To have gone for after work drinks tonight?

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This week has been horrendous at work. The office has been hot, pressure from management has been insane, we’ve all worked different hours due to the heat and it’s just been incredibly draining.

We all decided to go to the beach for a few drinks tonight. It was well needed and deserved, even if it was just to sit in the shade and the breeze!

I got home around 10, I’ve had three cocktails. Not huge, I’m not wasted, just pleasantly tipsy. My partner is outraged, he thinks I have a drinking problem and has genuinely suggested I go for counselling for my “alcohol issues”.

WIBU to go?

I think as soon as he started, the first words out of my mouth would have been to tell him to fuck off and that if I want to have a few, I will and the only “issues” I have are him.

He sounds absolutely pathetic and boring.

Who made him the fun police? Agree with others, he’s not upset about the cocktails, he’s sulking because you had fun without him.

He's a mumsnetter isn't he!!

Did you come home chatting while he's watching TV? Might just be pissed off your interrupting his quiet night watching the world cup.

Hopefully he's something and nothing and resolved in the morning

Another controlling Wankbadger. 💐

Your partner needs to fuck off.

He needs to go

Where do thesecontrol freak motherfuckers get off, telling us what we can and cannot do?

Does he usually have issues when you do things with out him?
my guess is you came home late, relaxed, a bit tipsy and having had fun and he didn’t like that so decided to piss on your chips and make you feel bad for daring to have enjoyed your self.
id question why he’s annoyed your happy?

Dweeb. Not hear that word for a long time 🤣🤣

LTB. Controlling behaviour. Partner is a dick.

What else is he controlling about?

Your partner sounds bonkers. Tell him that, if he really thinks you would get a referral for alcohol issues on the back of this one incident, he should go and ask the GP himself. I suspect the GP would start talking about a referral for him for anxiety and control issues.

He’s sucking the fun out of a lovely evening you had with colleagues and friends. He is trying to make you feel bad for 3 drinks.

this won’t be the only area of your life he tries to control and influence. Step back and do a full review. Listen to the Dominator by Lundy Bancroft on audible/read it, it’s quite short. And I think you will quickly realise you need to dump your partner as they are taking away from, not adding to your life and are trying to control what you do and make you feel so bad this time that next time you think twice about accepting work drinks

No, not really. The football wasn’t on, I said hi as I came in the door and he started asking about how much I’d had to drink etc

I can't believe you think this is about alcohol.

He knows rationally that he's not "allowed" to be angry at you for going out but that's exactly what this is. Probably worried about "other men" but knows he can't say it. So he's saying it's alcohol. He's lying. He's controlling. And he's well on his way to dragging you down.

That was my first thought! 🤣

He is being very unreasonable.

He is behaving like a controlling fool.

I really have no time for an insecure man child like this who throws a tantrum because his partner had a good time with her colleagues after a hard week.

Not someone I would stay with.

His reaction is absolutely mental and you’ve done nothing wrong. Does he normally massively overreact to such normal things?

How is your relationship in general? Does he try to control and shame you in other areas?

I’m confused about the retired bit?

Sorry, I meant I no longer work so don't have a boss telling me what to do. DH has been acting a bit bossy this week. Little things like telling me where to park when he rarely drives these days.

Agree with @NoSausageSounds like he’s jealous you went out - but you did ask him, so …

Sorry for some reason I thought it was the OP who said she was retired & that wouldn’t make any sense!

OP, I couldn't live like this. You have a DH not a drink problem. You sound like you had a great time until you got home. I think that speaks volumes. So sorry.