Rude text? Or a valid ‘joke’

[Melmel2]

My boyfriend stayed over last night, I was clear with him I had a very early WFH meeting and would need him to be gone by 9. He was, but text me mid morning to say ‘bit gutted I had to leave, I was expecting cornflakes and a quick wank’

I told him I was clear I started work at 9 and needed the flat clear so no interruptions.

He replied saying ‘haha obviously joking, it’s a famous film line’. I’ve never heard of it and he hasn’t replied to tell me which one it’s from.

Would anyone else find that rude?

Oh yes, one must wait an hour after cornflakes before having a wank.

Honestly, anyone who can’t cope with a little crude joke is ridiculous. All the women saying it’s a red flag or reading more into it needs to relax. If it’s not your kind of humour, fine, but that’s it surely. Is there any need to cry about it?

It’s just a joke! Come on!

Who's crying ?!

You may not find the joke funny but you don’t have to take if literally, i I think it’s a bit much to interpret it as him only being interested in sex from OP. The only issue here is that OP and her boyfriend don’t share the same sense of humour.

Slightly hypocritical for you to say you find it annoying that people call others who don't share the same sense of humour 'dour', when you immediately go on to call his sense of humour 'juvenile', is it not?

I personally don't find things like toilet humour funny at all (I know pp's have likened OPs example to toilet humour) but given this is a quote from a film, I think I might have found it slightly amusing if I had understood the reference.

Quote or no quote, it’s obviously a joke. Lighten up.

If it's "so obvious" why so many conflicting opinions ?

Because lots of mumsnetters take everything literally and seriously. Especially on AIBU.

Why would someone say they thought they’d get cornflakes and a wank?! Cornflakes?!

He was being silly, he’s let her know that. OP needs to chill.

Oh wow @Melmel2 can you hear yourself? Pick me is so anti woman. Wow.

Hilarious! Big fan of the Peep Show here. This thread is quite alarming to me, people devoid of humour depress me greatly.

You need to split up with him immediately. You clearly have zero sense of humour and I feel sorry for him. Kicking him out as well just because you have a teams meeting. You sound insufferable

Not to mention the "very early" teams meeting.
9am 😂

It's not necessarily the start time for work; the OP might have meant an 'early' meeting in the sense that it'd likely be the first meeting/formal 'thing' involving other colleagues of the day, and that she needed to get up and showered/dressed, and get things together in preparation for the meeting.

You sound like you’d be great fun at a party.

I've been to plenty of marvellous parties (to coin a phrase) where this sort of 'humour' wasn't needed for all involved to have a hilarious and excellent time.

Oh god the amount of people with a stick up their arse these days! God it was a joke..so many uptight women on here. Leave him if you find him uncouthed. Poor sod

He was probably being playful for him.

But you had certainly laid down your stipulations.

This isn’t my sense of humour & I haven’t seen football factory so wouldn’t have known. Once he told me it was a film line I would have googled it and laughed it off.

he’s your boyfriend yet i would imagine I’d only make a post about this & how to deal with it if it was something said by a man I was not romantically involved with. He just sounds funny imho, but your humour may be mismatched. Maybe inappropriate very early on in relationship but I’d say if he’s stayed over at yours that horse has already bolted

Yes because learning to laugh about things makes your life better

Yeurgh! Quote or not, I have never had a relationship with anyone who'd write this in a text. I understand some might find it funny, I'd tell him get on with it himself and then find someone slightly less crude 👍

It’s funny. You’re uptight or don’t like him enough and easily have the ick