To be disappointed with how soft play handled this man

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I reported an inappropriate sexual comment made by another parent at a soft play area yesterday.

I was climbing down from one of the raised areas with my DS and didn’t realise he was climbing up. I said a polite sorry and he replied not to worry and that if he knew his £10 entry included him getting an arse in his face he would have visited months ago. I challenged him and then reported to staff.

The staff approached me 10/15 minutes later to say they’d spoken to him and he had admitted saying that but was ‘obviously joking’ and he relayed his apologies, so they considered the matter sorted.

Personally, I think he should have been asked to leave. He made me feel extremely uncomfortable and could have gone on to say similar to other parents present.

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A cheery joke on a miserable day.

If have probably said you should at least buy me a drink first or something similar but the op would probably have found that uncomfortable too.

It really is a mountain out of a mole hill.

Of course the poor man was only joking, they always are! We should all lighten up (just like we used to in the 1950's) and accept it for the totally innocent, non demeaning and hilarious male banter that it is. Nothing wrong with that is there.

Harsh to get him to leave - his kid/s would have suffered .

Think you're being a bit OTT. He was challenged by staff , so hopefully he won't repeat in future !

If his kids suffered, that would have been his fault.

I would have found this funny, it's just banter!
It's no wonder people are scared to speak these days for fear of offending people

Do you think the children at soft play would’ve heard or understood?

We all have levels of acceptability. I do think he meant it as a joke but yeah, not all that funny.
Don't think could ask him to leave over one comment though and he apologised.

Imagine if you had sat on his face, he could have had you removed for assaulting him.

This is a generational thing isn't it. What would have been an acceptable joke 20 years ago is now unacceptable and offensive.

Well, this thread has given me some laughs! "Be careful where you put your arse in future" is my fave 🤣🤣🤣

I also want to know about the junk near the bin scenario??

Me too

It is NOT FUNNY. It’s inappropriate and disrespectful. Glad you told him. And he was challenged.

I agree - nothing more to do or say.

I would have laughed! Not reported him!

It seems you are in the minority…I’ll have to accept that making a facesitting comment in front of kids is perfectly normal next time I go 🙄

That is NOTHING like the comment in the OP.

Jeez. I’m usually of the opinion the man is in the wrong and give the woman the benefit of the doubt, but fuck me you’ve made that impossible this time.

It was a joke to break the ice in an awkward situation. I would have laughed then probably sat chatting with him whilst the kids played.

That’s different (but very gross). Your example is up there with the “it ain’t going to suck itself” t-shirt, just horrible and unnecessary.

in the OPs example, I feel like the guy was making a situation less awkward by making it silly and a joke.

If the kids understood it, if they even heard it, maybe you’d have a slight point. But I doubt they even heard. If they understood it there’s a FAR bigger problem.

Count me among the puerile and immature folk on here.

It could have been avoided if OP had looked where she was going. Don’t most of us teach children to look beneath them if they’re about to climb down anything, or go down a slide or fireman’s pole at soft play?

I think at the most I would say it was an awkward situation with an even more awkward joke. Would fly over the heads of kids young enough to need assistance in soft play at least.

Personally, I would have found it amusing. But can understand why someone might not. But I also think it was at worst a misjudged comment and not really worth the hassle.

I must admit that I’m very curious as to what the humour is for the generations that are so po faced. What do they actually laugh at, is it just memes of cats?

It is not acceptable or funny in the slightest, MN come on!

If you were swimming and a man said something about your posterior or chest - would you laugh?!

He should have been banned.