AIBU to be annoyed by SIL posting about every work shift?

[Mamasamba]

This is driving me crazy! I have name changed for this! Someone gave me perspective before I blow up (lighthearted).
So me and my DP work full-time Monday to Friday (39hour week for both of us-sometimes overtime involved also) my SIL works 2 shifts a week! Not always the same days. Now here is my AIBU. Every time she is due to go into work she texts into the family WhatsApp. “Work tomorrow…have a nice day in the sun!” Or I have work tomorrow…I’m so tired. She’ll send pictures of herself with her uniform on and a sad face with a caption…”do I have to go??” MIL feeds it with “oh poor you” “or you are great” or I’ll make dinner collect it on your way home etc etc. Meanwhile, myself and DP
are sitting here so confused thinking…WE GO IN EVERY DAY!! AIBU to post me going to work every day?!

That would drive me up the wall. Yes I would start posting the same, you and DH every day. Then how hard your shift/workday was every evening.

Why does MIL indulge her and make her dinner? Is it SIL’s first job, is it hard? Maybe MIL is trying to encourage her but she’s just validating the idea that working is a punishment

Like previous posters said; please do this every day for a week- you and dh. "Work again- have a nice time in the sun all you lucky people who don't have to work every day" @Mamasamba

id be disdainful and dislike someone who posted like the sister in law. I’m not sure it “drips” though, that’s slightly hyperbolic.

Nope…not an nhs role at all!

Her only job…yes she isn’t that young. Shes early 30’s. I just find it so tiresome tbh. Yet at the same time intrigued as to what she things everyone else around her is actually doing everyday 🤣

YES MIL does this “Poor SIL…she has to go to work”

I would reply “oh poor you; imagine if you had to work 5 days a week like me & DH! How would you cope.” But I’m a bitch. 😂

🤣🤣 I’m nearly there tbh!

She’s lonely and she hates her pt job and your mil is supporting her. Perhaps they are really horrible to her there? This seems totally normal behaviour to me, and if my sisters/friends were doing it I’d joke along to keep them going.

It just so happens that I’m off today. So I’m sat having a cuppa and the usual “im off to work” message came through so I was tempted to write. “Have fun! I’m off today!” But I left it!

No she has friends there. She goes out with them. She has been there quite a while and is not a majorly taxing job physically or mentally tbh…

@Anewappa we must be reading a different thread. I don’t see it at all. Only disdain, sarcasm and unnecessary goading comes from you towards OP.

2 words -

Let Them.

Absolute waste of your energy to even begin to care.

This sounds like my sister constantly taking pictures in her uniform and posting on facebook and WhatsApp- nhs hero

I have an old friend who does this on Instagram, she only works two days and makes a big song and dance and fitting in the dog walk and laundry alongside it. She even posts her To Do lists on her other days off complaining about how to get it all done, and it’s everything we all do alongside work (she has no children, and a lovely partner too fyi). It riles me up too, and that’s not directly to me!

I genuinely don’t know what these people think, I’m very conscious that I have an ‘easy’ job compared to someone like a nurse on 12 hour overnight shifts, so I’m reluctant to complain about mine. I imagine you’re very conscientious, so hard to repeatedly hear from someone self centred. No advice, but have a good rant about it sometimes!

Just ignore it. If your SIL is the golden child and gets all the mollycoddling from the rest of the family then she always will and she will be emotionally a 12 year old for the rest of her life. I came to accept this about my own SIL. I have as little do do with her or her PIL as I can and I will be doing nothing to help PIL when they become dependent. SIL and her kids who are apparently so much more important than my kid can do all of that. I'll be busy living my life like the responsible adult I am.

@Mamasamba I would write ‘I know, it’s a bummer isn’t it? Unfortunately we seem to have to do it every week day, every week 😭’

I know what you mean. I have a family member who works 3 hours a day term time only and it’s often ‘oh poor so-and-so has been at work / has to go to work’ etc from FIL. Meantime he often forgets I work at all (‘oh have you been at work today?’ despite me working full time and have always done so!

Ps if you and your dh are in five day a week jobs, I’d guess you have a career job where she’s on a low paying job/ working but not really getting enough money a week? That’s probably where it’s coming from. Maybe they won’t give her more hours so she begrudges having to go to work for money that doesn’t really help much. Could be tons of reasons!

I “reacted” to this post because it made me laugh, but the nearest I could find to a laugh emoji was the “thanks” - so consider this my way of praising you for putting on your socks 😂

Do it.
And add "But Poor DH has to work <sad face>".

Meanwhile, myself and DP
are sitting here so confused thinking…WE GO IN EVERY DAY!! AIBU to post me going to work every day?!

So say that then.

'Well obviously there's no sympathy from us, SIL. We go in five days a week. Off you trot, and enjoy your other three days off. 😂'

I dare you.

Lol. Off to her "co-lab", is she?

I love this, yes this.

You need to do a thank god it over looking forward to day after 5 days on the bounce post