To be disappointed with how soft play handled this man

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I reported an inappropriate sexual comment made by another parent at a soft play area yesterday.

I was climbing down from one of the raised areas with my DS and didn’t realise he was climbing up. I said a polite sorry and he replied not to worry and that if he knew his £10 entry included him getting an arse in his face he would have visited months ago. I challenged him and then reported to staff.

The staff approached me 10/15 minutes later to say they’d spoken to him and he had admitted saying that but was ‘obviously joking’ and he relayed his apologies, so they considered the matter sorted.

Personally, I think he should have been asked to leave. He made me feel extremely uncomfortable and could have gone on to say similar to other parents present.

Soft play isn’t somewhere where people make sexual comments, then take them home to fuck.

Obviously 😅 please read the comment I was responding to!

Stupid comment. You reported it. He apologised. Nothing happened.

Your last four words are inaccurate and ridiculous.

In OP’s example she was neither looking for a chat up line or a flirty conversation with this man so he shouidn’t have made the comment. He didn’t check the lie of the land

We shouldn’t have to listen to comments and then get an apology if we don’t like them, the preferred option is not to hear them in the first instance until we give the green light for flirty conversation

It wasn't a chat up line or a flirty conversation. It was a clumsy comment from someone who was probably embarrassed. OP made the situation more embarrassing imo but regardless he apologised. Expecting him to be chucked out of the soft play is ridiculous especially as his children did nothing wrong.

@Pikachu150 I suppose it is just a shame that the first thing he could think of to say was a sexual comment. He should have apologised before being asked to

It is a shame he made the comment and didn't apologise. Also a shame that OP made a big deal out of it and actually expected the soft play to throw him out.

In another universe he reported you thinking you did it deliberately and you got thrown out. How you feeling?

face sitting comment - did he really? That's not what you said originally - if he said he wanted you to sit on his face you would have got a very different response

FFS it was a joke. If you’re that easily offended maybe you should stay home and keep your blinds closed.

How some people manage to get through life at all is beyond me.

Actually, OP did not confront him. She went whining to the staff and had them handle it. The adult thing to do, if she really was offended, is to tell him, face to face, "hey, that's rude." Or "I don't think that's funny". Or just a dirty look. And let's consider the possibility that he was embarrassed & surprised by having your arse in his face & tried to ease the situation by making a joke, even if you think it was in poor taste.

Sometimes people say stupid things in embarrassing situations.

An apology is enough. The OP literally stuck her arse in his face, on another thread people would be insisting she should have been chucked out for doing that.

I guess we don't expect risque jokes these days. It WAS cheeky and a bit off but frankly I am sick of cancel culture.

Apparently she did "challenge" him and that would have been okay but expecting the staff to get involved and even throw him out was ridiculous.

Yikes! The amount of justification for such a sexist and inappropriate comment gives my pause. But also...I would consider this sorted. What are they supposed to do? Leave shunning for the church. You are both adults. If he saw you again, it probably was just more embarrassment for him. What a cretin.

Cretin???

What a highly offensive term!

Did he use the word facesitting? That would be different. The words in your original post are not overtly sexual or offensive. I wouldn’t even have reported it tbh

He sounds like an ill mannered idiot

@Sunshine231 what do you think he meant by his comment?

I think he meant this is a bit awkward a woman has just put her rear end in my face. I’m a bit embarrassed so I’ll say something silly to lighten the mood. I have pretty low self esteem and I also tend to visit softplay looking like a slightly insane homeless person, so I must admit that thinking he meant he wanted me in a sexual way would probably be the last thing to cross my mind 🤷‍♀️

😂😂😂

Absolutely agree with this.

I wouldn’t have taken the comment in a sexual manner in any way. In fact it could just have easily been said to a man. It was a humorous attempt at lightening a somewhat awkward moment.

It’s really quite depressing that every single comment like this is picked over to the point where the OP feels he should have been ejected from the soft play. Why not go the whole hog and put him on the sexual offenders register?! I mean, seriously OP, you need to save your energy for calling out actual real misogyny, not a bloody non-sexual off the cuff remark. You are going to be deeply and frequently offended in life.

Talking about someone putting their arse in your face is COMPLETELY different to ‘face sitting’. My children stick their arses by each other’s faces and fart. THAT’s the sort of image that cropped up in my head when I heard the ‘arse in face’ comment. It was a completely tongue-in-cheek non-sexual comment. And I have to say, being in a soft play it’s probably far more likely that it was crude rather than sexual humour. Soft plays have to be the most soulless, unerotic places going. He was the one that was uncomfortable and tried to laugh it off. You were the one who decided to make it into a sexually inappropriate comment.

i have made comments like that to my female friends and in no way am I indirectly alluding to ‘face sitting’!!