AIBU to expect support for marathon training with two children?

[Nowarunner2026]

Last year I was offered a place in the London Marathon via the Ballot. It is something I have always wanted to do, albeit I am an occasional runner (I ran 5k maybe every few weeks, much prefer walking or swimning) but it's a bucket list thing like i am sure it is for many people

Everyone was supportive and really encouraging, father in law brought me some running related gifts for my birthday, as did other family members etc. Everyone except DH. He threw the biggest strop ever, called me selfish for even thinking about it (we have 2 children 9 and 4) and accused me of sacrificing family time for some stupid dream. Says the man who goes to football every weekend, up ubtil recently worked shifts (earlies/lates/nights) still does shifts on occasion, and will doesn't think twice about going away with his friends

For whatever reasons I had to defer from last year (a knee injury which is now recovered and some family illnesses) and I still have my place this year as I was able to defer

Mentioned it to DH again and he refuses to talk about it. Point blank won't engage. Says that I he won't support me. Won't come and watch. Won't look after the kids when I want to go running etc.

I do understand that training for it is going to take time, especially early next year but it's also only for a few months, where as he has gone to football every weekend for 10+ years (including away games)

If this was you, would you expect some support for a short period ? Or am I being unrealistic?

This type of thing seems to be a common theme on this MN thread.

Man rules everything. Women should even grateful they are allowed to breathe and llive.

I think when AI kicks in
Hope these sort of men can get an Interactive Female Robot they can boss around who will worship them .

Think, like the female Robots in the film Westworld before they went mental.

Could this be the future!

If that was my husband, he would be gone. What an utterly selfish twat and a huge manipulative gaslighting arsehole. Tell him to fuck off, this is abuse.

I’m so sorry. I would absolutely leave him over this. It’s not just the marathon training. It’s the complete disregard and ridicule of what you want.
He does not see you as his equal.

A Boston marriage.

First post as always is spot on, time for him to be ex husband, vile petty cunt.

He is a pure balls of a man. Hubby got a ballet place and my kids were very similar age. I supported him 100%.

He is pathetic and woeful excuse of a human being

He is a shitty husband who is selfish beyond belief. Next time he is due to go to football, make sure you go out alone before he leaves so he has to look after the kids. When he moans, repeat back what he said to you and point out his double standards. I'm sorry but I don't think I could stay with someone who treated me like he treats you and you should really think hard about whether he is worth staying with.

Op he’s being a cunt simple as that he should support your dreams and hopes he can’t have it all one way you will only resent him. When he’s off somewhere say who’s having the children if he says you say why can you do your own thing without any consideration to me but I can’t get the same back. Bit controlling of you tbh.

This is my first ever LTB. He sounds absolutely awful.

He doesn't like you does he?

I'd leave the selfish wanker.

Who looks after the kids when he is at football every weekend?

I hope you leave the selfish prick and run as much as you want on his parenting time.

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He’s a prick, I would be fuming.

@Nowarunner2026 if you need support, accountability, encouragement - it seems you’ve got a full cheering squad here behind you! Keep running, keep dreaming

Sorry but your husband is being incredibly selfish. I could not stand for this in a relationship. The longest run you will have to do will be probably be between 2-3 hours which is probably less than it takes him to go to a football game. Please do the marathon. Enjoy the once in a lifetime opportunity. Make your kids proud and give them something to aspire to!

So inspired by everyone's posts on here I sat down today and worked out a marathon training plan (with the help of my friend who is a running coach and Chatgpt)

This side of christmas it is very much half marathon building with the longest run planned at about 2.5 hours

So its after Christmas it ramps up

Dh still refusing to engage. In fact we are not talking after another argument the other night (long story short I left something on a shelf in one of the kids rooms that I he thinks I shouldn't have done, it fell off and made a loud bang in the middle night, wasn't above the bed so didn't fall on child (wasn't even above head height) but because I said sorry and then said well no one was hurt thats me being defensive. Oh and also because I used a screw driver today for something and not a drill (it was a small screw and I couldn't be bothered to change the drill bit and also didn't ask what I should use) this makes me stupid snd thick

I definitely have bigger issues than a marathon!

Oh girl. I thought he was an absolute wanker from your first post alone, the update makes him sound ten times worse. Selfish, nasty, spiteful twat. Run the marathon and run away from him.

I would tell him that you're not supporting his football any more so he'll have to give that up or take the kids.

Offer to sign him up to the ‘Prickathon’ he has a very good chance of winning.

He sounds jealous - would you support him in the same situation?

Wrll now
you know. He is important. You are not. Fuck him. I would LTB. You can train every other weekend and Wednesdays when he has the kids.

Re your post about the screwdriver/drlll - you’re obviously good with DIY, you’ll need those skills when you decide you need to lay a patio!

Your husband really doesn’t like it when you try and use your own mind, have free will and do something that isn’t serving him and making his life easier.

@Nowarunner2026

I’ve not yet read TFT but…

THIS!

@Nowarunner2026

Also this!