Shall I go out on my own tonight

[Jammydodger70]

I have a hotel room booked for tonight, so that me & a friend can go to a club night. Unfortunately she has cried off sick & the hotel is already paid for & non refundable.
I'm not worried about the money, but I've got itchy feet & still want to go out dancing! None of my other friends can go at this short notice. Some people do go on their own & just dance & chat. I have never done this & I'm worried about looking/feeling weird & lonely.
The other dilemma is this. I've been chatting/flirting with a man for a while who will be there tonight. Last month he walked me back to the hotel & we had a few kisses. It was lovely so I asked if he'd be there tonight. At which point he said he would be, but he's in a relationship. Just for the record I'm not!
If I go on my own how am I going to look in front of him & his mates? A desperately lonely woman? Or will I look like a stalker to them? When I imagine myself there tonight I keep thinking of the dental receptionist in Only Fools & Horses who kept popping up everywhere after Del Boy broke off their date & got back with Raquel.
This makes me feel that I should not go to the club tonight. I won't look & feel like a stalker then; but why should I be the one to not go because a man has been a complete dick head? Shall I stay in or go on my own & hold my head up high?

Which is up to her/him. And no, I am not insufferable. All I have done is replied to the persistent line of prodding me into having a debate about women which I did not want to have. I have replied, and the person is still seeking that discussion. If I had confidence it was a discussion they really wanted I might be tempted to reply. But they really want I suspect is to rile me and have some sort of row. Which I really don’t want. That to me is insufferable.

Jesus there are some odd people on MN.

OP, I personally would go, and would just ignore the guy if he's there. Go and have a dance and you'll probably see people you know. You will have people to talk to. It might be a bit weird, but you won't know til you're there. If the guy comes over, just say something like, I'm not here to see you, can you leave me alone please. And carry on dancing. Have fun!

Why did you bother starting this thread OP? You’ve told us lies. How does it work in your head, you ask us advice based on half truths. And if we support you going based on that you can justify going?

• the man is married
• he’s got children
• he’s a cheat
• You’re in a relationship
• so you’re a cheat too, because you flirted, walked home alone with him, kissed him, mentally cheating by obsessing about him, planning to meet him

Go, the two of you are made for each other. I feel sorry for his wife, their children and your partner.

Hope the sex is great, and that it’s worth the havoc and damage ye both wreak.

you are so desperately defensive, I can't help but think, there was no friend, you booked this hotel specifically for yourself just to trail this man, or fingers crossed bump into him at said club. So this may not be case, but if that's what I get from it all, yes he probably will think you are stalking him.

How many people are gonna be there? I would go. you like the music, you like dancing. what possible reason would you have to stay in a hotel room? Put yourself first.

I can't believe how many people are misunderstanding your posts.
You didn't know he was in a relationship.
You have every right to go to the club on your own. His presence there should not be a reason to stop you enjoying the club of your choice.
If he approaches you, you only need to tell him you're not interested in someone who is already in a relationship.
Have fun!

I’d definitely still go and stay in the hotel but I’d either make a night of it in the hotel with a bottle of wine, room service and bubble bath, or go out elsewhere.

In complete honesty I think dancing on your own may look a little weird, especially the fact you’ll be obviously on your own where he’s going to be. I’d take yourself for a nice meal and drink somewhere else if you care what he thinks.

@LoveHearts69

who cares what a load of randoms think?!

I’m not in to drama and this has drama and humiliation stamped all over it

FAO this is the second night you’ve had at the hotel. Has your sick friend gone home or she’s still staying at the hotel

"As far as the guy goes, if he's not married, he's fair game"

Morals of an alley cat there, I see. 👍

So this is actually the second night you’ve had at the hotel. Has your sick friend gone home or she’s still staying at the hotel

Does this fella play rugby?

How have you been to her house to check on her when you said you stayed at the hotel last night with her @Jammydodger70 ?

Haha I just twigged about that too!

What? Where did she say they were at the hotel last night

Jammydodger70 · Today 05:52
I have a hotel room booked for tonight

It's the first sentence of the OP.