To be disappointed with how soft play handled this man

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I reported an inappropriate sexual comment made by another parent at a soft play area yesterday.

I was climbing down from one of the raised areas with my DS and didn’t realise he was climbing up. I said a polite sorry and he replied not to worry and that if he knew his £10 entry included him getting an arse in his face he would have visited months ago. I challenged him and then reported to staff.

The staff approached me 10/15 minutes later to say they’d spoken to him and he had admitted saying that but was ‘obviously joking’ and he relayed his apologies, so they considered the matter sorted.

Personally, I think he should have been asked to leave. He made me feel extremely uncomfortable and could have gone on to say similar to other parents present.

I mean I would of laughed at that sorry 😂

It was just a joke, he apologised, move on!

Honestly, thats the kind of comment I might have made. A warning by staff yes but no I don't think they should have asked him to leave. Did you tell him yourself you thought it was inappropriate?

Yes that would have made me laugh I’m afraid 😆

You’ll get a pile on saying this was a joke and to get over it, but I’d agree he should have been told to leave. We need to come down hard on all these comments by men every single time.
When my kids were toddlers, I was in a cafe and knelt down to tie it oldest son’s shoelace when a man at the next table open his legs a bit and said, “while you’re down there love” with a guffaw. I had a very loud reply, and they were asked to leave but only because I made a fuss and that cafe replied on mums with toddlers to earn it’s money.
It’s just men treating women as objects. It should be dealt with every time.

I would have found that funny, I don’t think he should have been kicked out for it.

@SnappyQuoter thats a completely different type of comment imo

Surely it would have been worse if he was furious and said 'urgh! Get your arse out of my face. It's disgusting and I'm going to make a complaint against you about it!' it was an awkward situation and he tried to make a joke. It's fair for you to have challenged him and even spoken to staff but I don't think he needed to be kicked out.

Sorry, I found this funny too but I would have been a bit embarrassed if it were me. But it's still funny.

Mind you I've accidentally grabbed a man's junk putting something in the bin soooo.

That’s a different situation. And in OPs situation plenty of women would have found that funny, not everything needs a big overreaction.

Yes he was joking but how could he have possibly thought that was funny/appropriate in that setting? It's good that you challenged him & I'm glad the staff at least spoke to him. I would bet he feels incredibly stupid even if he wouldn't admit it. With any luck he won't do it again. What an absolute thick twat.

That's pretty funny and not really that offensive. Fair enough he has somewhat objectified women but it's hardly crime of the year.

Shame you didnt have a big fart brewing 😅

Well that is entirely different isn't it

I find it odd the staff's reaction seems to be "Oh he didn't actually mean that he thought getting your arse in his face was part of the entry! So that's OK! It was just a joke!" I mean of course it was a joke, you knew that, he knew that, it doesn't make it acceptable.

Tbf you’re the one who shoved your arse in his face….

As a woman I found it funny. Lighten up

I think it was handled ok. He was warned, the staff didn’t ignore the situation, his card was marked. It wasn’t great behaviour but not the worst. Nothing like @SnappyQuoter experience. Gross.

That's a totally different type of comment. It's implying a specific sexual act the man in OPs example made a generic comment about arse.

It's not funny. It was inappropriate. He should have been asked to leave. It's seems like men's worsening sexualised behaviour is just increasingly excused, especially by Reform supporters.

He made me feel extremely uncomfortable and could have gone on to say similar to other parents present.

Presumably only if they had also put their arse in his face?

I wold have either chuckled or eye rolled, depending on how much sleep I'd had and not given it a second thought. So kicking this guy out would have been a massive reaction IMO.

So would I!

Get a grip, it was a joke and not an overly sexual one either.

I’d find that funny. If I were feeling particularly miserable, grumpy and uptight I might think’twat’ but it was a non issue. You went to a public place, expect to deal with the public. It is quite pathetic that you feel you needed a member of soft play staff to interfere because you felt ‘uncomfortable’ at some harmless words. You should probably stay in in future.

Oh for god sake give it over ! I would have laughed at this obvious joke. I thought this was going to be about some creepy man talking to kids. Why are people so bloody precious these days .