Page 25 | To ban SD from my en suite?!

Nanny0gg · 04/07/2026 09:58

AnaisVB · 04/07/2026 00:09

She called them disgusting pigs. I’m not sure about you but in my world. to me that doesn’t sound very much like she likes her. She admits that she’s sick of them and wants away from them . Frustrated that they apparently get nits and ringworm so regularly which is weird at their age and not sure I even believe it. If she cared about them those things wouldn’t matter anyway. If you love a child you put up with all that comes with that child .

She also calls her DD and the SC, step siblings, when they are actually half siblings, which is bizarre to me. Seems like no love here and that’s unhealthy for everyone.

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How are they half-siblings?

They are all children from previous relationships

Cherrytree86 · 04/07/2026 10:31

Some of you must have soooooo much money too.

for most people, if you treat yourself to something expensive that you really like and can’t often to buy all the time and then someone goes and liberally douses themselves in it without you asking you would be perfectly entitled to be quite pissed off and ask them to leave your stuff alone.

for some on here though, it’s easy come, easy go…

Lmnop22 · 04/07/2026 11:26

EasterEstherEgg · 02/07/2026 23:41

She doesn’t want a Lush bath bomb, she wants to use my £70 Chanel facial moisturiser as a body lotion. She’s perfectly capable and knows how much it costs. This is a fuck you, to me.

I’m away on international business 2-3 nights a week, away from my own child, to pay for this fucking house and everything that goes with paying 75% of our bills. The least she could do is respect my (very few) boundaries.

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Sounds more like your resentment at having to be the breadwinner is the crux of this and the bath is the straw that broke the camel’s back.

starfishmummy · 04/07/2026 11:45

Actually using the en suite I wouldn't mind as long as it's not left in a mess.

Using my dressing gown, slippers and products absolutely not.

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starfishmummy · 04/07/2026 11:45

Actually using the en suite I wouldn't mind as long as it's not left in a mess.

Using my dressing gown, slippers and products absolutely not.

starfishmummy · 04/07/2026 11:48

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EvieBB · 04/07/2026 11:52

EasterEstherEgg · 02/07/2026 18:48

I’m fuming!!

When I moved in with DH, an en suite was an essential on my list. I have DD12 and he has SS15 and SD17 and I don’t want to share my personal space with teenagers. They’re also not allowed in our bed.

Have come back from a work trip early to find SD getting out of my bath, with my shampoos, body lotions and creams laid out and my bloody dressing gown and slippers on and apparently she often does this when I’m away!

She - and DH and everyone else - are well aware my en suite is off limits. AIBU?

I wouldn't mind this if I'm away.....as long as she didn't use my expensive products....but definitely not while I'm there

DearDenimEagle · 04/07/2026 12:11

All the things in your posts on here about working to provide and right to enjoy etc, you should be saying to her, rather than in here. Shes old enough. And since there are plenty of facilities elsewhere in the house, there’s no excuse. Make her pay for replacement products..she gets to keep the open ones for the other bathroom but buys you new replacements.

Kayleighfish · 04/07/2026 12:28

I've only skimmed through as so many replies - sorry if this has been said already.

Have you asked her why specifically she's doing it? Is it a way, albeit less drastic than some ways, of lashing out against you?

You absolutely need your boundaries, but if you don't get to the bottom of the whys', it'll continue and get worse.

flippertygibbet4 · 04/07/2026 12:40

It doesn't really matter how expensive the products are. What matters is the fact that SD is not respecting other people's things. What's special to me is special to me even if it has no monetary value. If I asked a member of my family to respect that, whether that means not wearing it, not using it etc, whatever, I have the right to expect my family member to do that. Equally I would do that for them.

InterIgnis · 04/07/2026 12:43

AnaisVB · 04/07/2026 01:23

Tbh I disagree. If you are blending a family , take your responsibility in having a hand in that child . Blending a family wasn’t the child’s choice. The adults did it and now the OP doesn’t like the hard work. Sadly you can’t just have the kids for only the good bits and if that is how OP sees it then they should never have moved in together.

It’s the child’s part time home. If OP feels financially burdened, again not the child’s fault it’s the DP she needs to take that up with. Personally I don’t like name calling children, I find it really odd.

Anyway it’s a moot point because she said she’s done with the family, so good they can all move on to happier, healthier relationships.

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That you don’t agree doesn’t make it any less true. OP didn’t have to provide what she did for her stepchild, but was generous enough to do so anyway. In return she’s been treated with contempt.

The stepdaughter is 17, so she’s very much responsible for her actions and the consequences of them. OP’s husband is also to blame. I do hope he doesn’t lay all the blame for the failure of his marriage and the loss of his lifestyle onto his daughter, but OP hasn’t given the impression that he’s someone generally keen to take responsibility. Either way, OP and her daughter are best off away from them.

InterIgnis · 04/07/2026 12:46

Cherrytree86 · 04/07/2026 10:31

Some of you must have soooooo much money too.

for most people, if you treat yourself to something expensive that you really like and can’t often to buy all the time and then someone goes and liberally douses themselves in it without you asking you would be perfectly entitled to be quite pissed off and ask them to leave your stuff alone.

for some on here though, it’s easy come, easy go…

I doubt many of them actually believe that.

OP is not only a stepmother but also a high earner that buys Chanel. Some will take a vehement dislike to her just on principle.

godmum56 · 04/07/2026 13:38

InterIgnis · 04/07/2026 12:46

I doubt many of them actually believe that.

OP is not only a stepmother but also a high earner that buys Chanel. Some will take a vehement dislike to her just on principle.

