Shall I go out on my own tonight

[Jammydodger70]

I have a hotel room booked for tonight, so that me & a friend can go to a club night. Unfortunately she has cried off sick & the hotel is already paid for & non refundable.
I'm not worried about the money, but I've got itchy feet & still want to go out dancing! None of my other friends can go at this short notice. Some people do go on their own & just dance & chat. I have never done this & I'm worried about looking/feeling weird & lonely.
The other dilemma is this. I've been chatting/flirting with a man for a while who will be there tonight. Last month he walked me back to the hotel & we had a few kisses. It was lovely so I asked if he'd be there tonight. At which point he said he would be, but he's in a relationship. Just for the record I'm not!
If I go on my own how am I going to look in front of him & his mates? A desperately lonely woman? Or will I look like a stalker to them? When I imagine myself there tonight I keep thinking of the dental receptionist in Only Fools & Horses who kept popping up everywhere after Del Boy broke off their date & got back with Raquel.
This makes me feel that I should not go to the club tonight. I won't look & feel like a stalker then; but why should I be the one to not go because a man has been a complete dick head? Shall I stay in or go on my own & hold my head up high?

I reckon the Op went out last night and it ended in abject humiliation.

Hopefully lesson learned. You aren’t single. He isn’t single. It’s grotty.

What a horrible thing to say.

I hope OP went out or stayed in but whatever she did she's feeling happy.

I also don't know why everyone thinks the other thread is such a gotcha moment - it's basically saying the same thing.

The only thing I'd be worried about here is that the OP is safe.

Someone hasn’t bothered to read the other thread from this op

she’s not single
it’s all… grotty

I did read it. She says she's single in this one. She says she has a partner in that one.

Who knows?

Maybe she lied in this one, maybe in that one. Maybe she's in an abusive or open relationship.

She's not interested in the other guy now since he said he's in a relationship. Maybe she didn't want her relationship status distracting from her actual query this time -

Should she go out alone given she wanted to go to the club?

She asked him in person a month ago

The response to whether she should go to the club is entirely dependent on whether she was bullied shitting in this thread (likely) or the other one (unlikely)

Sorry that you've had some crap Advice on here OP.
Sometimes it would be wiser if folks could READ the original post properly and not jump to conclusions like the OP being a stalker who wants to ruin someone's marriage.
You didn't want to waste a hotel room..the weather's lovely.
it makes you want to be out..I get it..
x

It's hard to follow with multiple threads, but I get the impression OP wasn't explicitly clear to the guy that she was not interested in hook ups due to at least one of them (maybe both) are in relationships.
Whilst she may have been ignorant at the time of it happening, unless her next step on finding out was block and tell him she's not interested, then it is indeed sloppy and dubious.
I worry the threads were an attempt to ask the Internet for permission so an excuse for bad behaviour is convenient the following morning. Infidelity doesnt happen by accident though.

Him and his friends will definitely think you're there for him, and that you're a bit weird (sorry) if they weren't going to be there then I'd have said go for it. You also don't want to put yourself in a position where you might carry things on with him, now that you know he's in a relationship.

Can't you go to a different club?

Really? That's my idea of heaven 😂😂😂

@Bigreddog25

who gives a shit what he and his mates think?

Not me. I dont know them 😂 she asked if they would think she's weird. I said yes they will.

That's how questions work you see, someone asks and then someone else answers.

You should go and enjoy yourself!
Hopefully he's more worried about you calling him out and will try to avoid you, but if he or his friends say anything negative to you then you can tell him you don't care about the opinions of a gross cheater!