Bf blocked me on my birthday today

[heidi696]

It’s a long story but basically it’s a long distance relationship and it’s been unclear if he was free to meet today as it’s my birthday. Last Tuesday I said oh it doesn’t look like we are meeting on Sunday but he got a bit angry and said something like don’t assume you don’t know yet. So even though I kinda knew we wouldn’t as I know he is busy I had a secret hope that he had a plan. I didn’t ask again and he didn’t say anything. So this morning when I got his text saying sorry I can’t be with you today and a digital card I was really really disappointed. I stupidly had nothing else planned. I admit I didn’t handle it well and lashed out a load of texts and we ended up having an argument and then he blocked me. I was so shocked and upset:I’ve been crying all day. I can’t believe he would do that. It’s 1030
now so I guess that’s it for the day. Honestly I don’t know if it’s forever or just to silence me for a while:
im just so sad. I can’t stop crying and torturing myself: if only I had said nothing etc i more he was busy so why did i add to his stress: I really hate myself

What are you frightened about losing? A guy who doesn’t prioritise you, who keeps you in the background, who blocks you when you ask for attention on your birthday? Doesn’t seem like you’d be losing much!

Unless you are the OW, it’s pathetic that you’re not going to the wedding because his ex-wife would be upset.

Sounds like you’re a bit on the side when he doesn’t have something else to occupy him.

I know it sounds harsh, but you deserve to be someone’s priority. Put this one back in the bin OP!! You’re worth more!

Gosh this is a bit desperate op, honestly habe some self respect.

How can you fancy someone who treats you poorly? Saying, He ignores me, won't have me around his family, is too busy for my birthday...but, gosh I really like him... makes you sound utterly clueless and desperate.

You sound pathetically desperate.

Buy a vibrator for god's sake and have more self respect.

@ChristmasCwtchwhen I asked on here about the wedding 99% of people said I should not be invited and that it was right that I wasn’t mainly for 2 reasons - one we are not going out very long and 2 that his son should not have any possible drama at the wedding . Honestly I’m not that bothered any more. It would have been nice to be included but last thing I want is to be the reason for drama

Yeh I know I’m pathetic - he keeps irising everything will change after the wedding so I’m just waiting and seeing for now. I don’t see him anyway so it doesn’t really make much difference at the moment.

How do you work that out? You spent your birthday crying? If you could emotionally disengage that would be one thing. But you can’t, and this is absolutely shattering your self respect. Surely it’s not worth it?

Why don’t you dump him and tell him to check in after the wedding. Hopefully with a bit of headspace you’ll realise that you’re better off without him.

Do you feel better after that?

So many people kicking the OP when she's down.

The issue isn't around helping his son or whatever, it's about the fact that he kept you hanging and you ended up doing nothing.

The way to deal with it would be to say "ok as you can't commit to plans then I'll go do something else" and then stick to that.

You might not want to leave him but you do need to claw back some respect, and that's how.