OP, yanbu to be appalled.
MN posters always excuse the vilest of behaviour by men, a huge feature of this site....🙄. Hard to believe they are female posters at times, such is their commitment to bending themselves out of shape to excuse the very worst behaviour.
The arrogance of some men is truly revolting.
I am delighted that women now report this crime and I have spoken to my daughters on this very subject as teens.
It is a crime.
Funnily enough a 4 years ago an incident was reported by a 15 year old whose parents saw it on her phone, sent by a peer from a nearby boys school.
His parents were beside themselves when the police called to their house and cautioned him. They were both appalled, furious and mortified.
It was all a funny prank, not.
Obviously it went around the two schools they attend, single sex secondaries.
I haven't heard of anything since, as I think for that large circle that all know each other, the embarrassment and pure mortification, and no doubt fury of their parents, would have put much needed manners on them.
Two other boys the same year grabbed another boys phone and said some highly sexually things about his good looking mother for a joke while in school.
They mistakenly sent it to his family WhatsApp group.
There was absolute murder as a result.
Again reported to the police.
It went to elderly family members.
It was in May and the boys were permitted to do their exams in a separate area and were advised to find another place for September.
Both their families were devastated, as were the boys.
The school sent out a scorched earth email setting out their expectations and that any boy who brought the schools name into disrepute, by association, would be removed.
That was 4 years ago when my boys were still there.....not a single incident since.
I think strong public consequences for some men would dramatically reduce this.