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Haven't seen DH in clothes since Monday

140 replies

Whereareyourclothes · Yesterday 18:52

My husband doesn't like the heat which means that for every day this week during the heatwave, we made an agreement that I'll been the one doing errands, nipping to the shops, and doing both morning and afternoon school runs. In return, he will ensure chores are done and cook dinner.

He works from home so therefore has had no need to leave the house.

Except, he's spent nearly a week walking around in just a pair of pants. No other clothing. He at least changes those pants daily (and sometimes twice a day), but I have not seen a t shirt on him all week nor a pair of shorts. I can't remember the last time he wore a pair of trousers.

I get that it's hot but i'm sick of the sight of his bare chest and legs. He is also bald so he looks like a giant newborn wearing a nappy.

He has somehow managed to do every work Teams call this week with the camera off.

We've also had quite a few deliveries this weekend, largely his, which I've had to run and open because he runs and hides from the window (while giggling) in case they clock he's only wearing pants.

I've asked him to put clothes on but it's fallen on deaf ears.

It's only 23 degrees today, AIBU to insist he puts some clothes on?

OP posts:
em2026 · Yesterday 22:25

I’m with him on this one, I’ve done the same & it’s been great 🤣
i do find you doing everything just because it’s hot bizarre though 🤷🏻‍♀️

Lilypad789 · Yesterday 22:27

The part that makes it unfair is that they are basically released from any responsibility for answering the door. My OH always strips down to pants and tshirt and it winds me up! He does the same, hides behind the door while I answer it for the millionth time. All I can say to those who think you should leave him alone - try finding someone that shirks any responsibility for answering the door at home attractive. Also, clothes are nice, seeing your OH in certain clothes is nice. Just pants makes it feel like you’re a carer ffs.

LaurieFairyCake · Yesterday 22:43

My DH is the same but he can’t regulate temperature due to long covid and even though he’s also rocking the giant hairy baby look I give him a pass

summer is NOT SEXY

murasaki · Yesterday 22:45

I did tell DP today that the only difference between him, Homer Simpson and Peter Griffin was that he's not fat, but he just laughed. Which was fair enough.

MyWildOliveGoose · Yesterday 22:48

I don’t think I’ve been dressed since Monday. 😅

JuvenileBigfoot · Yesterday 22:50

Our flat is a hotbox. We've both been walking around naked. No issue from either if us.

murasaki · Yesterday 22:53

JuvenileBigfoot · Yesterday 22:50

Our flat is a hotbox. We've both been walking around naked. No issue from either if us.

For some reason that i can't quite pinpoint, naked would have been better than pants. At least it shows commitment!

SleepingStandingUp · Yesterday 22:57

Whereareyourclothes · Yesterday 19:36

Yes to be fair he did stick to the arrangement and many a meal got cooked in a very hot kitchen. He has definitely got the long end of the straw, I nearly got heat stroke on Friday's school run, it was that hot

so what's the problem? you made an agreement, he stuck to it. is he allowed to dictate what you wear because he doesn't want to look at your body?

OnTheBoardwalk · Yesterday 23:03

BauhausOfEliott · Yesterday 21:38

Read what the OP wrote. She said he does them with his camera off.

My firm has been cameras off all week (usually a must to have on) because people said they didn’t want people to see their sweaty faces, maybe they’ve all been naked!

Floppyearedlab · Yesterday 23:09

I can't say I blame him. I was WFH last week and just wore underwear. It was too hot to do otherwise. I did put clothes on to go out or when family came round though.

Thepossibility · Yesterday 23:13

Velumental · Yesterday 21:22

Yeah, this too, I love a perve on my husband in boxers. And he's also bald like OPs husband and never once have I thought he looked like a giant baby in a diaper.

Boxers are a lot sexier than regular underpants. You have to be a male model to look good in normal underpants and boxers would still look less awkward.

ToucheTurtle123 · Yesterday 23:14

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Velumental · Yesterday 23:14

Dyou know op it occurs to me the nakedness wouldn't bothwr me but the entitled idleness would. You've been doing double shift in the same heat he can't wear a t shirt in. He is a massive baby actually .

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IamtheDevilsAvocado · Today 01:30

Whereareyourclothes · Yesterday 19:32

I think shorts are fine. But these are very much pants. They cannot be disguised as shorts in any way!

Not answering door would drive me nuts....

Can you just circumvent and buy some cheap shorts /board shorts...? (what my Oh has been wearing through heatwave...) they're clearly not pants...

And surely they would feel no different to wear from underpants?

SquirrelGG · Today 01:43

Whataflippincircus · Yesterday 19:03

True enough. When you live with someone though, compromises have to be made.

How is him not wearing clothes impacting the person he lives with? Honestly, reading about some of the men MNers seem to have in their lives this is not worthy of a mention.

Bewareofstepfords · Today 01:45

ThroughTheRedDoor · Yesterday 18:54

Is there any greater joy than doing what you want in your own home?

Fine if it were just HIS home!

shhblackbag · Today 01:51

WhatAMarvelousTune · Yesterday 19:12

Well, I spent most of last week working from home in just a pair of knickers, and a tiny strappy vest top that I changed anytime I needed to do a video call. I’d have been a bit annoyed if DH had told me I had to put on more clothes. I was boiling!

Same. I've been working in as little clothes as possible. But I live on my own and have made no demands that a partner go out because I don't feel like it. He's unreasonable for that.

callmeLoretta1 · Today 08:09

When you say 'pants', do you mean pants as opposed to shorts ie long pants (suit pants, trousers, slacks, tracksuit, jeans) or underwear - jocks/underwear/boxers/briefs?

Sorry, I'm not in the UK. Where I am pants simply means trousers.

DirtyGertiefromno30 · Today 09:01

Let it all hang out and chill .

Jellylasagnafortwo · Today 09:08

It’s really sad that you are repulsed by your husband’s body!
Imagine him describing you like that!

Saltysweetspicy · Today 09:41

I'm so confused by this. I wouldn't care at all if DH just went round in his pants. What does it matter? Do you find him repulsive? What exactly is the issue?

MellowZebra · Today 09:52

He sounds like he is quite funny. He kept to his side of the bargain re: chores. This wouldn't bother me at all

AnnaQuayRules · Today 09:55

To be honest, wfh in just a pair of pants sounds really uncomfortable. I'm WFH today and wearing a pair of linen trousers because of I didn't, I'd be sticking to my chair.

He can do what he wants I suppose, but he needs to be answering the door so it's not all on you.

BatchCookBabe · Today 10:48

Bewareofstepfords · Today 01:45

Fine if it were just HIS home!

Exactly!