BF messed up meeting parents, gave excuse about it being intense

[Jasjasdance]

Things have been getting more serious between my BF and I so we have started to meet each others family. I met his mum last weekend which went really well, and he met my parents this weekend. We went for a drink and then a meal after.

He had a couple of drinks before meeting them (he said to help his nerves) and then two more at the pub. He was then drinking wine at the restaurant and was really tipsy. He then started acting up a bit towards the end. Just a few comments you shouldn’t really make when meeting someone’s parents for the first time.

We were discussing the city break we went on last month, and I said I wouldn’t return to that particular AirBnB. He said they wouldn’t let me back after the way I ruined the toilet on the last day (I was really ill, assumed food poisoning).

He made a comment about an ex, said they barely went out for meals because she preferred ‘scoffing’ takeaways so she didn’t have to leave the sofa.

My Dad is a big football fan so they were talking about the World Cup, and moaning a bit about the really late kick off times. My BF said the real winners of that are the local dealers.

My parents were polite in response but I could tell they were unimpressed. My BF says it was a really ‘intense’ first meeting going for a meal which is why he had more to drink than he should have done.

I suppose I have two questions…do you think there’s any coming back from this (was what he said that bad or not) and was this too an intense first meeting?

He is really kind towards me, we’ve had some lovely times together and most of the time he makes me feel comforted and secure. It’s the best sex of my life and I’ve never came so much from a partner. There is a lot to like but he’s not perfect, but then neither am I.

What a horrible comment. I mean it when I say that I am glad she isn’t my mum and that I was taught to value people regardless of their class, wealth or upbringing.

‘Acts like they were dragged up on an estate’ - how disgustingly offensive!

Adults behaving badly come from all walks of life, and upbringing does not dictate manners as an adult - especially by the age of 31. He might have behaved badly, but your mother has generalised a whole group of people who had nothing to do with this situation.

If this is him on his best behaviour I dread to think what awaits you further down the line. Do you really want a partner who drinks so much and has to be told not to make disgusting comments?

Plenty of men are good in bed. It’s not a good enough reason to make him a long term partner.