Told someone I was pregnant today…

[BakedPotatoBeansCheeseColeslaw]

…and they asked if it was planned! 🤦‍♀️

I’m 33, own my own home, and have been married for over two years.

AIBU to think this was a bit of an odd response?!

You mean you didn't knock door to door to announce you were having sex?

No announcement in your local FB group?

What's wrong with you?? 😁

When I announced I was pregnant I had a few 'i had a feeling', 'I thought you might be' or 'i figured it wouldn't be long until you were'. Clearly none of them realise that congratulations is a more appropriate response!

It won't be the last weird comment 😅 you'll be asked whether you'll be having another to try and get a boy/girl, if you're going to have any more and whether you're sure there's only one in there! People just seem to think they're the right things to say. My weirdest one was when MIL asked for a photo with my unborn baby, she didn't want me in the photo 😕

When I told someone I was pregnant they said ‘oh dear’ 🤦‍♀️

In my case I think it was someone who, based on her very small sample size, thought you either got married and settled down to have babies and be a SAHM in your early 20s (normal) or did a mysterious thing called ‘being a career woman’ (not normal) which meant you clipped around in stilettos and had meetings instead of babies. She’d decided I was the latter (I’m an academic and go to work in jeans and gave never owned a pair of stilettos), and that you couldn’t possibly do both.

Wow. So she thought, or wanted to imply in a nasty way, you were shagging around on her son? Just wow.

But it shouldn’t be! It’s none of their bloody business!

Love it 😂

😂

Unplanned doesnt necessarily mean unwanted

Told my mum: <long pause> “oh, I don’t feel ready to be a grandmother”

(I was 29)

Told my best friend and got the “was it planned?” mentioned by PP.

It was such a relief when I told my neighbour who beamed and said “congratulations.”

Does your MiL not like you? What a weird thing to say - not to mention insulting and possibly slander...

i had the same! Married. Own home. Stable jobs. It was so weird!!

When my mum broke the news to HER mother that she was expecting, she got a shocked 'What am I going to tell my friends?!' in reply.

Mum was 30 and had been married for 4 years...

My mil said oh no was it an accident ? We had been together 7 years and in our mid thirties. She later said she assumed we weren’t having any because we had left it so long( busy saving and buying a house)

Ffs I am angry on your behalf!! I hope you gave her what for!

I see your ‘was it planned’ and raise you:

DH told a family friend and she immediately asked him ‘is it yours?’…

Oh, I see I am not the only one!!!

Clearly she was going doo-lally .
When my SIL told my Mum she was pregnant my Mum said "how did that happen" ? 🤣

I got asked that all the time!! Very strange question to ask someone; but I think people just don’t really know what to say, so say anything!

Its not about keeping the baby or not its a yeah we've been trying for months and it finally happened = that's great I'm so happy for you compared to it was definitely a suprise = it will be ok it was obviously meant to be, one of mine wasn't planned but he's the greatest gift.

My Mum has form for saying exactly what she's thinking. With my first I got "oooh... it's a bit early" (I had been trying for 9 months so wanted to tell her as soon as I got a positive test... my mistake!)

With my second she was pleased, although she did want to know when he was conceived.

With my third, I got a shocked silence, followed by "a little whoopsie, is it?"

People are so fucking weird. Congrats op xxx

Congratulations @BakedPotatoBeansCheeseColeslaw I hope you are feeling well! Ignore people's stupid comments, there willbe many more of them to come!

You tell them he tripped on a rug and his penis just fell in and ejaculated..
Stare them eye to eye when you say this.

Nope. 30?!