Shall I go out on my own tonight

[Jammydodger70]

I have a hotel room booked for tonight, so that me & a friend can go to a club night. Unfortunately she has cried off sick & the hotel is already paid for & non refundable.
I'm not worried about the money, but I've got itchy feet & still want to go out dancing! None of my other friends can go at this short notice. Some people do go on their own & just dance & chat. I have never done this & I'm worried about looking/feeling weird & lonely.
The other dilemma is this. I've been chatting/flirting with a man for a while who will be there tonight. Last month he walked me back to the hotel & we had a few kisses. It was lovely so I asked if he'd be there tonight. At which point he said he would be, but he's in a relationship. Just for the record I'm not!
If I go on my own how am I going to look in front of him & his mates? A desperately lonely woman? Or will I look like a stalker to them? When I imagine myself there tonight I keep thinking of the dental receptionist in Only Fools & Horses who kept popping up everywhere after Del Boy broke off their date & got back with Raquel.
This makes me feel that I should not go to the club tonight. I won't look & feel like a stalker then; but why should I be the one to not go because a man has been a complete dick head? Shall I stay in or go on my own & hold my head up high?

What a find!! That is so the op!!

interestingly though Neither of us are single.

ew @Jammydodger70 you should be ashamed of yourself.
Although… given he sounds he was trying to put you off coming tonight - I reckon you’re about to make a giant t*t of yourself if you do go tonight

Op has disappeared now she’s been outed for her other thread. Not sure what’s she wants people to say?!

event; but I'd be lying if I said he wasn't an influence on my decision to go on my own. Nothing can develop from this connection though, & nothing will. He feels it too, we've discussed it last month.
Is it going to look like I'm going so that I can chase him? Will I look like a pain in the ass hanger on, a spare part?

yep, as many of us guess…. That is why you’re back tonight

and in answer to your question…. Yes and Yes

If she goes… she’ll get her comeuppance tonight

Maybe your friend has blown out cos she is worried she will be third wheel to you and this bloke.

X

Presumably now you know he's a dick, youll be having nothing to do with him. So he's no longer relevent in any way to your life and choices. What he thinks, what his friends thinks are of no importance. Besides, if he approaches and you cut him, it'll be obvious to him and his mates that you're not there because you're interested in him.

I would 100% go to the hotel and maybe to a nice bar/dinner but, i would avoid the club to go dancing as the guy you are interested in is there and it would look a bit weird to go there on your own and dance whilst you know he is there with his friends and he had informed you that he has a girlfriend. Do you have anyone who could come in place of your friend?

OP go!

Firstly the bloke can go fuck himself. You've done things wrong so dont even let it entertain your head.

Go! When i was young and single and no kids i often sat at home after friends cancelled. One day I was like nope im going and did it.
It feels a bit weird at first but after a few drinks and some dancing you honestly dont even realise youre alone.

Go to the hotel, put on some music have a few drinks and go to the club and enjoy yourself.

Just make sure someone knows where you're going and let them know youre at the hotel safe at the end of the night for safety.

op, please go.. a few years ago I was walking for a week with my fiancé- no husband. He got called back to work urgently and I decided to stay in France. (For the 4 remaining days) I skied in the morning sometimes with an instructor or on my own then had lunch went back to hotel to either spa or sleep! At dinner time, I got dressed, took a book and went for dinner! It was one of my most memorable holidays ever! I never lacked for company or drinks (funny enough) I met and chatted to loads of people (nothing romantic) but even got on to the dance floor on the last night by myself. Defo in my memory book of all the things I had down in my youth… just go..for you. Don’t text the love interest. His affections are otherwise engaged elsewhere go for yourself. You will make friends… worst case if you don’t feel confident you can just go back to the hotel. But do go, have fun and be safe!

I’ll never forget going out for a night out 10ish years ago. My friend said his mum was going out that night too we might bump into her. We did bump into her and she was having a blast! On her own. Her friend had let her down and she wanted to go out so she did. She was 50 at the time, looked stunning and was having a great time. I found that really inspirational. I don’t think many people would find it weird.

I’m going to assume you are either young or you don’t have children. Because I can’t think of anything BETTER than being in a hotel room on my own😂

Honestly if you’re comfortable going out on your own to a club then I say go for it and enjoy yourself! Whose cares.

I'm 54 . I wouldn't be sat in a hotel room rather than go out either.

And was the same 2 years ago when my kids were younger

It was last night people and the op has scarpered.

it was first posted at 05.52 this morning

Oh gosh so it was. She’s still scarpered though, did when her previous thread was found it seems.

It’s difficult to say. I have a boyfriend, but am used to doing stuff by myself. I don’t think that in itself is the issue. I simply would not feel safe going out in the night alone, especially if I needed to get transport back to the hotel. Is the club near the hotel?

I prob wouldn't go on my own no it's such a pity your friend let you down I was in similar situation was invited to a friend's birthday which I went to but didn't know any of the others, well not really had a really good time away but at least there was a group of us going.
I was undecided as to whether or not go as Im very anxious I even had to stay in a different hotel as I booked 2 late.
If you had anyone to go with I'd say go but not on your own pity your man in a relationship.

Hope the OP went for it...

But you are still talking to him knowing he’s in a relationship?

Have some decency.

honour dancing have a fun time but now you know he’s in a relationship cut all contact it’s not a good look. Sorry if that sounds harsh but you are asking for opinions on here and that’s what people think.

I totally agree with the above comment, be careful walking back or sharing the hotel details etc.

i would personally go and have the best dancing night ever until they close the club! Why not? Just enjoy, have few drinks, dance dance dance dance, go back to the hotel or home witch-ever is closest, order nice breakfast, go for a coffee outside and just Enjoy!!!!

What happened??

It was. The basic reading comprehension on here is pretty appalling.

Why wouldn’t you just go, dance and enjoy the hotel room to yourself?!
presumably things aren’t going anywhere with this man and you’ve ended it? No idea why you bothered texting him and asking if he’d be there, but why do you care what he thinks? Just go and enjoy and ignore him

Ooh this changes everything!

She barely engaged on that one either.