Wedding make up too early - bridesmaid dilemma

[saminamama]

Being bridesmaid for a dear friend of 12 years

of 6 bridesmaids 2 of us are staying in the hotel.
it is the first night with my DH away from both children during a really stressful phase in our life financially (youngest is 10 months old) and so booked the hotel of the wedding (I paid for this)

when I agreed to have makeup done (me to pay for this - £60) I didn’t realise I would be put on the very first slot - 7am. The maid of honor is in hair at this time because she also booked the hotel, but some of the other bridesmaids aren’t getting anything done until 9 or even 10am!

i have asked the bride to cancel but she has said no it’s too late I still need to pay,

so I’m still going to have to pay

so because I have booked ‘the hotel’ I have ended up pulling the short straw if I was in the premier inn up the road it would have been fine

aibu - get the makeup done and crack on at 7am
yanbu - pay and don’t get the makeup done value sleep instead

Professional make-up artists would do that anyway, without being asked.

Sounds like you look for problems.

I would set a clock and have my make up done except for mascara and lipstick.
Lay in bed after for 40 winks or have sexy time. I wouldn’t bother the bride with this.

Could you ask one of the later.bridesmaids to swap slots?
Then you could have a longer sleep, and another friend gets to see more of the bride on the morning?

My niece had first slot for her brothers wedding and it was 6.30am. Stop being a drama queen. All bridesmaids will be expected to be there by about 8am anyway. How late did you think you were going to be able to sleep for your ‘dear friends’ wedding? Like others have said; suck it up and don’t give the bride a headache and stress

Last wedding I had the 5am makeup call!

78% of voters say it’s not.

I'd have no issue with the time but if I'd insisted on bridesmaids having professional makeup done I'd have paid for it myself. I gave mine the choice and they wanted to do their own.

7am for first slot actually sounds quite reasonable... I've had a 5.30am slot for a 1pm wedding 😅.

Its your friends wedding and you're looking at it about how it affects you, suck it up and think about your friend on her wedding day

Make that night a night to sleep. I'd be in bed by 7. I'm a single mum of two and a caregiver to my own mum. I dream about a hotel room to myself to sleep. So, I'm jealous. 😩
Honestly, early dinner, no alcohol, shower, clothes laid out, alarms set plus put in for a wake-up call, dress, grab a coffee and pastry and get your make-up done. You will thank yourself for having had a good sleep because your skin will look great and you will feel great.

This is the norm when there are so many bridesmaids unfortunately. At my friends wedding last year we had to be up for hair and make up from 6am as there were 6 bridesmaids, the bride, mother of the bride and 2 flower girls to get through and only 2 ladies doing it all. The bride typically goes last, just get your make up done and the make up artist will put on plenty of setting spray so it’ll last all day and night. It sounds like you are quite stressed but it’s your friends day, just relax and get through it as best as you can it’s one day.

It sounds awful. But then I wouldn't let anyone near my face because I've been doing my own makeup every day for 38 years!

I didn’t get up at that time of the morning, on my OWN wedding

Weddings are always stressful .. look at it this way you are first to get makeup and hair done which in turn means you won’t be rushing and can chill and relax ..its a one off so think getting up a little early than usual is not a big deal

This sounds awful to me, especially if it’s a rare weekend away without your kids. I’d cancel the professional makeup (even if you’ll lose money) and just do it yourself at a civilised hour. Surely it’s more important to be relaxed and well rested anyway?

People get really weird about weddings on MN sometimes. Don’t forget it’s supposed to be a happy occasion, not a military operation.

Have you ever been part of a bridal party? I’d say for absolute vast majority of weddings when part of the main act, You don’t get to just wake up and spend your morning relaxing and getting ready on your own terms.

For a 1pm wedding everyone needs to be ready by 11am. It’s really not a log of time.

Biggest stress for bride can be bridesmaids. Shouldn’t be like that.

I had 4 BM’s and two made a big fuss about being the first for hair/makeup and kept on making representations to me and DH!

It was the length and thickness of their hair that put them first. One (single - in her 20’s) crying about wanting a lie in. I was up at 5am!

None of this is going to make the Marriage, that is up to the Bride and Groom. Do what is right for you so: if the time is wrong get your own hair/make up done go somewhere else. Join in the fun etc later when it suits you.

Can you not have your lie in and do the make up yourself? I'm with you 100% on not wanting to get up at 6.00 am for a friend's wedding. You'll be exhausted!

Well that's a very early start, even for your own wedding
Why didn't you just let them do their own hair and makeup? That's what used to happen.

Talk about extreme! 😂

I defo don't think it's outrageous to have make up done at 7am with 6 bridesmaids to sort out. I'd be up early with excitement for the day personally.

Only on mumsnet is the idea of washing your hair the day before and having someone put make up be so abhorrent (well according to some answers !!!)

I would never expect anyone to pay for their own hotel, or to pay for their own make-up (7am or any other time) in order to attend MY wedding. What is the world coming to? How rude.

And why would a bride care about anyone else's make-up? Is this even a thing? What will be next - brides telling bridesmaids to all go blonde or something?

On my wedding day I got up at about 7.30, showered and washed my hair, and walked along to the pub where we had our reception to help my mum and mother in law set out the tables for the food. I went home at 9.30, got changed and did my makeup and left at 10 for an 11 o’clock wedding 😆. I can’t imagine putting up with all the faffing around that brides seem to have nowadays.