Invited the wrong child by mistake

[Oopsididitnotagain]

What to do-if anything?

Dd is having a party at a play place, ten children including herself, allowed. It was hard for her to narrow down her invites as she likes so many in the class and also has family friends to include.
I asked the class representative to please send me a list of the children & parents names & numbers. I made a group invite and sent via WhatsApp. One mum has replied to say her child can come-a boy Dd likes, but isn’t particularly close to, all the other children are girls, aside from one family friend, another boy. It was obviously a mixed up number, I thought I was sending the invite to one of her best friends.

Dd is disappointed and I think the mum was a little surprised too 🫣

Would you do anything?

Then OP could show up to the venue labelled as a CF

i havent read all the responses but feel I’ll be going against the grain. I have an 8 year old boy and we would totally understand such a mix up and not be offended at all at being uninvited!!

As someone with two boys I really wouldn’t mind and would appreciate a heads up..

Something like..

“Just a quick note. I realised after sending the invites that the class rep had mixed up a couple of numbers on the list she gave me, so your invite went out instead of one of Dd’s usual girl‑group friends. I promise I wasn’t trying to engineer the world’s most awkward gender ratio! It really is only girls apart from him. He’s absolutely welcome and I just didn’t want you turning up and wondering why he’s the lone boy in a sea of birthday chaos. Truly whatever works best for him.”

You can’t uninvite someone that would be beyond rude to both parent and child.

This

There’ll be 2 boys there and the boy is someone your DD likes even though not close to.

My DNephew for his recent 8th birthday party it was all boys (he does have girl friends).

Looking at the class list given, it says this number is X’s (girls name) mum, I even put that in my phone, I was so surprised when she replied…X (boys name) would love to come

So you sent her a message inviting Sarah to Emily's party & she replied with "Jack would love to come"?

Echoing recent PP’s, I have a DD6 and if she was unexpectedly invited to a party like this, and then the mum explained what had happened, I’d gladly give up her spot, as would she. DD recently went to a birthday party with a similar ratio and I tried to gently get her uninvited for ages beforehand when I realised. It’s not like you’re uninviting one of a close friendship group, or excluding a single child from the entire class party.

This is perfect and I agree 💯

My daughter once had a party at a bowling alley. She insisted she only wanted to invite girls, so that what we did. Then she went and invited 1 boy (from the year above but still primary school, everyone had a crush on him) and his mum said yes. Then I had to convince DD to invite another boy otherwise it’d be really awkward. Both boys turned up but it was still cringe 😆

As others have said, just be honest with the mum, explain the mix up, he’s more than welcome to come still etc.

The more important thing is finding a way to include your DD’s best friend. If you’re at all able to stretch to include her, you should. If they won’t allow you to add an extra child or you can’t afford it, could you have the best friend over for a birthday sleepover, make a really big deal of it?

Agree with this

I don't know why some are saying that he'll be the only boy there and to use that as a excuse to uninvite him or tell the mum he might not like to attend for that reason.

There will be another boy there.

As awkward as it makes things for the OP, she can't uninvite this boy, it's so rude and possibly hurtful to the boy.

💯

I cannot fathom all the posts to the contrary, especially the ones suggesting to explain the mix-up but passively suggesting not to attend, ie "whatever works best for him though". 🙄What's wrong with people?

What did your message inviting the child say? I'm struggling to imagine how you didn't mention the intended child's name

I must just be a bitch 🤷

I just saw op originally saying could not possibly afford to add anyone on before and I know I did a party at an indoor ski centre many years ago that ended up with food afterwards etc being about £75/80 a head, and that was a LONG time ago now so with inflation blah blah I dread to think what it would cost these days if it was something similar that op was saying she couldn't afford to add anyone on

oh come on… the cost of a couple of extra kids is “so expensive” ?

At soft play they all tend to go off in pairs or on their own anyway

I’d do this. He won’t know anyone from the school

If you spent £80 per head on a children's party. I suspect you're actually considerably better off than most, including the OP. That's a bonkers amount of money!

I think you're right not to uninvite him OP and I'm sure he will have a great time even if he's only one of two boys. Most children of that age really don't care who they are with at places like soft plays.

Oh, no, I’ve no idea how it happened, only realised when she replied that ‘Boys name’ would love to come

What a way to go through life… thinking stuff like this, always assuming the worst, seeking out the negative.

Same actually. Boy mum here - if he is a stereotypical boy he may only becoming out of politeness and confusion

This has me wondering if it’s me….. 🤣 we had a party invite from someone my son likes but isn’t the closest to (the little girl was also invited to his party though full class invite)
if it were me I’d rather get a text but mine are young enough to forget about the invitation so I wouldn’t be too put out! We also don’t have a class rep so may just be being paranoid!!
how old are the children? X

When is the party?

but essentially.., the extra cost of one or two will not be significant.

and even if you don’t.., soft play is quite an independent thing anyway. Mine always went off on their own at soft play

How old are the children?