AIBU to wear a white print dress to my brother’s wedding & dressing my DD in white too?

[brillfrill]

I plan to wear a white dress with a nature print on it for my brother’s wedding in August. Picked it out with DM, she thinks it’s definitely fine. The thing is my toddler DD will also be wearing a white. Do you think anyone would take offence? I’ve added a picture of a similar dress on this thread because I don’t want the actual one on here if I wear it.

Wondering what you think?

If you think bright orange looks like white, you need a trip to an optician.

Both these dresses would be perfect for any wedding here in Ireland - Irish weddings tend to be very dressy, even more so if it was a family wedding

Of course the invite doesn’t need to say no
white for guests to not wear white. It’s basic etiquette.

Just as people where dark colours to a funeral, unless told otherwise, everyone knows you do not wear white to a wedding.

It’s not bridal but you still shouldn’t wear it. That base colour will stand out a mile in photos.

Also, you dressing your daughter in white makes it sound like you’re trying to edge her in as a flower girl.

There’s loads of colours you could wear so don’t wear white/cream.

The first one is awful but the second one is lovely.

I think that is too long for a daytime wedding actually.

Yours will be fine OP in terms of colour I think: it's a bold print not a white/cream dress, and it isn't a typical bridal length.

I would strongly suggest you don't put your DD in white: it will look like you felt she ought to have been a flower girl and are just going ahead with your plan regardless.

There are lots and lots of pretty dresses and endless choices for little girls: treat her to something new.

It’s definitely not suitable for a formal wear dress code, it’s very casual and not that nice. Sorry.

@brillfrill i liked mini Mayoral for dd when she was wee this blue one is pretty and there are flouncy dresses too if she’d like that!

You might. If I saw someone in the dress OP posted I would assume they were on the way to an event or a celebration of some kind.

It’s very frumpy and plain op. Surely as the sister you would want to wear something nicer? Almost every online store has an occasion category. Have you looked on there?

100% agree.
Unless it's some kind of society wedding where the photos are ending up in the gossip columns, 'glamour' is OTT. The colour way and style are fine for ordinary mortals.

I would not put a small girl in a white dress though, as that screams that you think she should have been a flower girl and are pissed off that she isn't.

I love their clothing too and they do gorgeous dresses. I think this one is very nice for a wedding

Do not wear white or put your dd in white you two are not the bride and flower girl. This is what my future sil plans to do at our future wedding to make it all about her.

if it says pastels wear pastels. What’s wrong with a light blue or lilac dress for both of you. Or green. A pastel trouser suit would be great.

In truth most posters are saying it is quite informal - which is hardly attention-seeking.

I think sometimes people push the no white thing by arguing it has a bit of a pattern, but that one is genuinely a bold pattern and the fact the dress itself is on the informal/non-bridal side actually helps it pass muster imo.

The fabric can completely change how formal the dress looks.

I think the OPs dress looks more formal as its a lighter material, whereas thr maxi dresses posted look luje beach wear due to them looking like a jersey type fabric.

The dress for your DD doesn’t have to be red or pink. There are plenty of gorgeous dresses out there for children in other colours.
Try next, Boden, Zara, Monsoon.
A pretty floral traditional dress would be perfect

But the op hasn’t posted the actual dress she is wearing and says her dress doesn’t have flowers on it.

Any colour at all, except white.

It's a lovely dress and not remotely bridal - perfect!!

I had a knee length white dress with huge blue print all over it for a friends wedding last year and got umpteen comments from friends saying it was inappropriate...bride said it was gorgeous. People are busybodies!! As PP said - the 'no white' is to stop people confusing you with the bride!

There are thousands of dress for your daughter. This would be fine and it’s half price

https://www.monsoon.co.uk/agnes-floral-print-ruffle-tier-dress-multi-55801090020.html

@brillfrill If the invitation said formal, your dress doesn’t meet that. I posted you 5 from John Lewis that you can make info a formal day look. It’s easy of you go with a strong block colour and add accessories. Don’t wear a work dress or pub lunch dress. Choose a floral dress for DD. Wedding dressing isn’t difficult if you look for an occasion dress. Loads of stores have them. Also look for style of dress and better design and fabrics. Midi is better.

I think she said the boldness/ratio of pattern to white was similar though?

Though I guess if it is pale pink on cream or cream on white it may alter things ....

And if she doesn’t like it there’s this

https://www.monsoon.co.uk/puff-sleeve-floral-mesh-dress-blue-55100940007.html

its very easy to pick something up for your daughter from most places costing hardly anything.

the fabric is a bit like chiffon

And in all honesty OP suggesting pastels is really code for don't wear white.

They have just tried to phrase it in the positive not as a prohibition!

ETA if your dress really is as informal and has as bright and bold a colour contrast in the same ratios, I think it probably is ok. But I'm now starting to wonder why you have not posted the actual dress ...