Utterly sickened by rugby tour/stag DP attended

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I have name changed for this. DP plays rugby and they have an annual weekender/end of season tour somewhere each season, usually always in the UK. One of the players is getting married so they did a combined tour/stag this year abroad.

I am friendly with a couple of other partners and so have been made aware of some of the details.

They hired someone to be handcuffed to the stag, purely based on his small size. I find this really offensive.

There was really really weird games/dares involving urine that I won’t repeat on here.

Two players, DP included, lost a bet and had to streak in public wearing only a pair of underwear each which was ‘borrowed’ from a hen party out there.

At least two players cheated on their wives.

DP has verified all of the above and said it’s standard fare when rugby players go away together (added that he was unaware of the cheating and wouldn’t approve). I can’t say I was ever aware of this rugby ‘notoriety’ before I met him.

I have told him I disapprove and he thinks I am over reacting and should accept it’s par for the course. Am I over reacting?

Oh ok! 🤣🤣

Yes just a bit of Rugby fun, boys will be boys ... ha ha then oops Paddy Jackson and Stuart Olding but sure it's all OK because it's just what rugby players do.

Be Better ! Expect Better !

It's not the norm in the UK to swab the throats of heterosexual men for STIs. How did this get detected?

it was detected first in the one's whose urine they drank - he had symptoms.

I get that the person who had chlamydia in their willy would have been detected through a test, but at what point did he volunteer the information: 'So those are all my recent sexual partners. Oh, and all my rugby team mates recently drank my piss?'

Did he, heaven forfend, give himself a secondary infection in his throat if they were all drinking everybody else's wee?

He volunteered the information to my husband in a counselling session, because he was informed about transmission. He was referred to the counselling session because it was a university medical centre.

Likewise. Can't see why bringing age or weight in to it helps?

I have been to plenty of hens. None of them were like this. Because I do not have friends like that.

Well ,one example was because we were discussing how unpleasant we find "novelty" acts / strippers - the "roly poly" style novelty stripper is stereotypically an overweight elderly woman.

Have you never seen hen parties on trains and in airports? I've seen this type of thing on numerous occasions.

I've seen other hens, and these are the types of hen nights my friends and I would never had.

I don't deny they exist but I was replying to the question "have you been on a hen night like this?". No.

I don't approve and I don't approve of men doing it either. Rugby, hen... no excuse

I'm just as appalled by hideously behaved hen parties

Luckily my friends all had hen parties that were fun without being bawdy or unfaithful or objectifying people