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yup its the "be kind" brigade. Batshit, all of them.

truffleruffle · 04/07/2026 13:45

It’s shocking how some people work hard, earn a good living, can afford nice things, and appreciate them then some who can’t afford these things post judgemental attitudes.
I have worked exceptionally hard and can now afford nice things and would not appreciate my things being used without permission. Hope you get this sorted out ASAP.

Cherrytree86 · 04/07/2026 13:51

truffleruffle · 04/07/2026 13:45

It’s shocking how some people work hard, earn a good living, can afford nice things, and appreciate them then some who can’t afford these things post judgemental attitudes.
I have worked exceptionally hard and can now afford nice things and would not appreciate my things being used without permission. Hope you get this sorted out ASAP.

Yeah I think there are a lot of people jealous of the OP here…
sad for them

Ilovelurchers · 04/07/2026 16:25

Cherrytree86 · 04/07/2026 13:51

Yeah I think there are a lot of people jealous of the OP here…
sad for them

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I can't see that there is much to be jealous of in what she has described here. She works gruelling hours she resents as she feels it takes her away from her daughter, and she lives with people she despises - I imagine most of us feel sorry for her, as the nicest face cream in the world couldn't compensate for that.

I, like many others on here I imagine, hope she is able to change this toxic situation for everyone's benefit, especially all the kids involved.

Doubledenim305 · 04/07/2026 16:29

People just live differently. It's not right or wrong. Each to their own. It's just when two different sets of normal live in the same house, there is going to be a clash.
Kids love playing with their parents stuff....they aren't old enough to have known what it actually cost the parent who buys it, they haven't had the life experiences yet that show them it doesn't just come on a plate.. anyway I see how the clash and stress happens. It's perfectly normal. Difficult and stressful. But normal.
Having said that the SD needs to know she's not free to wear her stepnjms stuff or use her products or the ensuite. That's fair enough to say that. Just like stepmum doesn't go into her room to use her stuff and wwer her clothes 😆

godmum56 · 04/07/2026 16:33

Doubledenim305 · 04/07/2026 16:29

People just live differently. It's not right or wrong. Each to their own. It's just when two different sets of normal live in the same house, there is going to be a clash.
Kids love playing with their parents stuff....they aren't old enough to have known what it actually cost the parent who buys it, they haven't had the life experiences yet that show them it doesn't just come on a plate.. anyway I see how the clash and stress happens. It's perfectly normal. Difficult and stressful. But normal.
Having said that the SD needs to know she's not free to wear her stepnjms stuff or use her products or the ensuite. That's fair enough to say that. Just like stepmum doesn't go into her room to use her stuff and wwer her clothes 😆

I kind of agree with you but this is not a kid, its a 17 year old. Don't you think that by 17, the girl is old enough to know better? In a year's time, she could be off to uni and living in shared accommodation. How do you think her housemates would react to this behaviour? Did she not learn not to take the belongings of other people at school?

Sureitwont · 04/07/2026 16:57

Honestly, some of these replies are deliberately fucking obtuse

Posters banging on about how they “care more about my kids than shampoo”, that their kids aren’t “second class citizens” and “sharing is caring” bollocks

Newsflash- adults are allowed to have nicer stuff than their kids. It’s like saying you can’t buy yourself a new car because you only bought your 17 year old an 11 year old fiesta. Ridiculous

DP uses literal HANDFULS of shower gel in one go, but he likes the cheap Radox £1 stuff, so fair enough I guess. Would I want him using my £50 shower gel like that? Absolutely not. Same as his super short hair doesn’t need my Olaplex shampoo and conditioner

It not me being selfish or mean. Nice products are a priority for me, and I work hard to be able to afford them. Why should someone else just be able to help themselves (or you go without) just because you’re under the same roof??

Nanny0gg · 04/07/2026 17:07

Doubledenim305 · 04/07/2026 16:29

People just live differently. It's not right or wrong. Each to their own. It's just when two different sets of normal live in the same house, there is going to be a clash.
Kids love playing with their parents stuff....they aren't old enough to have known what it actually cost the parent who buys it, they haven't had the life experiences yet that show them it doesn't just come on a plate.. anyway I see how the clash and stress happens. It's perfectly normal. Difficult and stressful. But normal.
Having said that the SD needs to know she's not free to wear her stepnjms stuff or use her products or the ensuite. That's fair enough to say that. Just like stepmum doesn't go into her room to use her stuff and wwer her clothes 😆

Playing?? She's 17!!

I was at work earning my own money at that age.

Houseofteenbots · 04/07/2026 17:09

EasterEstherEgg · 02/07/2026 23:59

To be honest this is the last straw. Both SC and DH treat our house like a dosshouse and I’m tired of coming home late after working hard to find a mess.

I think I’m done.

DD and I will be much happier living separately.

Well this has escalated!

godmum56 · 04/07/2026 17:26

Houseofteenbots · 04/07/2026 17:09

Well this has escalated!

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no i don't think so...its often the case that the aibu or the rant is the last straw.

canuckup · 04/07/2026 17:59

Your DP should have actually parented and not allowed her in your bathroom

Second thing: this is about so much more than just shampoo. It's about the fact that SD wants to exert her
authority whilst you are gone. By using your stuff and wearing your bathrobe, which tbh, is slightly odd IMH

Sharptonguedwoman · 04/07/2026 18:31

axolotlfloof · 03/07/2026 20:05

She is a child.
OP is a grown woman with a family who wants to bin her family off over some over priced face cream.

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She’s 17. Legally a child maybe but perfectly old enough understand’ do not enter this room’. Cheeky little madam.