To be disappointed with how soft play handled this man

[Playcomment]

I reported an inappropriate sexual comment made by another parent at a soft play area yesterday.

I was climbing down from one of the raised areas with my DS and didn’t realise he was climbing up. I said a polite sorry and he replied not to worry and that if he knew his £10 entry included him getting an arse in his face he would have visited months ago. I challenged him and then reported to staff.

The staff approached me 10/15 minutes later to say they’d spoken to him and he had admitted saying that but was ‘obviously joking’ and he relayed his apologies, so they considered the matter sorted.

Personally, I think he should have been asked to leave. He made me feel extremely uncomfortable and could have gone on to say similar to other parents present.

Get a grip

I'm a large lady and would have laughed and said, 'Well you certainly got your money's worth!'

Christ, OP.

We are going to end up so tight lipped and stiff, life will be very boring.

I think the fact that he was challenged for his inappropriate comment was probably enough in this situation, the staff spoke to him and he apologised. The "only joking" comment is typical for this kind of person and those who think it's no problem, so it's disappointing but not unexpected. Asking him to leave is probably too much for a one off comment like this. If he was a repeat offender then yes.

Me too, in fact I laughed whilst reading it, I would take it as harmless , but he apologised , what more do you want OP?

If you shoved your arse in his face, he made a joke of it. He could have got all huffy and embarrassed you, but decided to lighten the moment.

It would have been nice if you could have accepted that with a good grace, rather than making something out of very, very little.

If he had been trying to be inappropriate more fool you for giving him the satisfaction of reacting.

I’m sorry OP. I feel for you. No sense of humour at all. Uptight. Wanting the power of having a man removed from soft play. I hope you get better soon.

Agreed. I don't understand how you were made to feel extremely uncomfortable. It was clearly a jokey comment and the vast majority of people would have thought it was an amusing thing to say making light of an awkward situation.

Mountain and molehill!

FGS OP lighten up and be more careful where you put arse in future!

I hope he’s recovered from the shock of having that happen at soft play!

OP it's not funny or appropriate. I'm with you.

All the cool girls on this thread are unbelievable.

😂😂😂

How did he respond when you challenged him?

I have to know more 😂How does one accidently grab someones balls when putting out the trash?

I would have also been really unhappy to hear a comment like that in a soft play (or anywhere really). I'm a bit surprised so many posters are telling you that you are being ridiculous.

It's obviously not OK for a man to say something like that to a woman.

I'm glad he was challenged, but the fact he said he was 'obviously joking' means he didn't really take it seriously. It was basically a 'cheer up love' sort of response.

Fact is, it's an inappropriate comment, especially at a soft play, he made you feel uncomfortable and vulnerable, and sexualised you.

And a woman would not have said that to a man, or another woman.

I'm interested in how he responded to you when you challenged him?

He shouldn’t have said it, however I would have laughed because it was pretty funny…. I imagine if it had been a blokes arse coming towards him, he would have said something like ‘I hope that’s not loaded’ or some equally crass/fart joke because I am the only female in my house and some of the jokes that get bandied around, to a more sensible person would probably get the same reaction as yours.
I think I would have retorted that £10 was cheap and that he was lucky to get a discount or something similar rather than report him.
He made you uncomfortable so you did what you thought was right, he admitted his comment and apologised. I don’t think they should have made him leave, and hopefully he’ll be more mindful going forwards.

Because attention was drawn to her arse in a sexual way? i.e. the idea of paying for it in his face?

Can you see how that coming from a random man might possibly make a woman feel a bit uncomfortable?

And a woman would not have said that to a man, or another woman.

I'm pretty sure most people would have made a similar sort of comment in that situation. It's pretty normal to make comments to ease the tension when you find yourself in uncomfortable situations.

Men are disgusting and I’ve had some awful things said to me, but I wouldn’t have been bothered by this comment.

It wasn’t made personal to you in anyway, he didn’t comment on you physically, or make suggestions about you. It was a comical, indirect suggestion that he quite likes an arse in the face 😂😂

I don’t personally see the offence. But the soft play did discuss it with him, you received an apology and you should move on.

That cheeky banter where I’m from, not sexual harassment. You didn’t like it, he apologised. I think that’s fair.

Dismissing the fact that 92% of people disagree with you by calling them all 'cool girls' is the thing that's unbelievable.

Sorry that's hilarious!! Think he handled it very well given you'd just shoved your arse in face... I mean HE could have been offended by that!

The self checkout had a problem in Mini Tesco and the guy helped me by bringing two melons over. I said "nice pair" would you ban me too??

I don't think many women would have made a joke implying that they found it a nice experience to come close up with a stranger's arse and would have paid for it.

I don't think you should go there again @Playcomment , it obviously attracts a certain type.

I would have too.