To be disappointed with how soft play handled this man

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I reported an inappropriate sexual comment made by another parent at a soft play area yesterday.

I was climbing down from one of the raised areas with my DS and didn’t realise he was climbing up. I said a polite sorry and he replied not to worry and that if he knew his £10 entry included him getting an arse in his face he would have visited months ago. I challenged him and then reported to staff.

The staff approached me 10/15 minutes later to say they’d spoken to him and he had admitted saying that but was ‘obviously joking’ and he relayed his apologies, so they considered the matter sorted.

Personally, I think he should have been asked to leave. He made me feel extremely uncomfortable and could have gone on to say similar to other parents present.

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I can't make any promises 🤣

She wasn’t expected to be complimented or pleased - he used humour to diffuse an embarrassing situation. Just a shame he picked someone with no sense of humour.
i was rushing at work the other day and ran straight into a bloke from another department. I got a fright and said “fuck Greg) as he was lurking. He then replied ‘best offer I’ve had all day’. Cue a lot of awkwardness and blushing and apologising from him and me and we went our separate ways. I feel no need to go to HR or make a deal of it as it wasn’t creepy or threatening. It was a tip of the tongue comment. In fact I’d forgotten about it until I read this thread

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If they turn out anything like their father, they'll be very well-read feminists 🤷🏼‍♀️

With a great sense of humour.

I would have found this quite funny.

What I find quite concerning, is not that other women found this comment funny, but some posters on here are telling OP she is wrong for not finding it funny and that she obviously doesn't have a sense of humour. Isn't that the bullshit women have had to put up with from men for years, telling us the reason we don't find their sexualised banter funny is our fault because we don't have a sense of humour. Yes this comment may be at the lower end of the scale but OP didn't appreciate it, and it was sexual in nature.

But some people have commended her for reporting it. It is asking for him to be removed from the venue that seems OTT.

What I find very concerning is the women on here calling out women with different view as dick pleasers! Revolting!

defo being unreasonable, it’s just a joke to cover an awkard situation! What a horrible scene that would have been to kick him out, presumably his child would have to go with him. What would kicking him out achieved?

Pull your self together! How ridiculous, what a huge overreaction

Sorry but you have overreacted. This was just jokey and diffusing embarrassment. It’s really sad that nobody is allowed a sense of humour any more.

It's unsavoury sure. But you were the one who made him uncomfortable first. You didn't mean to? Neither did he.

And then yo say the people on facebook agreed with you haha, of course they did that's what facebook is for isnt it? People who can't manage their big feelings and need external validation?

Grow up.

Hypothetical question: there is a workplace event involving coming up/going down a ladder, eg, a team building event or a site visit to a power plant, etc. The female Head of HR or the female CEO is going down the ladder. Unbeknownst to her, a male colleague is coming up the ladder at the same time. He says that if he knew this visit included him getting an arse in his face, he would have visited months ago. Is the reaction:
a) stern from HR.
b) laughed off as a harmless joke, and if the CEO is not happy about that, she’s told to lighten up.

@Neverwatchedgameofthrones OP’s action was accidental, the man had control over what words came out of his mouth

Sorry but you are being completely unreasonable and over sensitive. There are many women who have ACTUALLY been SA’d or worse and you’re moaning about some silly comment someone happened to say as a joke? Probably as a result of embarrassment and trying to break any possible tension? Honestly, get over yourself 🙄

It sounds like you would have complained about him if he had have struck his ass in your face. He couldn't win. But basically you stuck your ass in his face. He was nice about it. You want him to be in trouble.

Of course it's not ok to say it at work. It's also not ok to say it to your grandmother or the King, in anticipation of any further hypothetical questions.

Oh dear 😳

What is your point? This didn't occur in a workplace and the man wasn't OPs boss or employee.

If it isn’t okay to say it at work it shouldn’t be okay to say to a woman you don’t know at soft play. That should be the litmus test, not okay to say at work not okay to say it elsewhere

Interestingly there is another thread going on where a man has said something crass to another man who he doesn’t know, which most posters say is bad. Yet on this thread most posters think it is okay for a man to say something crass to a woman. he doesn’t know

There are lots of things that I would say outside of the office that are not ok in the office.

Why should that be the litmus test?

Lots of things are discussed and said outside the office, that would t be discussed inside. Many more debates and opinions are shared.

Again, your opinion is that, an opinion, 92% disagree.

Correct! Which is why he tried to lighten the moment, rather than make her feel awkward.

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