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AIBU to expect support for marathon training with two children?

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Nowarunner2026 · Yesterday 14:28

Last year I was offered a place in the London Marathon via the Ballot. It is something I have always wanted to do, albeit I am an occasional runner (I ran 5k maybe every few weeks, much prefer walking or swimning) but it's a bucket list thing like i am sure it is for many people

Everyone was supportive and really encouraging, father in law brought me some running related gifts for my birthday, as did other family members etc. Everyone except DH. He threw the biggest strop ever, called me selfish for even thinking about it (we have 2 children 9 and 4) and accused me of sacrificing family time for some stupid dream. Says the man who goes to football every weekend, up ubtil recently worked shifts (earlies/lates/nights) still does shifts on occasion, and will doesn't think twice about going away with his friends

For whatever reasons I had to defer from last year (a knee injury which is now recovered and some family illnesses) and I still have my place this year as I was able to defer

Mentioned it to DH again and he refuses to talk about it. Point blank won't engage. Says that I he won't support me. Won't come and watch. Won't look after the kids when I want to go running etc.

I do understand that training for it is going to take time, especially early next year but it's also only for a few months, where as he has gone to football every weekend for 10+ years (including away games)

If this was you, would you expect some support for a short period ? Or am I being unrealistic?

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SemiRetiredLoveGoddeess · Today 18:45

This type of thing seems to be a common theme on this MN thread.

Man rules everything. Women should even grateful they are allowed to breathe and llive.

I think when AI kicks in
Hope these sort of men can get an Interactive Female Robot they can boss around who will worship them .

Think, like the female Robots in the film Westworld before they went mental.

Could this be the future!

Zerosleep · Today 18:53

If that was my husband, he would be gone. What an utterly selfish twat and a huge manipulative gaslighting arsehole. Tell him to fuck off, this is abuse.

StMarie4me · Today 18:55

I’m so sorry. I would absolutely leave him over this. It’s not just the marathon training. It’s the complete disregard and ridicule of what you want.
He does not see you as his equal.

ERthree · Today 18:59

arethereanyleftatall · Today 13:46

Apparently there’s a growing number of ‘mommunes’ where 2 single mothers get together to buy houses and live together. Great idea, you’d actually get support then.

A Boston marriage.

HortiGal · Today 19:00

dairydebris · Yesterday 14:29

Your husband doesn't like you. Sorry.

First post as always is spot on, time for him to be ex husband, vile petty cunt.

Thingcanonlygetbetter · Today 19:03

He is a pure balls of a man. Hubby got a ballet place and my kids were very similar age. I supported him 100%.

Cherrytree86 · Today 19:19

He is pathetic and woeful excuse of a human being

Katie0909 · Today 20:02

He is a shitty husband who is selfish beyond belief. Next time he is due to go to football, make sure you go out alone before he leaves so he has to look after the kids. When he moans, repeat back what he said to you and point out his double standards. I'm sorry but I don't think I could stay with someone who treated me like he treats you and you should really think hard about whether he is worth staying with.

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