Invited the wrong child by mistake

[Oopsididitnotagain]

What to do-if anything?

Dd is having a party at a play place, ten children including herself, allowed. It was hard for her to narrow down her invites as she likes so many in the class and also has family friends to include.
I asked the class representative to please send me a list of the children & parents names & numbers. I made a group invite and sent via WhatsApp. One mum has replied to say her child can come-a boy Dd likes, but isn’t particularly close to, all the other children are girls, aside from one family friend, another boy. It was obviously a mixed up number, I thought I was sending the invite to one of her best friends.

Dd is disappointed and I think the mum was a little surprised too 🫣

Would you do anything?

Do anything as in what? You can’t uninvited him if he’s replied yes. Can you squeeze in two more people? The one who was meant to be invited, plus another boy who’s friends with the one you accidentally invited?

No, it's done now.

It’s so expensive, unfortunately we cannot

In this case then it is what it is. I’m assuming the mum would have already told the boy so it would be really shitty to withdraw your invitation over your mistake

How close are the family friends? Can you explain what’s happened and suggest doing something different with them to free up their spaces at the play place?

Uninvite the family friends do cake and nibbles at your house for the family friends at a later time

Would you be offended if you were added to a what's app group, your DD was invited then uninvited to a party? I think I quote be a bit miffed..

Was the message not personalised to the intended child e.g Sophie would love to invite Olive to the party? If not then she probably thinks it's a generic whole class invite which is why she has accepted.

I wouldn't uninvite him or the family friend. I would hope someone isn't able to come and then invite the child you had originally intended to invite. If not I would have a playdate 1-1 with her instead.

Next year I would hand invites out to the actual children to avoid the same mistake.

Ask for cash presents, rip open the cards to pay the party bill. Joking.
There is nothing you can do, some mistakes are costly. 🤷‍♀️ You’ll have to find the money.

If its cousins or your friends kids I would uninvite them and make space for the kids she wants

You can't uninvite a child from a birthday party just because you messed up.

Its so wildliy far outside of the norms of social acceptability that you'll regret it if you do.

Agree it would be poor to uninvite him. I wonder if the childs parent know that all other attendees from the class as girls ? How old is she, i know my son aged 7 would not go to all girls party

Take your daughter and the friend you didn't invite out for ice cream or something. Nothing else you can do.

You can’t uninvite the boy but it’s also quite sad that one of DDs best friends hasn’t been invited.

I agree that an option would be to do something separate with your friends & their kids to free up a couple of spaces.

Frame it as an opportunity to make a new friend and take the one left out for ice cream. Maybe the boy and dd will get on really well!

why cant you have one extra, just one little one
there may be a cancellation.

Yes I would reply saying you apologise profusely but the invite was sent in error, as someone gave you the wrong details. You hope their dc isn't upset and that you'll send them some birthday cake or some such

@Oopsididitnotagain reply back that you are very sorry but their must be a number mix up - you were trying to contact Chloe's mum.

Explain the party is only 10 allowed and DD has chosen her own list of close female friends and family to attend and that none of the boys have been invited due to venue limits.

Don't be too embarrassed to fix this but its best to do it fast before she tells her boy and gets him excited.

You have a choice
a) let the boy come because you invited him
b) contact the mother and explain you were given the wrong details.

If you do b) I think you need to do it now and be honest. You never know maybe she accepted just to be polite.

Not all will be able to attend so just add the girl and job done.

You may well have drop outs so can invite the right one as well

Well you can’t uninvite the kid, so I’d try and find the money for 1 extra

Yeah this happened to me when my daughter was young except it was a girl in her class rather than a boy. She didn't particularly like this girl (but they actually became very good friends when they were older) I just paid for the extra person, i couldn't un-invite her after she's accepted and told my daughter how excited she was to be going 😶The fact that it's a boy though and only girls from the class are going it wouldn't be as bad to admit it was an accident

How expensive are we talking, for one extra child? Surely of you daughter is that disappointed you could make it work and squeeze one more child…
imagine how would you/your daughter feel of the boot was on another foot and you for uninvited

I agree. It would be horribly rude to uninvite somebody.