AIBU to wear a floral dress my brother's girlfriend calls white to their wedding? Part 2.

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Old thread nearly full. Some of you are saying if people had seen the dress straight away the votes would be 99% against me, let’s see about that. At least half the other thread say it’s fine to wear this dress.

From the old thread:

My brother is getting married in three weeks and I’ve bought a fairly expensive dress for his wedding.

The dress: https://www.hobbs.com/product/carly-floral-dress/0126-5675-9022L00-CREAM-MULTI.html

BD’s gf (bride) saw a dress that is similar to my dress. She saw it at my mum’s. It has a pattern but with short sleeves and some ruffle. It is one of my dresses and I had left it at my mums house. It is not the dress I’ll wear for the wedding.

She called that dress white even though it has a pattern. She told mum that it would be inappropriate to wear for the wedding day. Mum and I think she pretended to think it was one of my mum’s options, since it was clearly not something mum would wear anywhere.

This all happened because my mum was showing her all the dress options she had in mind for herself for the wedding.

When bride raised this with mum, mum told her not to worry because she (mum) won’t wear white.

Which is true regardless of if you say the dress is white or cream or whatever.

After this happened, my brother started asking everyone what they would be wearing.

Old thread: www.mumsnet.com/talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/5546975-aibu-to-wear-a-floral-dress-my-brothers-girlfriend-calls-white-to-their-wedding

We’ll be at a five thread saga with twists and turns in no time

The Carly dress is in lots of colours/patterns and many are in the sale at the moment. Why not see if Hobbs will swap yours for another colour? The blue ones are very nice.

Sounds like your relationship with your mum is non existing

Too white for a wedding.

its pretty and not bridal looking but not worth upsetting the bride/db etc. they’ve asked for no white, it’s their day, it’s a shame but maybe keep for another occasion?

Why be an entitled brat bride and police the family you are marrying into when they’ve enabled your wedding in the first place?

Even in the reviews for the dress people are saying it’s great for a wedding. I think with pink accessories it will be lovely. It’s cream and pink not white.
If they keep banging on About it I suppose you could exchange for the pale blue version or will they think that’s white too…

Being that the op has been asked not to wear it by the bride, she should find another dress.

Its not difficult. Its not the ops wedding, or her mothers wedding (even though they both think it is) its the bride and grooms wedding.

God, what a drama! Has anyone yet suggested that you should show the dress to the bride and ask her if she’d be ok with you wearing it to the wedding?

So is your mother paying for the whole wedding ? as you talk like she is.
Has the bride the groom the bride's parent/s not contributed a single penny ?

Bride is a nutter. Wear what you want. It’s clearly cream and no one in their right mind is going to mistake you for the bride, or any bride for that matter. It’s a summer dress perfect for weddings.

I wouldn’t know, haven’t spoken to her about it. Just know mum has paid a lot.

I would message the bride with the link to the dress and ask if it's ok, if not switch it to one of the other colours. I don't think there's any need to make it into a big thing.

Definitely too white, and definitely not the dress or you’d have posted it ages ago.

It doesn’t really matter what colour the dress is, it’s now become an issue - so I suppose it depends what’s more important to you, your long-term relationship with your brother and his wife going forward, or being determined to wear the dress you want to for 8 hours or so…

They don't want you to wear it to their wedding, so don't wear it. If you feel that strongly, then don't go to the wedding. With an attitude like yours, OP, I don't think you'd be missed by many.

Several people, but that would be too simple 🙄

You are the entitled ̶b̶r̶a̶t̶, I read the other thread and it seems you are hell bent on upsetting the bride.
You are a jealous bitch and I hope they disinvite you as it would serve you right for trying to spoil their day.
It is HER and HIS day not yours or your Mums! Fucking grow up!

No she’s my best friend after my husband but we both are aware enough to pull each other up when one’s of us is behaving poorly instead of acting like 2 nasty little teenage girls who doesn’t like someone!!!

think why you brother & SIL are acting like this towards you & you mum (aka partner in crime)

It’s the bride’s wedding day. She’s said it’s not appropriate.
why be a dick on someone else’s wedding day for the sake of it?

It doesn’t matter what people on the internet think. The bride doesn’t want you to wear it she’s made that clear and your brothers on board with her, wear it if you so desperately want to cause upset but be aware things like this drag out for years be prepared to have a strained relationship with both moving foreward.

Just wear it and risk upsetting the bride on HER day or exercise a bit of caution and wear something else . It's really tedious to have multiple threads where you don't listen to anyone. It's clear that you've made up your mind.

It's obvious that you're making it all about you and you want to be the centre of attention. It's a dress FFS. Not that big a deal that you could change it and wear the dress you like on some other occasion.

Even if she is being a bit of a bridezilla, it's her big day.

But you do what you want to do.

What a sensible post. I agree 100%. It’s a lovely dress, but there appear to be deeper issues here. The OP is extremely mean spirited and quite bitter.

Out of interest, could you link the dress of yours that she saw and already vetoed please?

Would be interesting to see how similar they are

If it were me, I’d think the bride was being a bit daft but I’d wear something else. Because I think it’s horrid to deliberately upset a bride on her wedding day and I love my brother more than I care about a dress. Pitting yourself against your sister in law is a really stupid game to play.