Wedding make up too early - bridesmaid dilemma

[saminamama]

Being bridesmaid for a dear friend of 12 years

of 6 bridesmaids 2 of us are staying in the hotel.
it is the first night with my DH away from both children during a really stressful phase in our life financially (youngest is 10 months old) and so booked the hotel of the wedding (I paid for this)

when I agreed to have makeup done (me to pay for this - £60) I didn’t realise I would be put on the very first slot - 7am. The maid of honor is in hair at this time because she also booked the hotel, but some of the other bridesmaids aren’t getting anything done until 9 or even 10am!

i have asked the bride to cancel but she has said no it’s too late I still need to pay,

so I’m still going to have to pay

so because I have booked ‘the hotel’ I have ended up pulling the short straw if I was in the premier inn up the road it would have been fine

aibu - get the makeup done and crack on at 7am
yanbu - pay and don’t get the makeup done value sleep instead

Im doing MOH for my friend and I have to be up at 6.30am to be at her house for around 7.45 to then drive to hairdressers for a 9am appointment. Its one day, but we know its a long day, but its fun and an honour to be stood by our best friends side, so we do what is planned at what time it's planned.

My friend paid for my make up but my slot was 7am because after I’d had it done I then had to drive to the next town to pick up her wedding flowers amongst other jobs 🤣

It was fine, my make up still looked good enough in pictures and obviously she should get the prime slot. It’s her wedding day.

What a whole lot of kerfuffle over nothing. And if getting out of bed at 6.30am is hardly the end of the world, neither is not having a 'professional' make-up. Hair, I can understand. But this is a wedding, not the Chanel 2026 spring/summer collection.

Had the bride paid for this pretension my response would be the same as many others: anything other than going ahead on the decided basis would be rude. But given you're paying for this yourself and for some reason have been willing to humour this nonsense, I'd be skipping the slot and would apply my make up myself.

I happily did this on my own wedding day. And I can promise you, the number of invited guests who will notice how (and by whom) the bridesmaids' make up has been applied, isn't going to make it north of zero.

Weddings!

The ones that booked for it wanted it. My expense. The ones that didn’t, did their own.

For a 1pm wedding and a bridal party of 6 hairdressers would normally arrive about 6am. Mine did. Time flies. I got up at 5am because it was a beautiful spring morning and I was excited to marry the love of my life.

Hope that clarifies things for you.

No, it doesn't. However, you did what suited you and each to their own.

Someone had to go first, obviously it makes most sense for it to be the people in the hotel. This is part of being a bridesmaid. For gods sake stop whinging, it’s meant to be fun! Your poor friend with you sulking about the effort she’s made to plan her wedding.