Invited the wrong child by mistake

[Oopsididitnotagain]

What to do-if anything?

Dd is having a party at a play place, ten children including herself, allowed. It was hard for her to narrow down her invites as she likes so many in the class and also has family friends to include.
I asked the class representative to please send me a list of the children & parents names & numbers. I made a group invite and sent via WhatsApp. One mum has replied to say her child can come-a boy Dd likes, but isn’t particularly close to, all the other children are girls, aside from one family friend, another boy. It was obviously a mixed up number, I thought I was sending the invite to one of her best friends.

Dd is disappointed and I think the mum was a little surprised too 🫣

Would you do anything?

This happened to my child once on the receiving end. I told DD, she was excited to go. The mother text me later saying wrong person she's not invited, we'll drop her round a piece of cake. The party was at the parents house, no limit on numbers, very wealthy parents. DD was very upset when I had to break it to her. The parents dropped off cake and DD chucked it in bin as soon as they left😆

You can't really uninvite a child, but it would be a real shame if your DD's good friend isn't invited, especially as it could end up ending the friendship if they are hurt and think your DD doesn't like them any more. If it's at all possible could you manage one extra child? If you absolutely can't could you explain to her friends parents that you didn't not invite them on purpose, and then plan a treat for just your DD and that friend, something that will feel special but not be expensive?

Maybe the class is full of insufferable parents who think they're too good for the class Whatsapp so they refuse to introduce themselves or mention their children's name. So you just a have one long list of phone numbers and no idea who they belong to.

Do you think so? Eurgh hate this!

Not paid, just class representative, they volunteer. We have a class WhatsApp but not all parents on, majority but not all and also I didn’t know whose parents are of which children, a few I do, but not the whole class

Are who siblings? 😂

He’s friends with a few other girls from the road, they all play together and would have no issue with no other boys there

What does it matter if he's the only boy there? Plus, he won't be. There's one other.

Explaining the situation to the mother is asking her to back out. Horrendously rude. Just pay for one more.

We’re in July of the school year, I’m baffled that you wouldn’t know which child belonged to which adult by now even if your child is reception 😂

As someone else said, own the mistake, tell the Mum that little Monty will be the only boy there as a heads up and be willing to pay extra to have the kids there your daughter actually wants ✌🏼

Some seem to be a bit like this yes 🤣

It happened to my DD, she was 5 at the time. I think she gave the teacher the invites to put in the children's trays and the teacher misplaced it for another child who has the same name. We didn't know until 3 years later lol! DD just accepted it. The girl who didn't get the invite is still one of her best friend now, they are 12. I think just let it go or pay extra head. Definitely not uninviting the boy.

Not all of them, there are 24, some not on the group and the majority not there at pick up!

This is why a class WhatsApp is actually helpful. I’ve always had contact details for everyone in the class.

you can’t uninvite the child and I’d really try and find a way to fund an extra place so you don’t cause fallout with the best friend who will be sad. Mistakes do happen though- we accidentally got left off a party list for a close friend and the mum was mortified when she realised we weren’t there. Mistakes happen and this won’t be your first.

I’d invite the best friend, and I’d drop into that chat that he’s the only boy going and you’re letting the mum know in case he feels awkward, but that he’s still very welcome. Or make out I had some boys in the family coming and they’ve dropped out, so just a heads up that he’s the only boy.

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Hi OP, that's awkward alright. I'd leave a voicenote not text so it sounded cheerful and tone didn't get mixed up to sound snooty -

Hi boy mum, that's great he can come. I've made a bit of a mess-up on the invitations and he's the only boy from the class coming. Sorry it's my fault and I can't fix it now as can't add anyone else. Checking if he's ok with that as I know my DC wouldn't like it the other way around. Let me know if he still wants to come.

It’s a non issue. He’s now invited. I certainly wouldn’t be uninviting him, it’s not a wedding, it’s not that deep. Your DD has other friends going. If it’s a huge issue just pay for one extra child to attend.

In this case i would just pay for the extra person it’s not going to break the bank.

If I was the mother of the boy, I would appreciate honesty upfront rather than facing the risk of feeling awkward when he was there.
Could you not just message her saying something along the lines of "This is really embarrassing but I was given your phone number in error. Your son is, of course, welcome at X's party but I thought I should let you know he will be the only boy just in case that would make him feel uncomfortable. Please let me know if he would still like to attend"
I agree it would be better to pay for the friend she intended to invite
I sometimes think life was so much easier when we didn't have Whatsapp and had to speak in person

The misinvited boy and your childs best friend. Or could there be siblings in the class with the same name as your childs best friend and the rep got names confused.

Gosh I would just uninvite, if I was on the receiving end of this I'd totally understand and have a good laugh about it.

I’d take a photo of the number list you received with her number next to Chloe’s name and say, so sorry, I thought I was inviting Chloe not Ben. Looks like the teacher has mixed up the numbers? Hopefully the mum will then understand and pull out and somebody else will have the right number so you can invite her friend!

Ask the play place if they could include one more child at reduced rate and you will write a really good review for their website.

You absolutely cannot do this imo

If one of the girls can’t make it, invite another boy. But uninviting is awful. Don’t do that.