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Transgender niece

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Stargazelamb · 19/06/2026 20:26

My niece lives in another country and I’ve just heard that she is becoming a he. She has changed her name, is taking hormone medication and now has facial hair. She is a transgender boy. However she sees herself as a boy. AIBU to think she will never be a biological boy and to refer to her as a transgender boy? I realise this could be an emotive topic.

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Seethlaw · 21/06/2026 19:46

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Oh, my bad, then. What did you mean by "trans wrongs", then?

AccidentallyWesAnderson · 21/06/2026 19:52

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I mean if we’re going to talk about made up scenarios… I’ll go first - men can become women.

ToiletKaren · 21/06/2026 19:55

"You'd better be ready for trans wrongs".
Care to analyse the meaning of this warning?

TheKeatingFive · 21/06/2026 19:56

MyBlueCritic · 21/06/2026 19:30

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WTF does this mean?

MyBlueCritic · 21/06/2026 19:59

TheKeatingFive · 21/06/2026 19:56

WTF does this mean?

Apologies dear... But I don't believe I was speaking to you. You must have gotten mixed up x

Wadsworthy · 21/06/2026 20:00

Seethlaw · 21/06/2026 19:40

Can't be, can it? Everyone knows that trans people and their supporters are peaceful people who would never assault anyone, right?

Maria MacLachan will attest to that. In court Grin Tara whatshisnane was such a peaceable chap.

MyBlueCritic · 21/06/2026 20:00

ToiletKaren · 21/06/2026 19:55

"You'd better be ready for trans wrongs".
Care to analyse the meaning of this warning?

Oh give my head a holiday you drama queen. It's a silly meme. Take your feigned outrage and clutch your pearls elsewhere. Honestly 🫠

TheKeatingFive · 21/06/2026 20:01

MyBlueCritic · 21/06/2026 01:38

You're not that important, basic manners cost nothing.

I'm not quite sure how people like this would operate if they met a trans person since it's obvious not many have.

Do you realise how rude and intentionally hurtful you would come across to everyone else? People like this, I feel, are full of online bluster, but are terrified to show who they really are in public.

I have experienced a very similar situation to the OP.

My cousin's child transitioned and started taking T. She has since detransitioned as she realised (too late) that her problems were not about being 'born in the wrong body' and 'living as a man' did nothing to alleviate them.

She has significant ongoing health issues from her time taking T. The OP is absolutely right to be concerned about that.

I fully appreciate that I am not that important. But facts, truth, scientific reality, women's rights, children's safeguarding all are. It is certainly not 'manners' to undermine these crucial things. The lies may be kindly meant, but they help no one. Least of all the poor child in question.

MyBlueCritic · 21/06/2026 20:01

AccidentallyWesAnderson · 21/06/2026 19:52

I mean if we’re going to talk about made up scenarios… I’ll go first - men can become women.

Bless you xx

TheKeatingFive · 21/06/2026 20:01

MyBlueCritic · 21/06/2026 19:59

Apologies dear... But I don't believe I was speaking to you. You must have gotten mixed up x

It's an internet forum. Do you not understand how they work?

AccidentallyWesAnderson · 21/06/2026 20:02

MyBlueCritic · 21/06/2026 20:01

Bless you xx

Did someone sneeze?

Seethlaw · 21/06/2026 20:05

@MyBlueCritic So you meant nothing. Okay. You're still in a cult, mind you.

MyBlueCritic · 21/06/2026 20:05

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If you don't believe me, it's only because you don't want to believe detransitioners stories because it doesn't suit your narrative.

I've referenced my cousin's child plenty of times on this forum.

MyBlueCritic · 21/06/2026 20:07

Seethlaw · 21/06/2026 20:05

@MyBlueCritic So you meant nothing. Okay. You're still in a cult, mind you.

Every accusation is a confession with you people lol, you have your own made up language, think you're above the law, believe your own propaganda, worship false gods, donate cash you can't afford, have notions of grandeur etc etc

YOU are the one in a cult bbz 😂

TheKeatingFive · 21/06/2026 20:08

MyBlueCritic · 21/06/2026 20:07

Every accusation is a confession with you people lol, you have your own made up language, think you're above the law, believe your own propaganda, worship false gods, donate cash you can't afford, have notions of grandeur etc etc

YOU are the one in a cult bbz 😂

A cult that thinks humans can't change sex?

Seriously? You think that's a cult?

MyBlueCritic · 21/06/2026 20:08

TheKeatingFive · 21/06/2026 20:06

If you don't believe me, it's only because you don't want to believe detransitioners stories because it doesn't suit your narrative.

I've referenced my cousin's child plenty of times on this forum.

Idc. 🤷

Seethlaw · 21/06/2026 20:09

@MyBlueCritic

At least my cult doesn't demand that anyone mutilate themselves. I'll take that as a major plus.

AccidentallyWesAnderson · 21/06/2026 20:09

MyBlueCritic · 21/06/2026 20:07

Every accusation is a confession with you people lol, you have your own made up language, think you're above the law, believe your own propaganda, worship false gods, donate cash you can't afford, have notions of grandeur etc etc

YOU are the one in a cult bbz 😂

You aren’t familiar with irony are you?

TheKeatingFive · 21/06/2026 20:09

Seethlaw · 21/06/2026 20:09

@MyBlueCritic

At least my cult doesn't demand that anyone mutilate themselves. I'll take that as a major plus.

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Revolutionary, right?

TheKeatingFive · 21/06/2026 20:10

MyBlueCritic · 21/06/2026 20:08

Idc. 🤷

What does that even mean?

Boiledbeetle · 21/06/2026 20:11

MyBlueCritic · 21/06/2026 20:00

Oh give my head a holiday you drama queen. It's a silly meme. Take your feigned outrage and clutch your pearls elsewhere. Honestly 🫠

It's not a silly meme. You made a threat. At least own it.

AccidentallyWesAnderson · 21/06/2026 20:11

TheKeatingFive · 21/06/2026 20:10

What does that even mean?

Surely you should know this bbz.

Seethlaw · 21/06/2026 20:12

TheKeatingFive · 21/06/2026 20:10

What does that even mean?

It means "I don't care". Seems to me like @MyBlueCritic is particularly bad, even for a TRA, at reading the room and moving out of their internet bubble.

MyBlueCritic · 21/06/2026 20:13

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