To ban SD from my en suite?!

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I’m fuming!!

When I moved in with DH, an en suite was an essential on my list. I have DD12 and he has SS15 and SD17 and I don’t want to share my personal space with teenagers. They’re also not allowed in our bed.

Have come back from a work trip early to find SD getting out of my bath, with my shampoos, body lotions and creams laid out and my bloody dressing gown and slippers on and apparently she often does this when I’m away!

She - and DH and everyone else - are well aware my en suite is off limits. AIBU?

Cheeky wee shite! No, she has absolutely no business being in your en suite and using your beauty products.

Doesn't sound like your ban is enforceable without a lock.

I totally agree. My own children are not allowed in my en suite, they’re not allowed to use my stuff and neither are they allowed in my room when I’m not there.

We'll would the en-suite have been available to the kids if you weren't in the picture? Is the house his or yours (or one you bought together)?

yanbu however don’t go off on one. Teenagers will intrude. So you need to ensure they understand boundaries and consequences with ur husbands support.

I’d got crazy at this

I've actually just told ds 11 to get out of my bedroom. I'd be getting a lock op. And she can replace all of your stuff.

Good grief 🙄

I’m very strongly considering a lock but I’m disappointed to need one in my own home!!

I mean I let my dd17 use my en suite bathroom because it has a shower cubicle rather than an over bath shower, which she prefers.

Plus she often wants a shower at the same time DS12 wants a bath.

If I had expensive creams and whatnot I wouldn’t want a teenager - mine or a DP’s - using them. Certainly not without permission. And wearing your dressing gown etc is completely beyond the pale!

Do get one. And read them all the riot act, including your DH.

I’m 42 and I’m still not sure that I’m allowed in my mum’s en suite when I’m at home!

We bought together and the deposit was mostly mine!! For background the kids share a bathroom and we also have a downstairs loo and an annex with a shower room if anyone needs a quick shower. This was a deliberate choice to use my stuff!

What does your partner have to say about this, he was allowing it?

It wouldn’t bother me in the slightest.
Hardly the crime of the century.

I wouldn’t have an issue with my kids (or step kids if I had them) using my en-suite if there was a reason, eg the only bath available at that time.

however I’d be raging if they used all my products without asking first

I really wouldn't mind her using my ensuite (if I had either a stepdaughter or an ensuite).
Not something I would fall out about .

I had to put a lock on my bedroom door for my older teenage DDs when I went away with work (I was divorced). They had access to everywhere else in the house, but I had enough of them nicking my tights, pants, make up etc. It was a last resort and they were very annoyed! But they got over it.

Using the en suite I wouldn’t be too bothered about. Using my products I’d be a bit miffed. But wearing my stuff, I’d be bloody raging. Especially a dressing gown that I wear over my naked body. Who the hell does that?

if theres no other bath in the house then YABU but she shouldnt have used your products

Is there a bath in the house other than the one in your ensuite? If not, then I think not allowing her to use it at all is a bit mean. Sometimes it’s just nice to have a bath!

She absolutely shouldn’t be using your toiletries or wearing your dressing gown though. That is disrespectful and bordering on a bit odd.

It is all relative. Are they generally normal kids. Are they generally well behaved and respectful?.
We all have had times when we push parents boundaries and limits.

Depending on that will depend on whether there is a lock and a big argument with the husband

What has DH had to say about this?

I thought her wearing slippers were bad. Even when dry I don’t think slippers should be shared, but damp feet from the bath is somehow worse.
But I’d forgotten that I wear a bathrobe after the shower naked. I wouldn’t want to think anyone else had been wearing it. Damp too.

Ewww

So your husband knows but doesn't care?

I think using the bath wouldn't bother me, but the other stuff-why?

Too lazy to carry her own stuff?

Prefers yours?

Then she needs to buy it or get her dadto!