AIBU to think my husband is a bit of a dick?

[FlamingoFloss]

I know in the grand scheme of things (and compared to other people and their issues) this may not be a thing, but it is to me. I went away last weekend for three nights. I feed a fox outside my house every single night. I have cats and I feed the fox any leftover food and I have been doing so for well over a year. if I don’t have enough leftover food then I’ve lots of cats food and so I make it up a little bit - my husband knows this. He doesn’t have a problem or he never has and is actually grateful I put the leftover food out rather than putting in the bin as it stops the flies.

So tonight I find out he did not feed the fox for the time that I was away because he doesn’t care apparently. I said to him he knows this is important to me and he said he just doesn’t care and that the cats are even lucky they got fed.

Who is this man who knows that this is a big deal for me and yet just didint even bother? and the fact he’s even said that about feeding our own pets????

YABU. Hope that helps.

@lightseeker If 'foxes shouldn't be in urban areas' where exactly do these people propose the foxes should live - given that we have built roads, railways and motorways pretty much everywhere and most places are urban and inhabited by humans and their infrastructures and / or industry?

Not in urban areas? Or, in urban areas but in smaller numbers, not in pest proportions. I’m in Aus and most councils here have targeted baiting programs for them as they are pests and numbers are far too high as they now have substantial food sources, they wouldn’t have otherwise had if people had not come along with all of our roads and houses.

Absolutely with your husband on this. For an easy life he obviously can’t express his views on why you shouldn’t feed a bloody fox (as has been evident in the thread) so well done him for making it clear on where he stands on the issue.

I feed crows and magpies, started by accident during lock down and now I can whistle for them to come get food etc. Anyway, if I'm not here, husband feeds them, as he does our pets without being asked or told.
If you've asked your husband to feed the fox and he hasn't, that's dicky behaviour. I'm petty so if I were you I'd never feed husband so much as a biscuit again. Although tbh there's a good chance I'd bin mine for it.

I'd be really upset about this, sounds like he's very mean as has lied saying he'd do it then not bothered at all, you deserve better for being such a caring person, hope you had a great trip and thanks for caring for the animals, I'd ask a neighbour or family member that's on the same wavelength as you in future as he's not to be trusted

I'd be really upset about this, sounds like he's very mean as has lied saying he'd do it then not bothered at all, you deserve better for being such a caring person, hope you had a great trip and thanks for caring for the animals, I'd ask a neighbour or family member that's on the same wavelength as you in future as he's not to be trusted

I'd be really upset about this, sounds like he's very mean as has lied saying he'd do it then not bothered at all, you deserve better for being such a caring person, hope you had a great trip and thanks for caring for the animals, I'd ask a neighbour or family member that's on the same wavelength as you in future as he's not to be trusted

I'd be really upset about this, sounds like he's very mean as has lied saying he'd do it then not bothered at all, you deserve better for being such a caring person, hope you had a great trip and thanks for caring for the animals, I'd ask a neighbour or family member that's on the same wavelength as you in future as he's not to be trusted

I'd be really upset about this, sounds like he's very mean as has lied saying he'd do it then not bothered at all, you deserve better for being such a caring person, hope you had a great trip and thanks for caring for the animals, I'd ask a neighbour or family member that's on the same wavelength as you in future as he's not to be trusted

Op, was the fox there on your return? Did she/him wait for you?

You feed a fox? Are you completely bonkers? Foxes kill cats...my friends cat just got attacked by one and its cost her 1000£ in vets hospital to put it back together. I can't believe anyone with a functioning brain would feed a fox!

Both of my cats have been attacked by foxes over the last year. They've had a horrible time, and I've had an extremely expensive one. They have been intimidating.

If he said he’d do something, then didn’t, and lied about it, then that’s demonstrably wrong.

That said, feeding foxes is really fucking stupid, for the reasons mentioned by many earlier on this thread. I’d have just told you I wasn’t going to do it.

I also suspect the fox won’t have starved.

STOP FEEDING FOXES.

IT'S PEOPLE LIKE YOU DRAWING THEM FROM THEIR NATURAL HABITAT WHERE THEY SHOULD BE PERFECTLY CAPABLE OF FEEDING THEMSELVES, BUT THEY DON'T BECUSE THEY ARE BEING FED.

IT'S YOUR FAULT THEY ARE IN TOWNS AND CITIES, BEING HIT BY CARS.

YOURS.

After he lied.

I guess it's lucky that you aren't married to that bloke from The Good Law Project; he'd have done far worse to the poor foxes!!

The foxes are your thing rather than a household responsibility so a favour to you to feed them; he could very well have said no but in principle he should not have explicitly agreed to do it and just not bothered. How can you trust him going forward? His attitude to the cats is unacceptable - he shouldn't have them if he can't take care of them on his own if needed - but at least he did feed them. Any chance this is weaponised incompetence so you won't go away on your own again, or just a way to annoy or "punish" you?

He lied about doing something that is important to you, but that is probably not that big a deal to him. It’s not nice, but it doesn’t make him a dick.

We have taken over their natura abitat. I feed 2 foxes as do my neighbours.

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He is a dick. No two ways about it.
And he wouldn't even commit to feeding your cats?? They are pets ffs.
He sounds like a selfish man-baby and anyone (male or female) who says they'll do something for their partner or even an friend and then chooses not to do it isn't worth house room.