To not go on a family holiday I wouldn't enjoy

[Bennybannsider2]

The holiday we planned to book has to be withdrawn due to the war in Iran, and it just didn't work out reinstating it now flights are back running normally. We (family of 2ad 3 teens) still want to go on holiday. We enjoy most types of hols but in recent years as we get to know our preferences some of us favour busy resorts like Benidorm (strip) and genuinely enjoy a holiday buying fake t-shirts, eating chicken & chips, going to busy bars. And some of us (me) have tried that, tried it again and don't want to do it a third time as a main holiday - I still enjoy it as a few days off season.

It ended up getting close to our annual leave dates and my husband booked a trip to this type of resort. I knew he was doing the booking and it suited me to not have to expend energy doing it. We had talked about what we wanted and one thing I definitely wanted was to go on holiday for longer than a week, which he has booked. But it's a resort I don't like, hotel looks old fashioned, pool tiny, the board basis I don't think will work for our family.....We had discussed some of these things but he didn't know that the board basis for example was a deal breaker.

I said I'm not going there. It's too late to change any parts as it was all booked so short notice.

Husband is totally capable of looking after his own kids for the holiday.

AIBU to not go on this holiday?

Actually I do sympathise OP - I am very fussy about holidays and I like what I like. But that’s why, over the years, I have spent hours, if not days, researching and planning. My DH has ‘brochure blindness’ and would miss things like ‘next to a motorway’.

But it’s done now and you have three teens who will soon fly the nest and may never go away with you again. Surely their company means you can make the best of it?

I’ll also add that holidays with teens are always problematic- I remember a year in an apartment in Spain when both my DC took a friend and I had a week with two 14 year and two 16 year old boys. I never stopped making sandwiches or getting splashed. But they still remember it with joy, as do their friends.

PP is right - Ubers are super cheap and plentiful in Portugal. Make some plans, be open minded and those quiet holidays when it’s just the two of you someone more luxurious will soon be with you.

Poor wife, having a husband who can't be arsed to pick a suitable holiday.

Stay home and relax, or enjoy somewhere lovely in the UK.