AIBU to tell my friend her partner sent me an explicit photo

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Just woken up to find my best mates partner has sent me a dick pic with a message saying he wants me 🤢🤮 I have to tell her don't I

It's probably the heat making me more grumpy than usual but I do wish posters would at least read all OP's posts before commenting on ancient history.
Apologies for an off topic rant but I feel better now. 🤗

I don't think that was meant for you.

Looking at the history of how you get on etc it doesn't sound like he has any interest in you, and he would have to be incredibly stupid to send that sort of pic and declare he wants you. It doesn't make sense.

Yes but drip feeding is incredibly annoying and lazy. I know you can filter by "all posts by op" but it's still frustrating.

I'm normally against the "must have a small wang" jokes if a man buys a big car etc (what if they just like big cars, my old Jag was a MUCH nicer place to be than a Ford KA on a long journey) or aren't very proficient at parking. In this case I also agree here that there is no need to make the insult

But there's also no need for lots of nice things, like hot churros with caramel sauce, the condensation on the outside of a crisp glass of riesling, or a triple fried egg sandwich with chilli sauce and chutney. There is no need for an insult, but this guy's behaviour is so abhorrent that I'm 100% ok with it.

I reckon we can come up with some brilliant ones

Found the sender!

you must be, surely, because nobody in their right mind or stage of evolution would think this is OK

To quote @RedToothBrush :

"he doesn't have the OPs telephone number. Instead he tracked down her social media account and sent a message. He can't have been that drunk to be able to manage this"

He did it deliberately. It wasn't an accident.

"he would have to be incredibly stupid to send that sort of pic"

No, not stupid: entitled.

He felt entitled to sexually harass OP in her own home.

2 possible outcomes from the sender's POV:

1. OP receives the message and gleefully books a travelodge for an afternoon of grubby, guilt-ridden intercourse. Not his guilt, obviously. He gets what he wanted.

2. OP is horrified and tells her friend. "But darling, why would I do that? I never speak to her!". Plausable deniability from someone with the IQ of a dried cranberry

I wonder whether it was sent to you by accident instead of another woman. If he was drunk and had recently sent you a random video (which is his normal behaviour) then it could be that he has clicked you instead of the person it was intended for.

Your friend needs to be asking to review his messages to see if he has been having an affair before she makes any decision on whether to try to forgive and move on or not. This could actually be even worse than just sending to her friend out of the blue, and could be the start of her finding out some awful truths.

Good on you for sharing with her, and I hope that nothing blows back on you (like he doesn’t try to get her to shut you out etc) - you were a good friend and did the right thing

Your poor friends. You aren’t much of one.

Tell the cheating, dirty fucker that you are reporting him to the police for cyber flashing.

Have I missed something? Yes he's a sleaze but where did we decide he's also a paedophile who wants to send dick pics to young girls? And it isn't for her to sort beyond leaving him. She's not his Mom. She isn't there to stop him doing stuff

And even if it was a mistake, ops name is very similar to someone else etc, her mates dickhead husband is sending picks of his dick to other women. She deserves to know THAT!!

Yeh but seriously ? Sending his partner a message going on about the size of it is totally inappropriate and ridiculous. It just looks really immature. I don’t agree with his behaviour at all regardless of the size of his penis .

We don't know if he even has kids. It's OP who has the daughter.

So glad your friend has been supportive of you, OP. I also can’t believe how many people are saying they would just ignore it.

I’d just forward it to her and say ‘guessing this wasn’t meant for me 😂’ and let her deal with it from there.

You'd send a laughing emoji after someone has sexually harassed you? Can you explain what is funny about it?

Neither do I. I'm not saying the insult is all she should (or could choose) to do, but finding out it's a crime, it's utterly disgusting and he's actively being laughed at may cool his ardour.

I think that his kind of moron will find humiliation much more damaging to his ego than a knock on the door from the local constabulary

What the hell???!

No way. I would have called the police non- emergency line and reported him. There is a reason this is a crime.

Unbelievable. Lets feed him with jokes instead of reporting the perv to the police to keep other women safe.

Amazed those people who seem to think this is all a mountain out of a molehill. That disgusting man deserves everything he gets, and his partner deserves to know.

How do some people get to a place where a dick pic from your friend’s husband is just not a big deal?

Laughing at perverts apparently cools their ardour. Take note. 😱

He’s sent a dick pic to his partner’s friend. What makes you think he won’t do the same in years to come when his daughter and her friends are 17/18? This sleaze bag needs the fear of God putting up him by police action.

Eh? The guy commits a criminal offence and you would just ignore it?

Very good advice