To be disappointed with how soft play handled this man

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I reported an inappropriate sexual comment made by another parent at a soft play area yesterday.

I was climbing down from one of the raised areas with my DS and didn’t realise he was climbing up. I said a polite sorry and he replied not to worry and that if he knew his £10 entry included him getting an arse in his face he would have visited months ago. I challenged him and then reported to staff.

The staff approached me 10/15 minutes later to say they’d spoken to him and he had admitted saying that but was ‘obviously joking’ and he relayed his apologies, so they considered the matter sorted.

Personally, I think he should have been asked to leave. He made me feel extremely uncomfortable and could have gone on to say similar to other parents present.

Facesitting (if that makes sense as a word!) is a bit different to what you initially said and is a specific sexual act.

You putting your arse in his face is what happened and a specific sexual act.

Oh yes! Do they flirt? How?!

Get a sense of humour FFS.

They do enjoy our discomfort…just “banter,” eh? 🙄

Is it just me that finds the ‘cool girl’ insult misogynistic? As if there is a pre approved response that respectable women should give and those of of us that don’t conform are somehow lacking in morals?

Wow not everything needs to be reportable. You may be happier if you see the amusement in some things in life

Facesitting?

that would be an entirely different comment, and I think would receive an entirely different response on here.

Don’t be so ridiculous

I think he just said it without thinking as a joke, it’s not exactly sexual harassment… There are real predators out there we should be worried about

Totally. It's akin to "coconut"

Referring to paying £10 to have a woman’s arse in his face alludes to, well…paying a stripper? Who else gets paid to put her arse in a man’s face? I don’t want random men in soft play comparing me to strippers.

@SpottyPyjamaprobably yes. If he was offended by her accidentally getting her bum in his face he should have said something. A complaint is definitely more normal than talking about paying for her arse on his face. Fucking gross. But it would have been even better if he’d just said ‘watch out’ ‘excuse me’ or literally anything other than joke about paying to have her arsehole on his face.

It’s like a parallel universe here sometimes. what is going on with this thread? The tradwife handmaiden Tatelicking ‘boys will be boys’ bots are clearly out in force. OP you are not wrong. I’m guessing he could see you a lot easier than you could see him and it’s far easier for him to get out of the way than someone coming down. Why does any of this situation need a comment about an arse from him? But no, no just smile and present your bottom for the manly man to comment freely upon while at soft play 🙄

Um I'm not sure how sheltered you are but getting a faceful of arse is very definitely a sexual act. I can tell you the search terms if you want to look it up.

You put your bum in his face he made a joke, you made a fuss, everyone eye rolled.

Sorry op, that made me laugh. And no, I'm not a reform supporter, a mysoginist or a tatelicking bot. 🤷

Totally. It’s also entirely predictable. It’s diminishing - you disagree with me, I can’t be wrong, you must be a cool girl 🙄

Well, you spoke to the staff, who spoke to him and he apologised and asked the staff to convey that to you.

I think it was dealt with okay tbh. Good for you for reporting the comment and good for the staff for address it with him.

If he's a halfway decent bloke, he'll be a lot more cautious with his 'jokes' in future.

But she did put her arse in his face. He was factually correct.

Had he said something like “had I known my £10 entry included someone sitting on my face, I’d have visited sooner” then I’d agree with you. The OP seems to have added a reference to “facesitting” in a later comment. If that’s what he said (not just what she inferred) then I think it makes a difference.

Oh for goodness sake. Once again MN makes me wonder how some people function in normal life. It was a slightly awkward social interaction which he approached with humour.

I don't think it's funny either, but they listened to your complaint and spoke to him. I think that's reasonable.

If getting an arse in the face is apparently not sexual at all then why was he saying he would have come sooner? What's there to enjoy about it if it's not sexual? It's very, very clearly a sexual comment and honestly all the women in here suggesting it's any different to face sitting have obviously just never heard of rimming.

If i was that bloke and you complained about me I'd be complaining about you for not looking where you where going and sticking your arse in my face

I'd find that gross and inappropriate to say in a place full of children. However, I doubt I would have done anything other than avoid speaking to him again.

I would have laughed. 😂

I dunno, a stranger I might react differently but if a man I was pals with said such a thing I'd probably tell him he's need to pay extra for private performance.