AIBU to be upset by my partner talking about craving younger women?

[Frenchlady14]

My DP and I have been together for six years - we met on a dating site although we knew each other because we live in the same area and have some same friends. He is a year older than me and we are in our sixties = we don't live together but see each other at least once during the week and every weekend. I think I look ok for my age and we make a nice couple. Anyway he has made some comments in the past about me being lucky he doesn't have a mid-life crisis and 'chase younger women' and I said if that is what he wants to do - then go for it! These kind of remarks do annoy me a bit but generally he's a great boyfriend.

But yesterday evening - kind of out of nowhere when we were having a quick drink - he looked at me and said that he could really understand how men of his age can crave a younger women. I got really upset and told him to go home - he thinks I'm overreacting - am I?

Your ex now yeah ?

You are not being unreasonable....if he keeps yearning for a younger woman then off he trots!! You deserve someone who respects you

He's a disgusting creep. Bin him off, if you haven't already.

No you're not overreacting. Sorry.

Gross.
remind him that younger women aren’t craving 60 year old men

He’s a dirty creep. At least you know where you stand now.
Set him free to pursue the younger women - who will hopefully laugh in his creepy face.

Block. Delete.

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Off he fucks

No you're not overreacting at all. He sounds disgusting and I would 100% end the relationship.

No of course you're not overreacting. Is he just looking for a rise? Either way, I'd suggest he leaves you alone, goes after those younger women...and good luck with that!

That's unpleasant and disrespectful. Tell him he's welcome to get on with finding himself a younger woman! How will he manage the queues of eager applicants? 🙄 You aren't going to sit around feeling like he's making do with you.

Why stay in a relationship with a man who is deliberately trying to destroy your self esteem OP?
Absolutely nasty behaviour. He doesn't deserve you. Or any woman tbh.

Eewww, weren't you instantly repulsed by him?

Also, in situations like this I think the gloves come off so I would have immediately reminded him that I'd prefer a young stallion with zero refractory period and the stamina of the energizer bunny, but sadly we can't all get what we wish for.

The cheek of him!

He is usually pretty insecure and the one that sends messages every morning and evening and seems to be really mad about me. Also I have been helping him with lots of things (medical etc as we don't live in the uk and I am better at the language). He also tells me I'm beautiful every time he sees me, co I just don't understand how he could just make this remark and think it's ok? I can't actually get any younger and I think it is so creepy = when I got upset he said that he didn't actually mean himself - but men that want trophy wives? Ugh

Unless he has a massive wallet or is a total silver fox how does plan to attract a younger woman. He clearly has a very unattractive personality so that’s not going to cut it.
Please throw him back.

What does he want your response to be to that ?

Don't waste anymore time with him. He is totally disrespecting you.

Of course you're not overreacting. Hes being a creepy fucker as well as hugely disrespectful.
Tell him none of these younger women he's craving will be interested in dating their grandad and then dump the fucker.

I did actually ask how he would feel if I said the same thing to him? He said that it wouldn't bother him - but for me it was the wording as well - I mean 'crave' really? Ugh it's so upsetting that I might not be able to get past this.

OP, the fact that he has said this to you is either completely disrespectful or suggests some lack of self awareness. Does he put his foot in it generally? I would pull back from this relationship and reassess. Telling anyone you are in a relationship with that you would prefer to be with someone else is a bit self destructive, isn't it? It won't ever make the other person feel good. You should be with someone who only has eyes for you.

He obviously has an inflated view of himself and is a bit deluded - 'midlife crisis" in his sixties??

You are not overreacting. Good for you for sending him home. No need to be upset. He’s a creep and you are worth so much more. Let’s see how many younger women will be attracted to such a charming prince among men. Or any women! No wonder he’s single with his creepy behaviour.

He's up to something behind your back OP. Could be a porn addiction, a crush on a younger colleague, an emotional affair, I'm not sure what.. but something. Comments like that don't just come out of nowhere.

Do you still want to share your life with someone who thinks like this and says it out loud?

Bigtrapeze - yes he can be a bit clumsy and very blokeish and I generally let some stuff slide but this one really was a slap in the face 🙁

This definitely this. And I'm 'only 42'