AIBU to be annoyed by SIL posting about every work shift?

[Mamasamba]

This is driving me crazy! I have name changed for this! Someone gave me perspective before I blow up (lighthearted).
So me and my DP work full-time Monday to Friday (39hour week for both of us-sometimes overtime involved also) my SIL works 2 shifts a week! Not always the same days. Now here is my AIBU. Every time she is due to go into work she texts into the family WhatsApp. “Work tomorrow…have a nice day in the sun!” Or I have work tomorrow…I’m so tired. She’ll send pictures of herself with her uniform on and a sad face with a caption…”do I have to go??” MIL feeds it with “oh poor you” “or you are great” or I’ll make dinner collect it on your way home etc etc. Meanwhile, myself and DP
are sitting here so confused thinking…WE GO IN EVERY DAY!! AIBU to post me going to work every day?!

You could just post this, every morning you go to work but she has the day off:

"Off to work! have a good day all xx [SIL] what are you doing on your day off today?"

Every. Single. Day.

If it’s the family whatsapp I would start posting every day or when she posts add “ us too just like most Monday to Fridays”

We’d all love to read about it though!

Why do you care? Just ignore it.
It’s just something to roll your eyes at and then forget. Life’s not fair so don’t let it get to you.
Or you could be bitchy and comment ‘well done X! So great you managed to do something most of us have to do every day! Go you’! You could even post anonymously.

I’d reply ‘Same, and the day after, and the one after that and the day after that. Well every day Monday to Friday. Must be nice to only work so little’

Your DH should just respond to his sister one day with a message saying "Sis, you do realise some of us have to go to work EVERY DAY, don’t you??" That’s what my brother would do!

mildly irritating but not something to hyper focus on.

Yeah people are narcissists these days. Think it started with Covid and nhs workers posing for selfies to get praise

Why don’t you and DH start to do the same? Post on the group every working day.

Kill it with kindness and have some fun

"Poor you, that sounds really tough"

"Well done managing another shift this week" etc

She won't know if you're truly sympathetic or being sarcastic

This! Please do this and let us know how long before they react 😂😂.

Yes this. And on days when you're both working reply with 'me too! 😭😭😭'

You could…..
Post similar comments of yours and OH work patterns etc
Comment a sickly sweet “oh dear, poor you” to SIL
Leave the family chat group permanently

I don’t think that you should comment but your DH should. It’s his sister. So every time when she is commenting he can reply: the same here, Im at work today and tomorrow, if she says that it’s different for him he could answer Mamasamba was at work too today and will be tomorrow.
SIL is going this poor me act for MIL to get special treatment so he needs to challenge her.
By the way if SIL has health problems and physically difficult work of course I won’t do anything of this sort.

So I would play her at her own game. You and DH send identical posts every day for the next fortnight and every time you have to do O//T. Big pouty faces etc. Perhaps even a message from your DP saying - ‘will you have time to make some supper for us to pick up on the way home?’

She’ll get the message.

I would reply to them all with things like

‘same!’ Or if you’re off, just a simple ‘DH too!’

then it doesn’t look like you’re trying to one up her but you’re making the point that you are also working

Do it OP. A bit of reality for the SIL
and MIL.

Just start posting the same every time you go to work. She’ll get the message.

When she writes, ‘work tomorrow..have a nice day in the sun!’ just reply-‘we’ll be at work, as well. Like we are five days a week!’

This would wind me up so much!!

I’d reply. I know how you feel, imagine how I feel doing it 5 days a week. With a crying face emoji. That’s all it needs.

I hear you!

I have a sibling who works 3 days a week as a GP, spouse never has worked.
Me and dh work 5 days a week, and other sibling similar.

How often have I heard from dm how GP sibling works so hard, needs to rest, so difficult for them and the pay isn't that good...
Or from sibling themselves about how hard up they are, how can they afford, could there ever be a family who struggle so much to pay into their savings...
I bite my tongue to suggest that there aren't many jobs that can support a family comfortably on one person working 3 days a week.

This is all so childish.

Or the OP could just mute notifications or be grown up and ignore it and just vex to her DH.

Mute the channel. Take control. It's what my partner and I do when the family chat annoys us - and it can get very annoying! Think, uploading of nieces and nephews' school reports, and some of those are LONG. Also, pics of dance/piano/karate classes, which is fine if it were only 1 or 2 pics... But not 20.