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Transgender niece

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Stargazelamb · 19/06/2026 20:26

My niece lives in another country and I’ve just heard that she is becoming a he. She has changed her name, is taking hormone medication and now has facial hair. She is a transgender boy. However she sees herself as a boy. AIBU to think she will never be a biological boy and to refer to her as a transgender boy? I realise this could be an emotive topic.

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TheKeatingFive · 21/06/2026 20:14

Seethlaw · 21/06/2026 20:12

It means "I don't care". Seems to me like @MyBlueCritic is particularly bad, even for a TRA, at reading the room and moving out of their internet bubble.

The TRAs are always so quick to accuse others of not listening to trans people.

But when it comes to detransitioners, they just want to ignore/block these stories.

Go figure.

TheKeatingFive · 21/06/2026 20:14

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What do you think is 'hateful' about saying humans can't change sex?

MyBlueCritic · 21/06/2026 20:14

Seethlaw · 21/06/2026 20:12

It means "I don't care". Seems to me like @MyBlueCritic is particularly bad, even for a TRA, at reading the room and moving out of their internet bubble.

OH CHRIST, IRONY OVERLOAD ALERT, WITH A SIDE SERVING OF COMPLETE LACK OF SELF AWARENESS 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

AccidentallyWesAnderson · 21/06/2026 20:15

MyBlueCritic · 21/06/2026 20:14

OH CHRIST, IRONY OVERLOAD ALERT, WITH A SIDE SERVING OF COMPLETE LACK OF SELF AWARENESS 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

Mate….

TheKeatingFive · 21/06/2026 20:16

Gosh the deletions are starting to mount up, aren't they?

MyBlueCritic · 21/06/2026 20:17

TheKeatingFive · 21/06/2026 20:14

What do you think is 'hateful' about saying humans can't change sex?

OK, I find you extremely basic and boring. That tactic of "wHaT dO yOu tHiNk aBoUt (x) iS (y)" is particularly grating, because it demonstrates such lacking. In multiple areas.

This is the last reply to you, sorry x

MyBlueCritic · 21/06/2026 20:19

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TheKeatingFive · 21/06/2026 20:19

MyBlueCritic · 21/06/2026 20:17

OK, I find you extremely basic and boring. That tactic of "wHaT dO yOu tHiNk aBoUt (x) iS (y)" is particularly grating, because it demonstrates such lacking. In multiple areas.

This is the last reply to you, sorry x

So you can't answer.

Got it.

You realise that everyone can see your responses, don't you? If you can't answer basic questions, that is a problem with the position you've taken.

Seethlaw · 21/06/2026 20:19

MyBlueCritic · 21/06/2026 20:17

OK, I find you extremely basic and boring. That tactic of "wHaT dO yOu tHiNk aBoUt (x) iS (y)" is particularly grating, because it demonstrates such lacking. In multiple areas.

This is the last reply to you, sorry x

This is the last reply to you, sorry x

By "you", do you mean this forum? Because if so, YESSS! I mean, the second-hand embarrassment was getting painful...

TheKeatingFive · 21/06/2026 20:20

Seethlaw · 21/06/2026 20:19

This is the last reply to you, sorry x

By "you", do you mean this forum? Because if so, YESSS! I mean, the second-hand embarrassment was getting painful...

I guess @MyBlueCritic is at least keeping the mods busy.

AccidentallyWesAnderson · 21/06/2026 20:21

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Oh no. Least I’ve got a grasp on basic biology though. Silver linings and all that!

MyBlueCritic · 21/06/2026 20:25

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Seethlaw · 21/06/2026 20:26

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You calling me an old lady? Because if so, you're being transphobic. JSYK.

TheKeatingFive · 21/06/2026 20:26

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Where is this 'hate' you keep referencing?

Disagreeing with people is not hate.

Acknowledging basic scientific facts is not hate.

So please enlighten us what you're talking about?

Boiledbeetle · 21/06/2026 20:27

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So you can't own it but instead just insult anyone who pulls you up on it. I'm not claiming victimhood. I'm saying you made a threat with that meme. Whether you realise it or not that is what you did.

Also, believing you can't change sex does not make a person part of a hate movement.

Boiledbeetle · 21/06/2026 20:29

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And now you're being ageist as well.

Well done you.

AccidentallyWesAnderson · 21/06/2026 20:29

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MyBlueCritic · 21/06/2026 20:30

Seethlaw · 21/06/2026 20:26

You calling me an old lady? Because if so, you're being transphobic. JSYK.

Holy Mary mother of God, give me strength to deal with the complexities of these balloons 🙏

Boiledbeetle · 21/06/2026 20:31

Seethlaw · 21/06/2026 20:26

You calling me an old lady? Because if so, you're being transphobic. JSYK.

I didn't think you identified as old either.

Seethlaw · 21/06/2026 20:31

MyBlueCritic · 21/06/2026 20:30

Holy Mary mother of God, give me strength to deal with the complexities of these balloons 🙏

pats head Poor you.

MyBlueCritic · 21/06/2026 20:32

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Seethlaw · 21/06/2026 20:33

Boiledbeetle · 21/06/2026 20:31

I didn't think you identified as old either.

Well, I want to believe that they are 15yo 25yo at most, so I'm old enough to be their mother, which makes me old in their eyes, I suppose :P

But as far as self-ID goes, I definitely identify as "still very much young, goddammit!" 😂

Boiledbeetle · 21/06/2026 20:33

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It's the heat. It brings out the best in people!

MyBlueCritic · 21/06/2026 20:34

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Boiledbeetle · 21/06/2026 20:36

Seethlaw · 21/06/2026 20:33

Well, I want to believe that they are 15yo 25yo at most, so I'm old enough to be their mother, which makes me old in their eyes, I suppose :P

But as far as self-ID goes, I definitely identify as "still very much young, goddammit!" 😂

I'm with you on the self ID as young. I'm not old and I'm not and never have been a lady. I'm much too uncouth to ever be called a lady!