Home alone

[KillswitchMinge]

AIBU to leave my 16yo over night?

I'm dating and it's going well. I'd like to occasionally spend the night at his but I've never left DS before. He is sensible and I would be reachable on the phone.

I'm not ready for DS to meet him yet and I feel like it would be extremely awkward to bring him back to stay if DS is home even if nothing happened.

You want to leave your 16 year old child overnight so you can get it on with someone???

Read that sentence a couple of times and see how tacky, selfish, cringe worthy, embarrassing and downright yuck what you're suggesting is.

Your child comes first, always, no negotiations, nothing. You're his mother supposed to be. He comes first, not your libido.

Which is fine. Some will agree, some won't.

If your 16 year old teenager, less than two years away from fully fledged adulthood, cannot be left for one evening it says more about your parenting.

My mum was a solo parent when I was 16 and used to work night duty. I was frequently home alone. I also often had parties between 11pm and 5am… But I was very responsible and cleaned up after them so she never knew. Maybe 😂

My DH and have just been discussing this. Our 16 DS is very sensible and we think he would be fine. Only worry is would he have big party?

Well if you think he would then maybe don’t leave him. Would he though? I feel strongly we need to trust our DC and give them reasonable responsibility.

You know your child. There is no way I would have had a party so my mum was fine to leave me alone and I know my kids wouldn’t.

Absolutely not.

Im happy to say im very please some on this thread are not my parents.

I was raised to be independent at a young age, and not be scared to stay on my own.
Some of you on here need to cut the aporn strings before its to late.

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Do you know your kid??
I trust mine 100% not to have a party at home. He's very sociable but likes to go out to party. In 3 years of leaving him overnight he's never done it.

I was babysitting younger kids at that age, their parents getting home early hours in the morning. I think each case is different, if your child is happy to stay alone and you think they are capable, I would go for it.
I would be worried about lots of friends coming over 😆

A sensible 16-year-old? Of course he should be fine on his own. At 17 I was living 3000 miles away from my parents.

Same - babysitting all day while parents went to work and overnight while they were out shagging socialising from age 14!
Not that I think that's very sensible in terms of childcare choices but I was absolutely fine. Never felt scared or wanted my mummy.

We used to leave DD home alone overnight occasionally at 16. She loved it. We wouldn't have gone far afield at that age, but by 17 we were leaving her alone for a weekend while we went to London.

He’s 16. Of course he’s fine to be left overnight. I’m baffled by the answers.

Course you can! He's 16!!! He'll be fine.

Can I ask what would be a good reason?

I don't see what difference it makes whether I'm sleeping in a man's bed or in a friend's spare room.
I also never said I felt the need to lie about it, but I doubt many parents would explicitly tell their children when they may or may not be having sex with a partner.

Something unavoidable. Your reply came across like you would lie and hide the fact you were leaving him to go and shack up at a man's house for the night. It sounded like DC didn't know the man existed.

You could add more details. Carrying out a sordid, shameless affair, a scandal-plagued relationship characterized by excessive affection.

Or we can also describe it as OP wanting to spend some time with her partner. Maybe they first play chess and debade philosophy?

Where did I say this?

There's quite a difference between saying I'll be out for the night with MrDate'sName to saying "Just popping out for a nice shag DS, back in the morning - don't wait up!".

Never leaving your child to fend for themselves, when they're legally old enough to live alone completely, is not putting them first.

Has anyone actually given a reason why they think 16 is too young? Or are we all too busy envying judging the OP's sex life?

It’s actually quite scary to think that some of these posters have kids that will be entering the workplace soon. Will they expect their manager to take them to the toilet and make sure they eat their sandwiches first from their lunchboxes because that’s what mummy does at home.

You are doing your kids absolutely no favours by babying them and stifling their independence.

It totally depends on the 16 year old.