/2008 17:13

Definatly don't go, am gobsmacked by their rudeness!

mixedmama · 26/06/2008 17:13

Awful.. dont go.

IPityTheFool · 26/06/2008 17:14

Hire a ho to stumble down the aisle in on a crack high, point at the groom and shriek "That's the pencil dick wot gave me clap!"

Plant a few others in the congregation to stand up and say "Me too!"

If you must go to the wedding make sure you complain a lot: the venue, the vows, the hymns, the food, the dress.....and make pals with his mother

itati · 26/06/2008 17:14

Can you imagine the steam coming out of her ears when the seating plan is messed up because you don't go?

JacobsPrincess · 26/06/2008 17:14

They are not friends. What cheek! I really can't believe they had the balls to ask you to come and collect it!!
IMO asking for vouchers is cheeky too.
We had several terrible gifts and DH took great delight in smashing/bbq-ing/charity shopping them, but we certainly NEVER told the givers. It was nice to be thought of and sent a gift, even if we didn't like it.
They should be bloody grateful that they were given something at all.
Don't go to the wedding. Don't bother explaining.

BouncingTurtle · 26/06/2008 17:15

Put paraquat in her wedding cake.

I'm assuming this a joke...

JacobsPrincess · 26/06/2008 17:16

Ooh! Do go to the wedding, and do exactly as IPity said!!

minouminou · 26/06/2008 17:17

Good god almighty.
No you are not unreasonable.
Deffo Bridezilla .... they've got so used to being the centre of attention that they've lost all perspective and decency.
Don't go, let them come back down to earth, and hopefully they'll grovel.
If not....fuck them right off.
That's amongst the rudest behaviour i've heard of.

Pinkjenny · 26/06/2008 17:17

You can't be serious? Ungrateful feckers. Do Not Go.

minouminou · 26/06/2008 17:18

Hire the ho (or several) and STILL don't go.

bran · 26/06/2008 17:18

They sound awful. Are they both friends of yours (the bride and the groom)? Perhaps it was the one who isn't your friend who insisted that the present be returned, and your friend agreed so as not to have an argument before the wedding.

Go to the wedding if you think you will have fun, but don't if you will be sitting there fuming all night. If it was me I would be tempted to go and tell everyone there what they did and said, but I would probably take the moral high ground and keep quiet, or at least wait until they are off on honeymoon before telling everyone.

Either way, tell them that you posted the vouchers while they were away on honeymoon. Be surprised and saddened that they didn't turn up.

Pinkjenny · 26/06/2008 17:19

To not only be that ungrateful, but to actually ask you to COLLECT them? I'm in shock .

Heffagooday · 26/06/2008 17:19

That's appalling! YA definitely NBU.

herbietea · 26/06/2008 17:19

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mixedmama · 26/06/2008 17:21

I would certainly not get them anything. Are you good friends and could you let them know how you feel?

motherinferior · 26/06/2008 17:21

Send the present back, with a note explaining you were in shock when they asked you to collect it; that this is the present you put considerable thought into choosing for them; and sorry, you've lost the receipt so they can't take it back.

I would be tempted to add you feel you should admit you shagged the groom once, too.

motherinferior · 26/06/2008 17:22

Oh and don't pay quite enough postage on the parcel, obviously.

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