Utterly sickened by rugby tour/stag DP attended

[Stagupset]

I have name changed for this. DP plays rugby and they have an annual weekender/end of season tour somewhere each season, usually always in the UK. One of the players is getting married so they did a combined tour/stag this year abroad.

I am friendly with a couple of other partners and so have been made aware of some of the details.

They hired someone to be handcuffed to the stag, purely based on his small size. I find this really offensive.

There was really really weird games/dares involving urine that I won’t repeat on here.

Two players, DP included, lost a bet and had to streak in public wearing only a pair of underwear each which was ‘borrowed’ from a hen party out there.

At least two players cheated on their wives.

DP has verified all of the above and said it’s standard fare when rugby players go away together (added that he was unaware of the cheating and wouldn’t approve). I can’t say I was ever aware of this rugby ‘notoriety’ before I met him.

I have told him I disapprove and he thinks I am over reacting and should accept it’s par for the course. Am I over reacting?

You were an enabler back in your 'youth'.

I'm sorry if I triggered you; however, you chose to be a beer glass.

This lifestyle is not something I identify with.

And did the bride find out about this?

More fool her if she married the guy knowing what his friends, and by extension, him, were like.

I do hope she can rest peacefully in her celibacy and teetotalism.

She can finally recover.

Then you haven’t seen all my comments. I wouldn’t do this now and I have a different life now - no drink or sex for over well over 20 years.

I have grown as a person but that doesn’t mean I regret what I did. Would I do it if I was that age now? No I wouldn’t. But that’s not for moral reasons.

Can you point out where I said I admired it?

It’s possible to do things in your 20s that you wouldn’t do now without regretting them.

Im not the one triggered on this thread. 🤣🤣🤣🤣

And if you never did anything when you were young that you wouldn’t do now, then great.

I did wild things then that I wouldn’t do now.

Not sure what the beer glass comment is about but as long as one of us does. I think you may be imagining things that didn’t happen

Yet you started barking.

We all know how beer glasses are treated.

🤣🤣🤣🤣

Ah the old passive aggressive approach…

Why be snippy about the fact i am not that person now? How odd.

It clearly makes you feel superior in every way to me and if that helps then great - I will say that attitudes like that were a great enabler in themselves back then.

Would it only be okay if I cried with regret every day about my behaviour in my 20s?

I can assure you that your nasty little insults are inaccurate as well as making you sound
bitter. I haven’t gone into detail so you don’t actually know what went on, but it’s lovely you are taking time out of your day to imagine things that didn’t happen. I’m flattered.

Can you point out where I said I admired it?

As i said I haven't read many of your comments.

My assumption that you admired this type of behaviour was because you talked about it needing confidence to take part in it. Certainly on MN confidence is talked about in admiring tones and those who have confidence are presented as successful and role models to be emulated.

And the fact that you keep saying you don't regret behaving like one of the bad boys and you don't regret enabling their behaviour would indicate you think such behaviour is acceptable and admirable.

Oh and it’s lovely to see such misogyny alive and well 😬

Why comment on my posts if you can’t be arsed to read them?

I am merely expressing my opinion.

You're a very ODD woman.

I’m not the one who is clearly imagining things that didn’t happen and is having an go at a stranger for the imagined things.

So thank you, I take your opinion as a compliment

I don't want to know either.

However, your support for such behaviour alludes to the activities you likely would have engaged in.

That’s your imagination - I can’t help it if you have chosen to assume things that didn’t happen. It said a lot more about you than me 🤷‍♀️🤣

I will say that contemptuous attitudes like yours made things a lot easier for me back then.

@Anarchy99 did you ever think it was wrong to get involved with these men when they had partners?

Cricket balls up an arse!!

Wow I’m the logistics really there is no start point, no tip. Certainly no flailed safety base 😅

Thats got to of fucking hurt and taken some force that’s not a small ball.

It was bales the wee things that sit upon top of stumps.
Not that it matters foreign objects up the arse are a no no.

Ugh.

This made my skin crawl.

Ah well that’s a bit better but still not great.

No

I fail to see the attraction towards a man like this.

Bloody hell I just googled the dimensions

Overall length: 4.31 inches (10.95 cm)
Barrel length (the center section): 2.13 inches (5.40 cm)
Longer spigot: 1.38 inches (3.50 cm)
Shorter spigot: 0.81 inches (2.06 cm)

Eeek .ow ow

You can't hold him responsible for the behaviour of others, a streak in girls underwear is odd, but not terrible. Let it go.