AIBU to wear a floral dress my brother's girlfriend calls white to their wedding? Part 2.

[princesspicker]

Old thread nearly full. Some of you are saying if people had seen the dress straight away the votes would be 99% against me, let’s see about that. At least half the other thread say it’s fine to wear this dress.

From the old thread:

My brother is getting married in three weeks and I’ve bought a fairly expensive dress for his wedding.

The dress: https://www.hobbs.com/product/carly-floral-dress/0126-5675-9022L00-CREAM-MULTI.html

BD’s gf (bride) saw a dress that is similar to my dress. She saw it at my mum’s. It has a pattern but with short sleeves and some ruffle. It is one of my dresses and I had left it at my mums house. It is not the dress I’ll wear for the wedding.

She called that dress white even though it has a pattern. She told mum that it would be inappropriate to wear for the wedding day. Mum and I think she pretended to think it was one of my mum’s options, since it was clearly not something mum would wear anywhere.

This all happened because my mum was showing her all the dress options she had in mind for herself for the wedding.

When bride raised this with mum, mum told her not to worry because she (mum) won’t wear white.

Which is true regardless of if you say the dress is white or cream or whatever.

After this happened, my brother started asking everyone what they would be wearing.

Old thread: www.mumsnet.com/talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/5546975-aibu-to-wear-a-floral-dress-my-brothers-girlfriend-calls-white-to-their-wedding

I think it is too white tbh. I would buy something else. It is lovely your mum contributed to the wedding, but it doesn't make it her wedding event and she doesn't need to have a say on any of the wedding

I am hiding this thread immediately. How absolutely ridiculous to make a second thread about this. You are in the wrong @princesspicker

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Are you the poster who thinks your brothers wedding is “practically my mums wedding “?

You are batshit. No. Don’t wear the dress your brother has asked you not to wear.

What is wrong with you?

Buy a different dress.
Dont do anything to piss off your brother or the woman he has actually chosen to have in his life because you want to win some fucked up power struggle that exists in you and your mums heads.

That's a perfect guest dress to wear lol it's floral !! Wedding dresses are usually plain unless she knows u gunna look like a goddess In it and she feeling insecure maybe ?
Just wear it and ignore u do not panda to this bloody ridiculous bride to be she should be happy your making and effort to wear a classy dress !!!!

@Marwoodsbigbreak Are you the poster who thinks your brothers wedding is “practically my mums wedding “?

Oh. I have to read the first thread now 😆.

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About 40 pages ago!

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It's Hobbs I think so, nail on the head really.

If you have to make a Mumsnet thread about whether a dress is too white to wear to a wedding…..it’s not an appropriate choice.

the BRIDE has asked you not to wear it.

don’t be an arse!

Oh honestly.

Can we sum this up.

OP is a drama lama and has to be the main character at every single event.

People on this thread (like me) think less of her. I have no doubt that people in her RL think less of her.

Get over yourself OP. You need to grow up.

But you have repeatedly said you're annoyed that she is policing what you wear. Either she's asked you not to wear a predominantly light coloured dress or she doesn't care, it can't be both.

My wedding was called off by me. I called it off shortly before the wedding day and had a wedding dress and everything. Stop pretending he walked out on me because he didn’t.

What do you mean by golden child?

Because she so obviously wants to cause an issue. It is really quite simple, she chose a shite dress, bride said something similar was too bridal but OP keeps doubling down on going to wear it. It's the SIL i feel sorry for in all this. Can you imagine her future from now on with the OP as family? Jeez

No, actually. Mostly white/any shade of white regardless of pattern is not appropriate attire.
You don't have to agree with convention.
However, you either wear something else or don't go. It is utterly rude to be the cause of drama at someone wedding, let alone that someone being your SiL to be.

White, in all its forms, is reserved for the bride. Guests are not supposed to pull focus away from the bride and should blend in, not stand out, as one would in pics wearing white.

So did y'all see the OPs post in the original thread where she said the bride was being awful and digging her heels in keeping her (OP's) mother out of things because she wouldn't let the groom wear "his favourite shoes that my mother bought him a few years ago".
I hope he enjoys his life with his new family and gets to keep his nightmare sister and mother at a distance.

Its her wedding! Her day, her everything. Why risk upsetting her? Just don't wear it. You're being selfish tbh.

TBH it’s a lovely dress and not bridal really but the pink one is gorgeous and won’t upset anyone.

I think it's lovely and entirely wedding guest appropriate. I've never understood the 'too white to wear to a wedding' argument. It clearly isn't a bridal dress.

But, the issue has caused so much hooha both here and in your family, I would say wear something else. Do you really want to start off on such a bad footing with your sil if you can possibly avoid it?

Are you calling me special needs? I have clothes at my mums house because I spend time there as a single mum. Completely irrelevant to this conversation. Mum has spent a lot on them. It’s only fair that they show some respect and appreciation instead of policing what we wear.

Thanks. I have the pink one. Bought it for a family occasion (not wedding) a few years ago. Lots of comments on these threads calling it dated, frumpy, polyester, middle aged etc.

Why cause issues with your brother and SIL, they’ve said it’s too white, I’d exchange it for the pink version, which is super pretty!

I think the dress is too white. If I saw someone wear something like that to a wedding I would assume they are attention seeking. There is every other colour out there...

Don’t listen to them. It is a beautiful dress. They probably have 0 class.

Would be hilarious if OP wears the dress and the bridesmaids are in similar and that’s why the SIL was steering her away from it. She’ll look so entitled and attention seeking.