Told someone I was pregnant today…

[BakedPotatoBeansCheeseColeslaw]

…and they asked if it was planned! 🤦‍♀️

I’m 33, own my own home, and have been married for over two years.

AIBU to think this was a bit of an odd response?!

What and your family thought you where a virgin.

Totally of topic but is anyone else really fancying baked potato with beans, cheese and coleslaw for tea now or just me

To be fair, I am 38, married, professional job, own home etc and have two kids now expecting my third and it absolutely was not planned, this babe is a delightful accident but an accident nonetheless. Quite a few people both at work and socially have asked if it was planned, because they mostly knew I was quite happy with the two I’ve got. I don’t find it offensive and it’s been quite nice to be able to be honest about what a massive adjustment unexpectedly becoming a family of 5 has been for me mentally. Unplanned doesn’t always mean unwanted, being married etc doesn’t always mean it’s a planned pregnancy, asking isn’t necessarily a negative thing.

I had this! Same as a lot of people on here… 33 years old, in a long term relationship, in a well paying job, homeowner etc. They soon stopped talking and looked like they wanted to run away when I said ‘well seen as we had to have fertility treatment to conceive, I would say it was very much planned’. People really do say the silliest things!

• When are you due?
• Do you know the sex? Are you going to find out?
• Are you excited?

ANYTHING

DH’s dad asked him if it was his when he told him…a joke apparently

Yes, me🤣👍

It really is an underrated classic! And I never get to eat it because DH hates jacket potatoes so I save it for when he has to go out 😅

What does owning your home have to do with pregnancy?!?! What a strange piece of irrelevant context

I had an unplanned pregnancy when I was 30 yet my pregnancy at 16 was planned. People should never just assume whether a pregnancy is planned just because of age and situation

My dad was a bit weird that we told our parents at 4.5 weeks. We see our family often and it would be impossible to hide it, plus I was quite poorly a few weeks ago so having the support was helpful. I’m 13 weeks now and telling people more widely

I asked someone this once, I could tell from her reaction I shouldn’t have.

I can't believe you married someone who can't appreciate a good jacket potato 🤣🤣

@RumPidgeonI just love that you’ve declared yourself to be middle class! 😆 That’s hilarious

It’s indicating a stable committed relationship

Why not ask the OP who originally said this and I imitated her wording...

Also, personally I think it has a massive effect because of a little thing called financial stability and security.

In what way?!? So those living in long term rented or social housing can’t plan to have children then?

Being married is a sign of being in a long term, committed relationship, not your method of obtaining housing!

First baby, miscarried at 7 weeks. Married for a year, 33. I thought I should see the GP to make sure it was recorded in my notes and ask advice about trying again, gap, etc. Also I was pretty upset.

She was in her late 50s, didn't bother to look up and just spat out in a clipped way "and did you want it?" I left with my dignity but had to ring DH to come and collect me because I broke down in floods of tears on the way home.

I wish I'd had the presence of mind to say, "nah, I went clubbing and got knocked up, but have a look at the notes and you'll see I got married last year, am in my 30s and came off oral contraception three months ago". Hindsight is a wonderful thing and I concluded it was probably easier at that practice to get an abortion than be referred for maternity care, which they ballsed up the next two times.

So by this logic, married couples who’re living in social housing with lifetime tenancies aren’t financially stable enough to plan children? I’d argue that the roof over their heads is far more secure; given that living in a house with a mortgage, you’re only ever 2/3 payments away from repossession!
Yes, home ownership is a smart investment of course, but unless your mortgage is paid off, it’s certainly not more ‘stable’ than a lifetime tenancy…

I remember someone I worked with announcing their very much wanted pregnancy. She was early 20s as was her husband, been together years and married for 1/2 years and one girl said “ OMG….what did your mum say??”

Like she was a teenager 😂

I can't quite decide between a half hearted we're not sure, or the milkman. 🤣

Abso bloody lutely! But sadly due to a health condition I can no longer eat them or I would be for sure.

What ????😂😂😂

I B was asked if dh and I had been “trying for twins”… 15 years later I’m still bamboozled.

Your maternity leave can be back to back jacket potatoes for lunch.

Im not sure if I'm more envious of your pregnancy or your ability to eat jacket potatoes! 🤔

I had a hr manager ask me if “it was an accident”. Yes, I tripped and fell on a penis.

Honestly.