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AIBU to be annoyed by SIL posting about every work shift?

146 replies

Mamasamba · 25/06/2026 07:03

This is driving me crazy! I have name changed for this! Someone gave me perspective before I blow up (lighthearted).
So me and my DP work full-time Monday to Friday (39hour week for both of us-sometimes overtime involved also) my SIL works 2 shifts a week! Not always the same days. Now here is my AIBU. Every time she is due to go into work she texts into the family WhatsApp. “Work tomorrow…have a nice day in the sun!” Or I have work tomorrow…I’m so tired. She’ll send pictures of herself with her uniform on and a sad face with a caption…”do I have to go??” MIL feeds it with “oh poor you” “or you are great” or I’ll make dinner collect it on your way home etc etc. Meanwhile, myself and DP
are sitting here so confused thinking…WE GO IN EVERY DAY!! AIBU to post me going to work every day?!

OP posts:
ThisAgileScroller · 25/06/2026 16:49

Id Just keep replying yeah me too!!! And yesterday and tomorrow 🤣

Harry12345 · 25/06/2026 16:50

Everyone bending over to get at the op and make out she’s the issue, most people I know would find this annoying and quite bizarre behaviour from an adult!

Chucklebunnie · 25/06/2026 16:56

thefourthbeatle · 25/06/2026 13:53

Why do people fritter their lives away with 'Family Whatsapp', 'Facebook' and so on? I dipped a toe into the latter 20 years ago and was surprised to find usually entertaining friends descending into supplying photographs of their breakfast, 'selfies' in bars with their arm around the pub bore, requesting that I become a 'friend' of their dog at its new 'profile', & so on. Even disliked former school acquaintances attempting to 'add' me in an apparent attempt to bolster their total of 'friends'. I lasted a couple of weeks.

More recently I refused to join a 'Family Whatsapp' group, started by a demanding step-cousin that few care for. Of closer family only my mother joined (emotional blackmail) - she apparently gradually desisted from 'posting' - and I understand the thing ground to a halt in a whirlwind of bitchiness about those that had boycotted the petty charade.

Leave the wretched group, go out into the fresh air, and do something useful and memorable.

that's pretty impressive given that until September 2006 facebook was only for US university students.

FreyaW · 25/06/2026 17:00

Return the favour..daily... both of you..and ask the group.. who's making dinner for us?
Mawahaha

Harry12345 · 25/06/2026 17:01

thefourthbeatle · 25/06/2026 13:53

Why do people fritter their lives away with 'Family Whatsapp', 'Facebook' and so on? I dipped a toe into the latter 20 years ago and was surprised to find usually entertaining friends descending into supplying photographs of their breakfast, 'selfies' in bars with their arm around the pub bore, requesting that I become a 'friend' of their dog at its new 'profile', & so on. Even disliked former school acquaintances attempting to 'add' me in an apparent attempt to bolster their total of 'friends'. I lasted a couple of weeks.

More recently I refused to join a 'Family Whatsapp' group, started by a demanding step-cousin that few care for. Of closer family only my mother joined (emotional blackmail) - she apparently gradually desisted from 'posting' - and I understand the thing ground to a halt in a whirlwind of bitchiness about those that had boycotted the petty charade.

Leave the wretched group, go out into the fresh air, and do something useful and memorable.

Hahaha the irony of you writing all that on this! You can be on a watsapp chat and still go out for fresh air!

ClayPotaLot · 25/06/2026 17:02

It does sound annoying in that petty, irritating way.

I would be tempted to post a picture of me in the garden with a cocktail and "This is us! Thanks for keeping the world turning!"

MumsTheWordYouKnow · 25/06/2026 17:04

ALovelyPinkUnicorn · 25/06/2026 07:14

This, it’s like the posts on here moaning about what people post on their own social media!

Edited

Not the same. It would rile me as insensitive to those of us working 5 days a week. It’s not social media. It is a message to her family.

