Invited the wrong child by mistake

[Oopsididitnotagain]

What to do-if anything?

Dd is having a party at a play place, ten children including herself, allowed. It was hard for her to narrow down her invites as she likes so many in the class and also has family friends to include.
I asked the class representative to please send me a list of the children & parents names & numbers. I made a group invite and sent via WhatsApp. One mum has replied to say her child can come-a boy Dd likes, but isn’t particularly close to, all the other children are girls, aside from one family friend, another boy. It was obviously a mixed up number, I thought I was sending the invite to one of her best friends.

Dd is disappointed and I think the mum was a little surprised too 🫣

Would you do anything?

If only 3 have replied anyway you may have 7 spaces to fill anyway.

At 8 it's so weird you don't know her classmates parents, if you don't why didn't you just put on the group can the parents of Muhammad Isla and Aisha get in touch with me and that's it.

Lists from class reps is a nuts way about jt

It's a certain kind of person, isn't it?

And I noticed an error in my post, it should've been, [they] don't realize ...
But, maybe they do! 😁

And it explains why we see so many threads on mumsnet about how unhappy OPs are that they have no friends.

Treat people like crap, and that tends to happen.

I think you need to pay for the friend that has been missed out.
I would not say anything to the boys parent. Even saying oops just realised he is the only boy sounds silly as anyone with half a brain would notice if only one boy was on their child's guest list and would explain to their child beforehand about Alfie might not like being the only boy, perhaps you should invite George too as you sometimes play with him as well.

As others have said I don't know why you have an admin doing these jobs. Yes invites here are often via messages but usually these will come from the main group. Hey is Maisie's mum or dad in this chat group? They then reply or someone tags them, and the private message is sent.

@Oopsididitnotagain you said you would paid the extra “if needed”.

It is ”needed”

So pay the extra

My DS is 7 and if this happened to us I honestly wouldn’t mind you dropping a text to say there’s been a mix up and it’s all girls etc.
more than likely DS wouldn’t want to go.

Too much woffle

just giving you a heads up DS is the only boy coming from school , checking he’s happy with that

no need to say mistake inviting

The thing is mentioning it now as an afterthought that he's the only boy makes it obvious he wasn't meant to be invited else the initial invite would mention this (I know it was in a group but you would still say something or send a personal message to that parent). Bringing it up now makes it obvious that he wasn't the intended guest.

Also at this age a lot of kids are still just happy going to a party, they don't care who's, especially if it's an activity they like.

It's also likely the mum might have said to him he has been invited so will be very awkward if you did uninvite him despite other responses on here saying they would be fine with that.

How embarrassing will that be for your daughter?

Invite the girl that got missed. Send the boys mum a message saying that you've realized he is the only boy so does he want to bring a friend? 2 extra invite s but no one is disappointed

I think posters should concentrate on how the children involved will feel and less about their own posturing.

Obviously don’t uninvite, but the mum does need a heads up. At eight, lots of boys wouldn’t actually want to attend the party in the circumstances, though it probably wouldn’t bother some. That age group usually segregates themselves according to sex in the playground…it’s a normal stage of child development.

If you can afford to invite an extra boy or two, as well as the girl who accidentally got left out, that would be a good solution OP as pp said. Otherwise contact mum.

He isn't the only boy though another boy is going someone who doesn't go to the same achool.
The boy from school probably already knows he is the only bit from school going anyway. Kids at school talk to each other! And he said he wants to go to the party. Contacting the mum now would just make it sound as though he isn't welcome.
I find it very odd and very sad that so many people are saying he wouldn't want to go to a party of mainly girls .

There is another boy attending, did you miss that? The group the OP referred to at the start: the OP's daughter, some family friends - one is a boy, and then the rest of the group are kids invited from class. So a mix of kids who can get to know each other at the party.

No, I didn’t miss that. Another boy he doesn’t know. Then he goes back to class having attended a party with the girls. It matters at that age and it would upset some children though not all, which is why I advised checking with his mum (or inviting a couple of others if that is possible).

I think the comeback is, Why weren't you invited? if teased about going. 🤷‍♀️🤔🙂

Some children would be okay with doing that. Some wouldn’t though, especially shyer kids.

Have they all rsvp'd? As that boy may not come anyways.
If they have u just have to fit them in ( maybes buy dd one less present as she will be getting presents from her friends anyways. I always said this to my kids ' A big party or lots of presents'

I couldn’t uninvite someone- they’re a long time in primary school and I couldn’t bear to be the mum who uninvited a small child from a party.