Bf blocked me on my birthday today

[heidi696]

It’s a long story but basically it’s a long distance relationship and it’s been unclear if he was free to meet today as it’s my birthday. Last Tuesday I said oh it doesn’t look like we are meeting on Sunday but he got a bit angry and said something like don’t assume you don’t know yet. So even though I kinda knew we wouldn’t as I know he is busy I had a secret hope that he had a plan. I didn’t ask again and he didn’t say anything. So this morning when I got his text saying sorry I can’t be with you today and a digital card I was really really disappointed. I stupidly had nothing else planned. I admit I didn’t handle it well and lashed out a load of texts and we ended up having an argument and then he blocked me. I was so shocked and upset:I’ve been crying all day. I can’t believe he would do that. It’s 1030
now so I guess that’s it for the day. Honestly I don’t know if it’s forever or just to silence me for a while:
im just so sad. I can’t stop crying and torturing myself: if only I had said nothing etc i more he was busy so why did i add to his stress: I really hate myself

His son is not a child if he's getting married. The kind thing for him to have done was say last week that he would be busy on your birthday not keep you hoping that he might have made an effort and then let you down last minute.
Get rid you are worth so much more.

So, he ensured that you were alone on your birthday. What a prince.

Never, ever, put other plans on hold for a man again.

Sounds like he gave you the best birthday gift ever - the trash took himself out. Block the twat back and keep him blocked. Don't get back with him OP because he will always screw with your head and make you upset. He's not a good man and you can do better than him.

He’s got an adult son?
I thought he was about 17.
Hes hardly a Prince among men with his digital card is he?
I would say bin him- but I don’t think you will. So just learn to live with playing 4th fiddle and drama with a man child who really doesn’t care much for you.
Digital card ffs 🤦‍♀️

ex boyfriend I hope.
anyone who’s children are old enough to be married would be dumped if they can’t see their partner on their birthday becuase their child is demanding their support 12 hours a day for days on end. You need to dump his abusive arse. Probably easier to just block him, let him see how that feels. It’s your birthday, block whoever the fuck you want but make sure it include everyone who sets out to make you feel bad. That’s him. He knew he wasn’t coming and he got mad at you for saying that out loud when he said you don’t know yet. It was a lie and he knew you were his last priority but you’re supposed to pretend pretend pretend you’re not while he treats you like shit. Block him.

Well you can kill two birds with one stone.

Dump this guy now and the wedding drama also goes away.

And dump him over text.

One grey tick doesn't mean he has blocked you. It just means your message has not delivered which can happen if their phone is off or they are somewhere with no reception.

He love bombs you and treats you like shit in between - that’s abuse not love

You should reply, 'So have I' then block him.
You're in love with the thought of him, not who he really is.

How do you know any of this?

You are not a priority to him. Have higher standards for yourself. He got angry at you because you jnew he wouldnt see you in your birthday. He doesn't like you. Move on.

He is an arsehole. Stop making excuses for him . If he wanted to speak to you (like normal people do between dates) then he would.

I voted YABU - because you’re being unreasonable for staying in a relationship because you’re scared to be sad, when the relationship itself is making you miserable. Find your inner strength and please release yourself from this situation you are in out of choice

I thought 1 grey tick meant that one of you were in a blackspot with no signal.

It can mean you’re blocked. It means unable to deliver the message, either no signal, or you’ve been blocked.

It means not (yet) delivered - for whatever reason.

Happens in our garden

One grey tick means sent, not delivered. Two is delivered. Two blue is read. Not delivered could be because their phone is off or they have no internet where they are.

You can do better than this guy.

Whether he could see you or not, its wrong to leave it to the day itself to tell you - not good enough.

Also really shitty behaviour to block you on your birthday.

Give yourself a birthday present of getting rid of him.

Given what's going on in his life you've been very selfish and unreasonable and probably spoiled his say with his son.

It's only a birthday which really isn't important anyway and his son should always come first regardless.

For goodness sake….. why are you wasting any time on this nonsense. Raise your standards!

Good men do not allow for misunderstandings on text. They don’t play games. They don’t make you sad and upset.

Just….. stop. Block him. Move on.

He chose not to spend the day with you and worst of all let you believe he had something planned. A digital card! That is sad, he could have sent flowers, a moon pig card is better than digital card. He could have arranged something for a later date.

Does his son even know about you?

You don’t know if it’s forever or to silence you? With love, fuck that. It’s forever because you decide he’s not worth your time! He’s made you feel like that, on purpose, and then wanted to pull you straight back in! You are not an option, a toy or a doormat. He brings no goodness and a partner is meant to add to your life, not take from it.

Are you certain he isn't just seeing someone else and trying to make you mad so you'll break up with him?

OP, a family wedding is a big deal. Now, obviously he should have let you know that he’d be busy thus weekend - I assume he knew - but perhaps he’d thought he might be able to do what needed doing yesterday and would be able to get away, then circumstances changed and he couldn’t. If you “lash out a load of texts” then you can’t be too surprised it ends in an argument. As for accusing him of blocking you, he might just have turned his phone off, or been somewhere there was no signal, or let his phone run out of battery. Don’t waste time hating yourself: today has happened, and you need to consider what it is you want from this relationship. You say you’re “scared of losing him” - is this because you love him, or is it that you’re afraid of being on your own? Only you know the dynamics of the relationship, but it seems that there is at the very least a breakdown of communication somewhere. If he doesn’t bring you joy, then move on. In a happy relationship, you don’t spend time being scared of losing the other person - there should be more trust between you than that.

That doesn’t mean it’s blocked. Just delivered but not read. He’s been busy