AIBU to keep complaining about noisy neighbours using their garden constantly?

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I live in what I used to find a peaceful and pleasant row of period terraces on one of the nicer streets in my area. Last year my neighbours moved as they needed more space for their kids and a new family moved in. They:

• Eat outside and play music every dinner time and most of the evening. Often all day on the weekend. It’s very beat heavy dance music.
• Leave their big bifolds open all the time and I can hear everything that’s said in their kitchen if my own kitchen window is open/im in the garden.
• Have big, loud parties ranging from a handful of people over to up to maybe 30 people regularly. Since start of June they’ve had people round and been loud into the evening every weekend except one.
• The parties go on to around midnight and often involves playing ball games etc in the garden, and lots of loud shrieking.
• Play football a lot in their garden and kick balls into ours. The kids come over and get it if we aren’t there to pass it back.
• Are outside and talk really loudly to eachother - probably to hear themselves over the crappy music.

The pluses are they are perfectly nice to speak to, their kids are polite and friendly.

I’ve asked them to turn the volume down three times. When they’ve had people over they’ve just ignored me, and said reasonably politely that it’s not late (this was around 8pm but the thumping music started at about 2pm on Saturday). They turned it down when I complained at 9am on a Sunday.

I feel really angry and helpless at the same time. I hate it. It’s making me so sad that they are ruining a place that I’ve loved living. We barely eat outside anymore and I think back to last summer and how lovely and peaceful our home and evenings were. My kids don’t like playing outside as much as it’s just so intrusive.

Right now they are out there with a bunch of friends being noisy, and I’m sat upstairs with the window closed and a fan on with my baby in a stuffy room to avoid the noise. I’m dreading the football tomorrow.

I’ve overhead them talking about getting a projector so they can watch the game in the garden.

My DH isn’t as bothered by it and hates confrontation so is playing it down. I’m honestly thinking about moving house, but we don’t have the money to really, and our house is so lovely except for this.

AIBU

• yes - they aren’t doing anything wrong enjoying their garden so you have to suck it up
• no - you should keep complaining and not feel intimidated.

No, I think they are not being inconsiderate. I think OP is being entitled.

Sounds very Hyacinth Bouquet !

And I think you are being a knob!

Yanbu. My neighbours are annoying in that they have gatherings regularly and use their garden room to host, doors open, music on, chatting, cheering whilst playing games etc and nearly every day we have the drone of sports commentary coming from the radio. Plus a noisey dog. I put up with it because it’s life. However, I used to be really hot on telling my kids to keep it down when they were getting too loud in the garden, I just don’t bother anymore. I don’t particularly keep my voice down either. Works both ways.

I’m sure my neighbours would agree with you

The majority of people on here do not

Totally agree, god forbid folk are enjoying the good weather in their own gardens.

I'd suggest canvassing the opinions of other neighbours. Then if multiple neighbours are unhappy, find a way to set this out calmly to them. Avoid council complaints as these have to be reported if you try to sell.

Oh OP I feel your pain, screaming shouting, crying, shouting, swearing, fighting, loud music, revving bikes! we get it all.. Our (and hopefully yours) only saviour is the Autumn when the darker nights draw in, to be honest I would imagine it's an issue that's happening and down the country especially during the summer months! We now just grit our teeth and bear it, trying to remember that it's only for 12 weeks or so and then they will all go back into their caves...

P. S we've just bought a air conditioning unit and when it's hot and on, it drowns out all of the noise! Bliss.. 😍

OP your post could have been written by me, word for word. We have exactly the same issues with our next door neighbours. I can't believe how inconsiderate they are and it affects me every single day, particularly in the Summer. It makes me utterly miserable in my own home. I used to love sitting in the garden enjoying a good book and a drink but since they have moved in I have to stay indoors with the door shut and noise cancelling earphones in my ears. It's horrendous. We can't afford to move somewhere more secluded so we are just stuck with it.

Oh OP I do sympathise. There’s been a few of these threads recently and yours sounds pretty horrific. We had to move from our last house due to the constant noise from a variety of neighbours. It wasn’t one in particular so was hard to complain but it was like they’d take turns!!!

we were surrounded by people who are just noisy. Late as well. Loud voices, music, dogs barking. Just endless. I used to cry too OP and you do become sensitive to it. It’s the anger too of their selfishness sometimes. Yours sounds worse than we had but a lot of the time I constantly wondered whether they even thought of us. I guess not.

I know everyone has the right to do things in their own home and garden (as long as it’s legal!) but we also live in communities and I think people should be respectful.

but we are not noisy people and really need some quiet and peace. It’s just how we are. Of course we make some normal noise but only in short bursts. Not endless loud booming music late into the night.

i’m sorry OP. It sounds like they just don’t think of others and even if you talk to them I think this is their lifestyle.