AIBU to be annoyed by SIL posting about every work shift?

[Mamasamba]

This is driving me crazy! I have name changed for this! Someone gave me perspective before I blow up (lighthearted).
So me and my DP work full-time Monday to Friday (39hour week for both of us-sometimes overtime involved also) my SIL works 2 shifts a week! Not always the same days. Now here is my AIBU. Every time she is due to go into work she texts into the family WhatsApp. “Work tomorrow…have a nice day in the sun!” Or I have work tomorrow…I’m so tired. She’ll send pictures of herself with her uniform on and a sad face with a caption…”do I have to go??” MIL feeds it with “oh poor you” “or you are great” or I’ll make dinner collect it on your way home etc etc. Meanwhile, myself and DP
are sitting here so confused thinking…WE GO IN EVERY DAY!! AIBU to post me going to work every day?!

I would put “look on the bright side, it’s only 2 shifts per week. We have to go in every day”

Look in the bloody mirror!

I would not be able to hold back personally but I hate 'poor me' people. I would possibly retort 'enjoy your shift sil, guess when you only work part time the novelty of posting about it does not wear off too easy'. Actually no i would post every single day 'morning all have a great day, off to my full time job for the day'. Minimum effort people get up my nose.

But true...

Definitely this!

Photo of you arriving home on Friday at 6.30pm, bedraggled. Pointing at the clock, 'Boo hoo, poor me! Home after another 40 hour week. Someone save me!'

Or maybe comment on one of her posts, 'Oh that 8 hour working week must hit so hard! Poor you.'

Well done for this, I am very proud of you 👏

I’d give her the benefit of the doubt OP. It’s annoying, but you don’t have to respond or even let it get to you. Some people don’t realise that they’re communicating this way and it’s just a normal thing to come out with to them. She’s probably not doing it on purpose

This.
Good grief, you can just scroll by whilst rolling your eyes if you like.
Everyone's different, and use social media type apps differently - whilst others never post anything and instead lurk and bitch about others, some see it as "social" media (clue's kind of in the name, really) and post updates /conversation starters with friends and family. Kind of a way of virtual get togethers or chat to keep in touch.
Baffles me why people like the OP don't just mute the chat, or unfriend or whatever in circumstances like this.
I love seeing what others are up to, for example.
When it comes to chat groups getting obsessive, I'd just mute them or turn notifications off so they're not incessantly pinging, and just dip into it every now and again.

Yeah this is the kind of petty unimportant shit that grates away at your soul over time.

I'm with you, it would drive me mad twice a week every week.

You and your husband definitely need to do the same, every shift, for at least a fortnight. Really hammily. Until she fucking stops.

Honestly it's too hot for this kind of nonsense right now ;-)

Is she single, does she live alone?

If so maybe she's just a bit lonely and misses the mundane daily little interactions with family. It's a bit tedious but I'd just ignore it and let MIL do all the chat. If it's DPs family group chat just turn notifications off and check it when you can be bothered.

Exactly. She/he has the opposite of the Midas touch. Managing to turn every situation into something unpleasant.

Urgh this is the sort of thing that would drive me mad! It's the obliviousness to how the world works for many people. I'd probably spend ages mentally crafting a response but then not send it in the interests of family harmony.

^ This, if you can take the comeback from the comeback.
Otherwise maybe mute her.

Mute the family chat

Honestly, maybe it's just her and MIL's sense of humour. I could see Mum and me joking like this, but I doubt my SIL would get it. We're very different people, and she doesn't have our history or the same inside jokes.

Perhaps you could respond with “join the club: just the two shifts is it? All right for some lol!”

I get ya...I have 2 connections that 1 works 2 or 3 days, the other is currently not working and has their days FREEEE of anything...

Yet they post how tired they are. I'm like, dude...I do 40 hrs, then have like 8-10rs running kids about for hobbies, plus housework, looking after a massive garden, all the laundry, trying to cook dinner AND trying to like...not let my chronic health conditions kill me. OH, whilst now also trying to stop my OH having a full blown mental break down (its hard being a male in your 40s working 37 hrs a week)

I post on my family Whatsapp group more than the others because I live alone and I get lonely sometimes with only my cats for company. I just want to engage with them and share the things I do with them. They often don't respond because they're busy living in couples or families and it makes me a bit sad :(

Meh. No one is forcing you to read the messages.

It would be good if you could mute one person in a WhatsApp group.

When MIL offers her a cooked meal to pick up, why isnt DH piping up that he’s been at work all week, and is knackered and he would love a delicious homemade dinner from mum? Saying it in a non sarcastic way of course 🤪. And see what happens

You could try being sympathetic.
You poor bugger, its damned hot today, look on the bright side though, you only work x shifts a week so you can chill out tomorrow / until blah

This is what I was going to suggest. Have some fun with it and praise her everytime she posts something. She literally won't know whether you mean it or not.

I have a cousin who’s constantly posting and whining about the job market, criticising employers etc

….. he’s 35 and has never worked.