Anewappa · 25/06/2026 17:29

MumsTheWordYouKnow · 25/06/2026 17:04

Not the same. It would rile me as insensitive to those of us working 5 days a week. It’s not social media. It is a message to her family.

presumably you don’t enjoy your job?

can’t say I’d be envious about someone working 2 shifts a week because, well I love my job 🤷‍♀️

MumsTheWordYouKnow · 25/06/2026 17:58

Anewappa · 25/06/2026 17:29

presumably you don’t enjoy your job?

can’t say I’d be envious about someone working 2 shifts a week because, well I love my job 🤷‍♀️

I love my job too, so no it’s more the irritation of lack of self awareness of OPs SIL going to work a couple of days a week. What an utter moaner over nothing.

Anewappa · 25/06/2026 17:59

MumsTheWordYouKnow · 25/06/2026 17:58

I love my job too, so no it’s more the irritation of lack of self awareness of OPs SIL going to work a couple of days a week. What an utter moaner over nothing.

That’s my point.

it wouldn’t rile me because it holds no appeal. So why would I be pissed off?

Sherararara · 25/06/2026 18:00

She’s just after attention. Just pathetic really.

PyongyangKipperbang · 25/06/2026 18:06

I hid a relative on FB because of stuff like this. Her work wasnt particularly onerous, but the way she banged on about it you would have thought that she was the only person in the world with a job. Family gossips says that she just deeply resents having to work at all and thinks her husband should provide for everything, but still wants the flashy lifestyle that they can't afford without two incomes.

daleylama · 25/06/2026 18:10

Chucklebunnie · 25/06/2026 16:56

that's pretty impressive given that until September 2006 facebook was only for US university students.

Not quite. December 11, 2005: Universities and colleges in Australia (along with those in New Zealand) were added to the Facebook network.
September 26, 2006: The platform was opened up to the general public worldwide

thefourthbeatle · 25/06/2026 18:21

Harry12345 · 25/06/2026 17:01

Hahaha the irony of you writing all that on this! You can be on a watsapp chat and still go out for fresh air!

10 minutes spent panning ludicrous modern habits whilst taking in the dawn sunlight on a Nashville, Tennessee, backporch versus hours and hours laboriously picking over triviality via an addictive device in your pocket 🤔🤯😩

Anewappa · 25/06/2026 18:32

thefourthbeatle · 25/06/2026 18:21

10 minutes spent panning ludicrous modern habits whilst taking in the dawn sunlight on a Nashville, Tennessee, backporch versus hours and hours laboriously picking over triviality via an addictive device in your pocket 🤔🤯😩

Sure @thefourthbeatle sure

Leave the wretched group, go out into the fresh air, and do something useful and memorable.

😂

Harry12345 · 25/06/2026 18:33

thefourthbeatle · 25/06/2026 18:21

10 minutes spent panning ludicrous modern habits whilst taking in the dawn sunlight on a Nashville, Tennessee, backporch versus hours and hours laboriously picking over triviality via an addictive device in your pocket 🤔🤯😩

I spent only 5 mins whilst sitting by a loch in 27 degrees in Scotland 😊

Zov · Yesterday 10:15

AnonyMumAuDHD · 25/06/2026 13:29

It’s meant to be a lighthearted thread? Did you miss that?

Except it's not really is it? It's not 'lighthearted?'

Zov · Yesterday 10:16

Anewappa · 25/06/2026 18:32

Sure @thefourthbeatle sure

Leave the wretched group, go out into the fresh air, and do something useful and memorable.

😂

The irony is @thefourthbeatle's post is off the scale! 😆

Zov · Yesterday 10:22

Am I the only one who's in my house whilst posting on Mumsnet? Confused Should I take a drive to Rhyl beach, and post from there, to fit in with the 'in crowd.' Grin

ACynicalDad · Yesterday 10:29

I'd post every shift for a week, then move onto cooking dinner, kids to bed and if it didn't stop taking a dump. Is MIL the SIL's mum?

Anewappa · Yesterday 11:14

ACynicalDad · Yesterday 10:29

I'd post every shift for a week, then move onto cooking dinner, kids to bed and if it didn't stop taking a dump. Is MIL the SIL's mum?

Or just enjoy your down time and mute the chat

not very mumsnetty though

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