AIBU to feel annoyed about my daughter's dads wife for Father's Day ?

[annwinters]

I’m so pissed off at my kids dad’s wife! I have found out today from my little girl who’s only 6, that her dad’s wife has taken her shopping this week to buy her dad a Father’s Day gift. I was going to take her today to do it but she told me that his wife had taken her this week. I called her dad and he told me that yeah she had taken her and it’s no big deal.

I am so angry. Before anyone says anything I’m not jealous - me and him were never in a proper relationship and we’re both married to people.

I’ve done Father’s Day gifts always but he’s never bothered. I got a snotty text last year telling me that he didn’t want me to get him presents from our daughter as it “blurs boundaries” (obviously instigated by his wife!!!)

So basically I’m pushed out and can’t do anything for my daughter to acknowledge her dad?

Aibu to tell him to tell his wife to back off and stop pretending there this happy little family? She only needs to get gifts from her kid to her husband and leave us alone

I'm not jealous
Ok love

He asked you to stop. Respect that and be glad you have one less job to do!

And what if there isn’t one? I have remained single since we split 8 years ago. We both continued to help our DS buy gifts for the other until DS became an adult. My ex’s new partner dod not get involved.

That said, in this scenario if the ex and his new partner prefer to buy their own gifts and have asked the OP not to buy, then that’s ok. I just hope someone will help the DD buy for her mum.

......I know people like to side with o.p here but come on....

In this case as to which I was referring the op is married so one would assume the step dad will fill that spot .

This isn't about you though. Fathers day is about him and his daughter getting to give him something which has been catered to already. Yabu

Why on earth would you want to spend your money and effort on him? The wife has done you a big favour. I hope your little girl hasn’t been dumped in the middle of all this pettiness.

See this big of rage bait did its job … 6 pages in, the OP does not return, and you are arguing between yourselves / driving engagement on the site.

It sometimes feels like a full 50% of any remotely interesting threads fall into this category. It think we are largely casting judgement on non-existent people about their non-existent problems on here these days.

The family unit in their household is dad, his wife and your daughter. His wife should be taking her to do this as its something theyll be doing at their household.

It's his custodial time. He gets to determine what the children do. It's awful. I know. I understand your pain. If you want the new wife to back off you will probably have to get a solicitor to add additional terms to your child custody agreement if you think he will sign it.

This is something she should do and is a good thing. You need to back off.

YABU. You were never in a proper relationship with him anyway so why do you care? This is purely jealousy.

Yes I've started clicking see all if OP hasn't replied a page in then ignoring if theres only the OP. There are tons of them!

Sorry OP but you sound seethingly jealous. Maybe do some shadow work and inner healing? I'm not taking the piss or beingvsnarky, it'll do you no good holding on to this, learn to let it go. He is not yours. He belongs to your daughter. You have no part in his life. Harsh, but true. Xxx

I could not be angry at this and I'd expect him to sort himself out or his new partner to do it for him.
I don't do it for my child... He has a partner who can arrange it or he just gets time with her to make him breakfast or something.

This is honestly a non issue like you're looking for a reason to cause drama. Although you might not be, that's how it appears.